Parenting - Teach and not Preach

Parenting in Such a Way That You Teach, Not Preach

Your parenting style should be one where you teach your children, not preach to them. This is especially true when it comes to problem solving. According to child behavior specialists, kids are natural problem solvers. There are many settings where your child may interact with others and actively participate in the decision-making process. These settings transform into experiences that will assist your child in being introduced to different types of thinking, will allow them to think in a creative and logical fashion, and take an active role in allowing them to become aware of the world that they are surrounded. Life is full of teachable moments. By helping your child recognize these moments and encouraging them to solve their problems all on their own, your parenting techniques will allow them to grow into emotionally-stable, mature, responsible, and independent adults.

Why Problem Solving Skills are Important

As people, we transition from childhood into adulthood. This process is not only physical. It is a process in which each of us learns many skills and concepts. We also make numerous mistakes throughout our early years and are faced with many challenges. The mistakes and the challenges that are thrown upon us as children allow us to engage in problem solving. When we work through problems as children and teenagers, we acquire the skills that are necessary to succeed in our adult lives. While, as parents, we often want to rescue our children when they experience setbacks, it is best to allow them to work through and solve their own problems. By doing this, they will be better equipped to deal with life as it is handed to them.

Problem Solving Aids in Thought Development and Understanding

As a child develops the ability to deal with various problems, they learn to navigate through the various stages of their lives. Thought development and understanding is developed as they gain perspective. Children will start to learn how their world operates, about others, and will learn the basic mechanics to developing solid relationships. While it is advised to provide guidance, you should never preach at your child or tell them exactly how to handle the problems that they are faced with. Instead, you should simply encourage them to develop their own insights. Even if you KNOW that the way in which they are handling a problem will not work, you should allow them to proceed so that they are able to learn.

Steps for Helping a Child Solve Their Problems

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Human Peace Sign

In an act of celebration Yoko Ono Helped Organize a Giant Human Peace Sign for John Lennon's 75th Birthday

On October 9th John Lennon would have turned 75 years old. Yesterday Yoko Ono celebrated his birthday by attempting to create in New York's Central Park the Worlds Largest Peace sign.

In a world with so much bad things happening it was great to see this. It lifted my heart and the hearts of my family. The best way to combat all the negativity in this world is with 'good'. I may not see a peaceful world in my lifetime, but I hope in my children's lifetime they will. Each life we touch we can all make a difference, one person at a time.

Even the smallest acts of kindness can make the world of difference in someones life. One small act of kindness may spill over to another and another creating a ripple. Over time that ripple may turn into a tidal wave of kindness. Kids look up to us for inspiration and strength.

We are like a mirror to our kids and the kids around them. Lets provide a good reflection and show them how to fight with goodness and kindness and then one day we may reach John Lennon's and  Yoko Ono's dream of World Peace. That is my dream too and the dream I have for my children and children's children.

Human Peace Sign for John Lennon

Yoko Ono


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More4kids Celebrates National Hispanic Heritage Month

Cultural diversity is a very important topic surrounding the National Hispanic Heritage Month 2015. Culture has a direct impact on our identity and heavily influences our behaviors. It is, essentially, what shapes us as individuals and as a whole. Starting on September 15th and continuing on until October 15th, the United States recognizes the presence and contributions made by those that are classified as Hispanic and Latino Americans. The nation celebrates this culture and their rich heritage. It is essential that we, as parents and caregivers, place an emphasis on the various cultures in the United States and how they have shaped and continue to influence us, as a whole. We should ensure that our children embrace these cultures and the wide range of diversity in our nation. One of the most positive and productive ways to accomplish this task is by placing a special emphasis on National Hispanic Heritage Month 2015.

What is Cultural Diversity?

Before expounding on the facts pertaining to National Hispanic Heritage Month, we feel it is first important to outline the definition of cultural diversity. Not only will this help our children to appreciate diversity, but, it will increase our own level of appreciation when it comes to diversity. In essence, cultural diversity is a system of various beliefs and behaviors that not only recognizes the actual presence of different groups in a society, but, also respects those groups. It involves acknowledging and valuing the socio-cultural-based differences and encourages that group to continue to contribute in their own way in order to empower our society, as a whole. Therefore, in National Hispanic Heritage Month, we are teaching our children the importance of valuing the Hispanic people in our country, their contributions to our country, and we encourage them to continue to contribute to our nation so that we may become empowered, as an entire nation.

National Hispanic Heritage Month – The Basics

Throughout history, Hispanics have always held a very strong commitment to their family, their faith, their service to their communities, and hard work. Their historical traditions and the customs of their culture have not only enhanced our nation, but, have aided in shaping our national character. The celebration of this special month initiated back in the year of 1968 on September 15th. This is the day when five different Latin American countries acquired their independence. These include Nicaragua, Costa Rica, Honduras, El Salvador, and Guatemala. Since that time, other countries have established this time period as the one to celebrate their independence. The additional countries include Belize, Mexico, and Chile.

Hispanics and Latinos

It is important to understand that the classifications of “Hispanic” and “Latino” refers to those that originate from South or Central America, Puerto Rico, or another Spanish-based culture or people, without regard to a specific race. The Census forms allow Hispanic and/or Latino people to identify themselves in numerous ways. These include “Mexican”, “Mexican American”, “Spanish”, “Chicano”, “Cuban”, and/or “Puerto Rican”. According to statistics obtained by the Census Bureau, over 50 million people in the United States are Hispanic and/or Latino. This cultural group accounts for 16% of the entire population of the nation. Diversity abounds immensely among the Hispanics and the Latinos. As parents and caregivers, it is our responsibility to share stories about this level of diversity with our children so that they will understand the importance of celebrating National Hispanic Heritage Day.

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best sprout tv shows

As a parent I love the Sprout TV Network. There are several wonderful TV shows on Sprout, the first-ever 24-hour television show dedicated to programming that is appropriate for children between the ages of 2 – 6 and their parents. Currently, Sprout is available in nearly 60 million homes. This children’s network was acquired by NBC Universal Cable Entertainment in late 2013. Since that time, it has quickly grown into one of the most popular children’s television channels to ever hit the screen. Sprout has a comprehensive lineup of the best television shows currently being broadcasted for children.

The network focuses on inspiring families to explore and experience the infinite possibilities of life on a daily basis. In addition to this, it introduces important skills and concepts that are tailored to preschoolers. Currently, the best Sprout TV shows include The Sunny Side Up Show, Nina’s World, and the all-time favorite, Caillou. Recently, Sprout named the ever-popular and highly respected actress, Alyssa Milano, as their very first “Mom-Bassador”. In this comprehensive guide, you will learn about the television shows highlighted in this introduction, as well as Alyssa Milano’s new role with the Sprout Network.

The Sunny Side Up Show

The Sunny Side Up Show is a specially-designed programming block on Sprout that was first introduced in the fall of 2007. Each and every single week, new themes are introduced to the viewing audience. Examples of these themes may include certain holidays, foods, animals, and more! It starts at 9:00am Eastern Time on each day of the week. The hosts of the show, Chica, Carly, Emily, Kaitlin, and Tim sign songs, tell stories, play a variety of games, and even feature birthday cards and artwork from the viewers. Recently, Sprout’s first-ever Mom-Bassador was featured on The Sunny Side Up Show as the “President of the Big City Committee”. Not only did she capture the imagination of Chica with the explanation of how much Mac & Cheese could be found in the big city, she captured the hearts and imagination of her viewing audience, as well!

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National Grandparents Day. We Love you!!

It is National Grandparents day. They are sometimes called Grandma and Grandpa, Meemaw and Peepaw, or Nana and Grandpop, but no matter what we call them there is no question they are the greatest. Lets make sure we all tell them how much we love them. I love my mom and dad very much. They are the best grandparents our kids could have. Here are some quotes to express how much we love and care about our Grandparents:

Great Quotes about the Grandparents We Love:

Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children.
~Alex Haley

A house needs a grandma in it. ~Louisa May Alcott

Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see just you all day and now the day was complete. ~Marcy DeMaree

It is as grandmothers that our mothers come into the fullness of their grace. ~Christopher Morley

It’s such a grand thing to be a mother of a mother — that’s why the world calls her grandmother. ~Author Unknown

Few things are more delightful than grandchildren fighting over your lap. ~Doug Larson

A grandmother is a little bit parent, a little bit teacher, and a little bit best friend. ~Author Unknown

Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see just you all day and now the day was complete. ~Marcy DeMaree

Grandmas never run out of hugs or cookies. ~Author Unknown

My name is NO NO but Grandma calls me precious! ~Author Unknown

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Teen depression. Know the signs of teen suicide

If you are the parent of a child or teenager, it is imperative that you take a few moments to read this guide on youth suicide prevention. As you just read that first sentence, you were likely thinking, “My kid won’t kill themselves. It’s not usually kids that kill themselves….” You may be surprised to learn that suicide is actually the 3rd leading cause of death among youth ages 10-19 years old. That statistic, alone, indicates that suicide among kids and teens is a bit more prevalent than most of us would like to believe; however, despite its prevalence, it is preventable. Kids and teens that contemplate taking their own lives often give warning signs of the distress that they are experiencing.

As a parent, one of the biggest challenges you face is coming to terms with the fact that you do not always know or understand what your child is thinking and/or feeling. You may not believe that your child has the desire or the capability of taking their own life; however, thoughts regarding suicide are exceptionally common among kids and teens. This is why it is essential that you learn as much as possible in regard to youth suicide prevention. By knowing the signs of distress, you may avoid having to experience one of the most difficult, heartbreaking losses of all – the death of your child as a result of suicide….

Know the FACTS

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10 Tips for Positive Parenting

In today’s world, parenting is becoming an increasingly difficult task. Our ever-changing lifestyles, technological advancements, heavy financial responsibilities, and demanding schedules result in numerous challenges to parents. Balancing work, household responsibilities, finances, and children has the potential to wear on any parent. Despite the obstacles that we currently face as parents, our main priority and responsibility is our children. Parenting is the process and act of both promoting and supporting the various levels of development of a child from the time that they are born until the time that they reach adulthood; it is not simply a biological-based relationship. The various stages of development include the physiological, psychological, intellectual, social, and financial. As a parent, we must nurture and educate. In this comprehensive parenting guide, you will learn about teaching your children. You must pass on your experiences in life to ensure that your child’s life is positive and productive. Here, you will learn about the 10 things that I want to teach my child. If you are a parent, you should consider teaching your child the same.

The Foundation of Success in Teaching Values to Our Kids

Before delving into the 10 things that I feel that every child should learn from their parents, I feel that it is first important to teach YOU the foundation of success as it relates to teaching values to our kids. First and foremost, it is essential that you take the time to personally absorb all of the values that you are attempting to instill in your children and then model the values in their presence. When educating your children on the values that you will be introduced to in this guide, it is important to understand that the learning process IS a process. Children often have short-term memories. It will take a lot of modeling the behaviors and reminders in order to truly impact the long-term behaviors of the child in a positive manner. Our kids will automatically absorb what we DO more quickly than what we SAY. If we attempt to teach our kids the values in this positive parenting guide, we must first know those values and practice them ourselves. By doing, our children will listen. When our children listen, they will learn. As they continue to learn, they will absorb the values that we are attempting to instill in them. This is, by far, the most successful foundation when it comes to teaching our kids.

1. Responsibility 

The first and most important thing that I want to teach my child is to take 100% responsibility for themselves and all that happens in their life. I first learned of this concept in the book, “The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be” by Jack Canfield. While, somewhere in this brain of mine, I knew this was the RIGHT way to live, before I read this book, I often found myself blaming things that I felt were out of my control for the situations and events that I faced in my life. Of course, I was always miserable. Then, I learned that, in order to be personally fulfilled and achieve success in my life, it was critical that I accept 100% responsibility for myself and the things that I experience in life. Since practicing this, I have a whole new take on things. I simply want my child to know that they must acknowledge that they are the ones that create everything that happens to them and that they are the cause of all in which they experience at an early age.

2. Respect

The next thing that I would like to teach my child is respect. Respect for himself and respect for others. In order to do this with your child, you must first understand that most of us fail to give our child the type of respect that we are demanding. One of the most effective strategies that parents may use is to take time to listen to a child. Display a genuine interest in them and allow them to see you displaying a genuine interest in others. Make the child feel as if the ideas that they have and their opinions are valued. This is how my parents taught me respect and I feel it is important that my child experiences the same lesson in order to learn respect. Look for every opportunity to talk with your child and engage with your child in such a way that they come to realize that what they say and/or do is highly important to you!

3. Kindness

The third thing that I would like to teach my child is how to be kind to themselves and others. We have ALL stumbled across miserable people in our lives. These are the people that drain us emotionally and hurt us on a psychological level. In some instances, these misers hurt us in a physical way. We have also ran into kind people in our lives. These are the ones that lift you up, motivate you, support you, and make you feel great about life. I want to teach my child that, no matter what, be the person that lifts up others and makes them feel good – not the person that hurts those that they come in contact with throughout their life. The best parenting method for teaching kindness is to show kindness to our children. While there will be situations that will make you feel as if being kind is the last thing you want to do, if your child is listening and/or watching, always exhibit the most positive responses to others as possible.

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