Part of parenting is keeping our children safe and secure. Kids feel safe and secure in a predictable world. The end of a school year can often times be a time of change for young kids. My son, Jacob, who is 4 1/2 has to say goodbye to a few of his friends. That can be hard for a young child to understand and comprehend. However, everything in life is changing every day, all of the time. Change is as basic a part of our reality as night as day is. If there is one thing that you can count on in life, it is the unpredictability of change. As human beings our bodies are in a constant state of change, our minds are always evolving, and our attitudes towards life are changing every minute by what we are experiencing from everything around us.
For example, something that we may have swore to a few years ago may now be almost impossible for us to imagine ourselves being. When we look at old photographs we wouldn’t imagine wearing the same clothes as we did in the past as was shown on the photos. The things that we take for granted as absolutes, impervious to change, are, in fact, constantly doing just that.
So, in a changing world, the real question here is, how do we teach our children to handle this phenomenon called change, and how do we deal with it in our everyday life, and have our kids still feel safe and secure? Are we teaching your kids to resist change or are we teaching them that change is good and that change means growth? The child who grows to an adult accepting change as a way of living, that welcomes change as a healthy functioning person, is on the road to a very fulfilling life.
On the other side of the token, those children who are intimidated by change and avoids new experiences because they fear failure, will stay destined for a very unhappy life who will always have a reason not to go after their dreams. It appears that it is unhappy people who most fear change and if you are raising your children to fear change, then we are raising them to be extreme neurotics who will be unable to handle the world it its ever-changing phenomena.
So how do we as parents strive to teach our children not to fear new things? Teaching our children to welcome change involves adopting new attitudes and changed behaviors in our everyday dealings with them. Teaching our child to overcome fears of change will also involve coming to grips with yur rigid thinking and actions.
We all must also take a closer look at the risks involved in raising children to welcome rather than dreading the change. Learning to embrace change begins with examining our own attitudes and behavior towards the unknown for us as parents and our children.