I just read an article on developing helpful children. This is a very good article to read. As parents of young children we often wonder how our children are going to be in the teen years where parenting can be much more of a challenge. Some tips recommended in the article is to start children out young with chores and priase them. Also it is not recommended to tie chores to money as it is not a good idea to associate withholding of money to punishment.
As a parent of a 4 year old this article provided some great ideas.
For teens it is recommended to increase the amount of work around the house in order to provide the skills and self-sufficiancy they will need when they move out. It is important to have relevant consequences if the child does not do their choirs. A quote from the article: "Carleton Kendrick, a family therapist and author of "Take Out Your Nose Ring, Honey, We’re Going to Grandma’s," said the consequences of not pulling one’s weight in the family should be determined by the teen’s attitude and should be specific to the chore". The example given was if the child’s choir is to wash the family car and he does not, a priviledge relating to the car is taken away, such as not going to grandmas.
However, its a process that must be started early by developing these skills as early as possible. It is a point that I am taking to heart.
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