Being a great grandparent is something of a balancing act. You need to be an understanding, supportive parent to your own children, as well as being supportive and loving to the grandchildren too.
As a parent to your own children, the temptation is always present to tell your kids what to do, correct them when you feel they’re wrong, and disregard or disrespect their wishes. All of these actions will only serve to annoy, irritate, and possibly alienate them from you though. And if your adult children are alienated from you, it will be next to impossible to have a relationship with your grandchildren.
Grandparenting can seem a little tricky at times though. Sometimes it may seem as if the children only know you and are polite to you, but they’re not really connecting with you on a personal level. This feeling increases as the grandchildren become teenagers too, because they tend to become more interested in spending time with their friends instead of family and adults. There are things you can do to help create excellent relationships with your grandchildren though, so lets look at some of the best grandparenting tips.
[tag-cat]Grandparenting[/tag-cat] can be fun. As a grandparent, you often get to spend time with your grand-kids doing fun and enjoyable things. Try to do this as often as possible, but make sure you’re doing things both of you enjoy. If you have a teenage grandchild who enjoys sports for instance, you could spend quality time together watching sports events on TV, or taking a day to actually go to an event together.
If you have teenage grandchildren who enjoy movies or going to the mall, and you like these activities too, then by all means try to schedule time out for the two of you to do these activities together.
When your grandchild is a baby, simply spend time with them by offering to babysit, feed or change them. Also play peek a boo, or sit down on the floor and play with them and their toys.
Children love hearing stories too, and a wonderful way to enjoy some quality grandparenting time is to read the child stories, or make up stories of your own. These can even be stories which actually include the grandchild as a primary character.
Being a great grandparent isn’t usually about asking questions. In fact, some grandchildren feel as if they’re being grilled or interviewed when all you do is ask them questions everytime you see them. Try spending quality time together instead. Often the best grand-parenting tip you can get is to simply be there for them. Enjoy going to the zoo, helping them learn and experience new things, and make fun memories for them to treasure throughout life.
By participating in the things your grandchildren enjoy, you will be able to spend quality time together and they will be thrilled each time they’re coming to see you again. You can use this time together just for togetherness, or to pass on knowledge, skills and experience too.
How do you build a closer bond with your grandchildren?
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Participate in activities they actually enjoy. If a teenage grandchild loves sports, watch a game together or go to an event. If they enjoy movies or the mall, schedule outings that suit you both. For babies, simply offer to babysit, play peek-a-boo, or sit on the floor with their toys. Being present in their world matters far more than formal family time.
Why does asking grandchildren too many questions push them away?
Grandchildren can feel grilled or interviewed when every visit is a barrage of questions. Simply sharing an experience — reading stories together, going to the zoo, or exploring something new — creates better memories and a stronger relationship than interrogation ever could.
How do you stay connected to teenage grandchildren when they prefer friends?
Meet them in their world. The article acknowledges teenagers naturally drift toward friends, but you can stay close by watching sports they love, going to events together, or sharing films and outings you both genuinely enjoy. Quality time doing things you each look forward to keeps the relationship warm.
What is the most important rule when it comes to your adult children as a grandparent?
Respect their parenting choices. The urge to correct your adult children or dismiss their wishes is always present — but it only alienates them. If your adult children feel disrespected, it becomes very difficult to maintain any relationship with the grandchildren at all.
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As a grandparent who lives far away from our grandchildren, I am always searching for ways that I can better relate to my grandchildren at their ages and not having that close personal interaction. Your site can be a help to many long-distance grandparents.