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Competitive environments force us to be cut-throat – High levels of competition in society are not limited to only the workplace but have percolated down to academics and childrens sports. Even young toddlers are not spared by this bogeyman of vying for the best position in class or the maximum attention of the teacher.
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Violence in the media and environment – Our children today are more exposed to violence due to television programs and video games. This in turn tends to increase violence in children themselves. A review done by NCTV in 1990 found that 75% of the studies that were done on the effect of video games on normal children reported that video games had harmful effects. Psychologists Craig A. Anderson, Ph. D., and Karen E. Dill, Ph. D. have said “…the study reveals that even a brief exposure to violent video games can temporarily increase aggressive behavior in all types of participants” [1].
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Start at the very beginning – Ensure that you express and show a lot of love and affection towards your child when he is a baby. They can feel the vibes and become soothed or agitated by their bonding with their parent. Alice Sterling Honig, a professor of child development in Syracuse University says “Without that attachment, babies will later have difficulty showing love and affection. The early months of infancy are crucial. When you have a relationship that’s loving and secure with an adult, then you are probably going to be able to give to others in life the way you were given to.” [2]
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Communicate about the benefits of compassion – talking to your kids about how compassion can help them be better people will also help. Your children need to understand how being compassionate can help them contribute to the society that they live in and make their life more meaningful and worthy. It also communicates that you believe and practice compassion as a family. The child then tries to model these virtues since he believes that he is part of the family and wants to be like other family members.
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Be a role model – The first thing that you need to know if you want to teach compassion is that a child’s strongest example is when you exhibit compassion yourself. Compassionate acts truly do speak louder than words.
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Volunteer service as a family – The act of giving up certain things to others and helping others can provide a great sense of achievement and fulfillment to an individual. You could plan trips to an orphanage and have your children give away some of their toys and clothes to other children. A family tradition of community service, setting aside of a certain amount every year for each member of the family to give away as charity, and praying together are among some of the family routines that go a long way in nurturing compassion so that it becomes an essential feature in the mindset of children.
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Use the aid of stories, folklore and mythology – Folklore, and mythology are mostly associated with positive values and the theme almost always provides useful lessons in moral and ethical values. Children who are constantly exposed to reading and discussions on such stories are prone to be more compassionate than those who listen only to the violent fare shelled out through the electronic medium.
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Talk about real life famous heroes – Stories of famous compassionate people help in developing high moral values in children and adults alike. Choose people like the Dalai Lama, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther King who are renowned for their compassion and moral attitudes. Reading sessions in the family of their life histories and events can also be instrumental in teaching the importance of being kind, caring, and empathic.
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What is compassion, and how is it different from pity?
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Compassion is the desire to ease the suffering of others, where a compassionate person considers another’s suffering as if it were their own. It’s more than pity, and it’s also different from altruism, which is simply the action of helping. True compassion combines three things: genuinely feeling for someone, sharing in their suffering, and then taking a positive step to reduce it. That blend of heart and action is what we hope to nurture in our children.
How can I teach my child to be compassionate?
It starts at the very beginning, with plenty of love and affection in infancy, since a secure, loving bond helps a child later give to others the way they were given to. Beyond that, be a role model, because compassionate acts truly do speak louder than words. Talk with your kids about how compassion makes life more meaningful, volunteer together as a family, use stories and folklore that carry moral lessons, and share the life stories of compassionate heroes like Gandhi, Martin Luther King, or the Dalai Lama.
Why is teaching compassion to children important today?
It feels more necessary now than ever. Competitive environments have crept beyond the workplace into academics and even children’s sports, and kids are exposed to more violence through television and video games, which can feed aggression. Deliberately teaching compassion helps balance that, making children more aware of the world around them, more tolerant of different cultures and personalities, and more sensitive and caring, which leads to better relationships as they grow into adulthood.
What family activities help nurture compassion?
Hands-on giving makes compassion real for children. You might plan a family trip to an orphanage where your kids give away some of their own toys and clothes, build a tradition of community service, or set aside a small amount each year for every family member to give to charity. Reading and discussing folklore, mythology, and the life stories of famously compassionate people together also goes a long way toward making kindness a natural part of how your children think.
Thank you for the information… some words are too “big” for people to understand, but great topic!!!
Thank You Again…
Great job.
Important AND the most powerful educator by far is the cultural context. All words and actions confirm or confuse what is being learned by osmosis.