Stress is not just an adult problem. By teaching your children healthy ways to cope with stress at a young age, you can help them develop healthy habits that will help them become happier adults...
When it comes to stress relief, many of us think about the things that bother us as adults: bills, transportation, work issues, family life and more. But stress is not just for adults, and many children, even younger ones, suffer from problems with stress, too. By teaching your children healthy ways to cope with stress at a young age, you can help them develop healthy habits that will help them become happier adults.
Stress in Kids?
Many children become stressed due to a troubled home life. Problems like divorce, a long-distance move, serious illness, abuse and more all cause significant amounts of stress in a child’s life. But there are less traumatic events, like peer pressure and teasing, that can also cause a child to feel stressed out.
Unlike the past, families are not as connected as they once were, and children may lack the support systems needed to help them cope. It is up to parents to teach their children about stress and a healthy way to handle it. There are several activities that you can try with kids as young as three.
Another common reason for stress in kids is taking on too many activities. My childhood seems a lot simplier than my sons. Todays kids have a lot going on in comparison. School, karate, soccer, swimming amongst other things. Its good to keep kids busy and involved, but at the same time they need their downtime too to recharge, or else they may feel overwhelmed and the result can be behaviorial issues.
Here are a few tips to help your kids de-stress.
The Breathing Room
Whenever a child is angry, we can create a safe space for children to go and relax. Though traditionally this is a separate room, people may not have the space and can just create a cozy corner and cordon it off with a screen or other partition.
The breathing room is a safe place. All that’s needed are a few cushions on the floor, and a large bell. Someone rings the bell, and whoever is in the room silently sits and begins breathing. This can go on five minutes to an hour, though younger children may have a hard time sitting still for that long. Encourage your children whenever they are emotional to go into the breathing room and spend a couple of minutes getting quiet. This may seem impossible, but with time and practice with the entire family, you will be amazed at the results.
Stiff Legs
By teaching children how to stiffen their muscles, they can learn how to relax them as well. Have your children pretend they are little wooden toys and walk around the room. Them have them sit down comfortably and relieve the pressure. By learning to relax their muscles, they will learn to relax the body. Have them go through limb by limb, tightening and then relaxing each muscle.
No matter what the problem, make a routine with your children. When they are upset, have them go to the breathing room and get quiet before explaining what is going on. Teach your kids how to communicate without getting so anxious they can’t even speak. No matter what you do, you are well on your way to making things better for your kids. Stress relief techniques started young will become especially beneficial as your kids grow into healthy, balanced adults. These techniques can be especially helpful when a child is transitioning into adulthood, as the changes going on inside and out can be too overwhelming to handle without some form of positive stress relief.
What are the most common causes of stress in children?
The sources range from the serious to the everyday. Major life disruptions like divorce, a family move, or serious illness cause significant stress. But so do more ordinary pressures: peer conflict, teasing, academic expectations, and overpacked schedules. The key distinction is that stress in children doesn’t always look like adult stress — it might appear as physical complaints, behavioral changes, sleep trouble, or unusual clinginess rather than a direct statement of ‘I’m stressed.’
How can I tell if my child is suffering from stress?
Watch for changes from their baseline — withdrawal, irritability, trouble sleeping, physical complaints (stomachaches and headaches are common), or a sudden drop in interest in things they usually enjoy. Children often can’t name what they’re feeling as stress, so the signals come out in behavior. If several of these appear together and persist, it’s worth a calm, low-pressure conversation about what’s been going on.
What are healthy ways to help my child manage stress?
Physical activity is one of the most effective — moving the body helps discharge stress for children just as it does for adults. Creative outlets like drawing, music, or imaginative play also help children process big feelings. Building in quiet time, keeping routines predictable, and making sure they have enough sleep all reduce the baseline stress load. And making it easy for your child to talk to you — without immediately problem-solving — gives them a release valve.
When should I start teaching my child stress relief techniques?
You can start earlier than most parents think. Simple techniques like deep breathing, body awareness, and naming feelings are accessible to preschool-age children when introduced in playful, low-stakes contexts — not in the middle of a meltdown, but during calm everyday moments. Children who learn these tools young carry them into adolescence and adulthood, when they’ll face much bigger stressors.
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