A very important goal for us as parents is to try and help our children gain self-confidence and self-worth. This not only helps our children develop mentally and emotionally, it also add the extra bonus of helping with life skills and building self-esteem in our kids. As a parent there are certain things that we can do and skills we can develop in ourselves and in our child that will help our children grow in self-confidence.
When you start to parent a child, one thing that you must remember is that you are in control of a life and what you do and say will control and change your child forever. It is a pretty humbling responsibility. Without a doubt self-confidence and self-worth are the most important emotions you can help your child learn.
It is a privilege and a huge responsibility as a parent to help a child grow in self-confidence. There are certain things you can do to help a child achieve and gain the self-confidence he or she needs in life.
Here are some basic guidelines:
- Giving compliments.
- Providing positive feedback.
- Show a child how to break down large projects, and tasks into more manageable portions.
This is positive parenting, and making things more achievable and the repetition all help to improve skills.
Praises and compliments
Praising a child when he or she has achieved a good grade or has done a chore well, completed a project or task well, can make a big difference. It will build importance and the desire to be more and to be and do better. Find ways to give compliments, even when there is not much to complement.
Life is hard and not always fair so you must help a child be prepared for the ups and downs Life will throw at them. Furthermore building self-confidence via complements will give a child courage to face people who might be better in the skills and knowledge than they are.
And a sense of being sure of their own skills and knowledge and self-worth will help them in a competitive situation. Knowing that their efforts and achievements are the best that they can do will fill them with good feelings about their self and will help them make better judgments and decisions.
Children are like a sponge
Why do I say that children are like sponges? Simply because what you say and do is absorbed into their minds. When a mistake is made or an accident occurs it is very important how you respond in voice and body language. Positive feedback, even when things or actions are negative is important. Look for something positive and uplifting to say.
Remember not to be too enthusiastic in your praise it will make your child less confident. It might help to recognize what a child is doing. For instance, I notice you are being careful in carrying the dishes to the sink. This helps a child build their own self-confidence, and they won't seek approval or praise as much. However, the child will still feel good about their self because of your positive feedback.
It is important in the development of a child’s self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem and how you respond and teach them to handle situations in life. Their life skills are formed early in life by life's experiences, emotionally and mentally. So what you do as a parent is so very important.
Sincere compliments, positive feedback, breaking down projects into smaller portions and repetition are good basic parenting skills. You as a parent need to help your child grow and learn and be self-confident. These are but a few of the necessary skills a parent needs to be able to properly help his or her child develop into an independent and well-adjusted self-confident person.