10 Tips for Positive Parenting

In today’s world, parenting is becoming an increasingly difficult task. Our ever-changing lifestyles, technological advancements, heavy financial responsibilities, and demanding schedules result in numerous challenges to parents. Balancing work, household responsibilities, finances, and children has the potential to wear on any parent. Despite the obstacles that we currently face as parents, our main priority and responsibility is our children. Parenting is the process and act of both promoting and supporting the various levels of development of a child from the time that they are born until the time that they reach adulthood; it is not simply a biological-based relationship. The various stages of development include the physiological, psychological, intellectual, social, and financial. As a parent, we must nurture and educate. In this comprehensive parenting guide, you will learn about teaching your children. You must pass on your experiences in life to ensure that your child’s life is positive and productive. Here, you will learn about the 10 things that I want to teach my child. If you are a parent, you should consider teaching your child the same.

The Foundation of Success in Teaching Values to Our Kids

Before delving into the 10 things that I feel that every child should learn from their parents, I feel that it is first important to teach YOU the foundation of success as it relates to teaching values to our kids. First and foremost, it is essential that you take the time to personally absorb all of the values that you are attempting to instill in your children and then model the values in their presence. When educating your children on the values that you will be introduced to in this guide, it is important to understand that the learning process IS a process. Children often have short-term memories. It will take a lot of modeling the behaviors and reminders in order to truly impact the long-term behaviors of the child in a positive manner. Our kids will automatically absorb what we DO more quickly than what we SAY. If we attempt to teach our kids the values in this positive parenting guide, we must first know those values and practice them ourselves. By doing, our children will listen. When our children listen, they will learn. As they continue to learn, they will absorb the values that we are attempting to instill in them. This is, by far, the most successful foundation when it comes to teaching our kids.

1. Responsibility 

The first and most important thing that I want to teach my child is to take 100% responsibility for themselves and all that happens in their life. I first learned of this concept in the book, “The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be” by Jack Canfield. While, somewhere in this brain of mine, I knew this was the RIGHT way to live, before I read this book, I often found myself blaming things that I felt were out of my control for the situations and events that I faced in my life. Of course, I was always miserable. Then, I learned that, in order to be personally fulfilled and achieve success in my life, it was critical that I accept 100% responsibility for myself and the things that I experience in life. Since practicing this, I have a whole new take on things. I simply want my child to know that they must acknowledge that they are the ones that create everything that happens to them and that they are the cause of all in which they experience at an early age.

2. Respect

The next thing that I would like to teach my child is respect. Respect for himself and respect for others. In order to do this with your child, you must first understand that most of us fail to give our child the type of respect that we are demanding. One of the most effective strategies that parents may use is to take time to listen to a child. Display a genuine interest in them and allow them to see you displaying a genuine interest in others. Make the child feel as if the ideas that they have and their opinions are valued. This is how my parents taught me respect and I feel it is important that my child experiences the same lesson in order to learn respect. Look for every opportunity to talk with your child and engage with your child in such a way that they come to realize that what they say and/or do is highly important to you!

3. Kindness

The third thing that I would like to teach my child is how to be kind to themselves and others. We have ALL stumbled across miserable people in our lives. These are the people that drain us emotionally and hurt us on a psychological level. In some instances, these misers hurt us in a physical way. We have also ran into kind people in our lives. These are the ones that lift you up, motivate you, support you, and make you feel great about life. I want to teach my child that, no matter what, be the person that lifts up others and makes them feel good – not the person that hurts those that they come in contact with throughout their life. The best parenting method for teaching kindness is to show kindness to our children. While there will be situations that will make you feel as if being kind is the last thing you want to do, if your child is listening and/or watching, always exhibit the most positive responses to others as possible.

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Family Time is the key to a Happy Family

One way I learn is finding great quotes and incorporating them into my life. In have been doing a lot on Twitter in the evenings and have been sharing with many of my Twitter friends. Many of the quotes I have found researching, and some I have even made up myself based on experiences of myself and others. I share these quotes humbly and hope people will enjoy reading and learning from these parenting, family and motivational quotes. Please let us know what your favorite parenting quotes are. Here are some of ours:

Parenting Quotes:

There is no such thing as a perfect parent so just be a real one. – Sue Atkins

A man never stands as tall as when he kneels to help a child. – Knights of Pythagoras

Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be – David Bly

Stop trying to perfect your child, but keep trying to perfect your relationship with him- Dr. Henker

Kids are like a mirror, what they see and hear they do. Be a good reflection for them. – K. Heath

If a child can't learn the way we teach, then we must teach the way they learn. Unknown

The rules for parents are but three… love, limit, and let them be. – Elaine M. Ward

Parents need to fill a child's bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can't poke enough holes to drain it dry-Alvin Price

As your kids grow they may forget what you said, but won't forget how you made them feel – Kevin Heath

Encourage & support your kids because "Children are apt to live up to what you believe of them. – Lady Bird Johnson

If your child has a weakness, teach them how to turn it into a strength! The only Failure is not trying. – Kevin Heath

Kids learn integrity from us: "Integrity is what we say, what we do, and what we say we do." – Don Galer

If you want your kids to dream more, then dream more, learn more, then learn more, do more, then do more. Be their Inspiration! – K. Heath

If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others. – Haim Ginott

Children desperately need to know – and to hear in ways they understand and remember – that they're loved and valued by mom and dad – Paul Smally

The art of mothering is to teach the art of living to children – Elaine Heffner

Let your kids observe you doing random acts of kindness, it can be contagious :) – Kevin HeathREAD More on Parenting and Motivational Quotes to Live By

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There is no 

such thing as a 

perfect parent

so just be a real one

– Sue Atkins

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Words that empower our children

Often as parents, words slip out of our mouths before we even think about them. I am no exception and will be the first to admit it. Sometimes we may quickly tell our kids things like "you should be ashamed of yourself" or "I'm going to leave you right here if you don't stop" and don't realize how this actually affects our children in the future. The way that we communicate with our children is so important to their emotional health, their self esteem, and even their personal empowerment. The outcomes and attitudes our kids have are linked to the words that we use as parents. The words that you use can either wound, shame, and bring down or they can nurture, encourage, and empower your child.

So, now that you know how important the things are that you say to your kids, you may be wondering what you shouldn't say and what things you should say. If you're not sure what words to use to help build up and empower your child, here is a look at some of the words that empower and some words that tear down your children. Learn the difference and start changing the way that you speak to your children. You'll be surprised at the difference.

Negative and Dis-empowering Words vs. Positive Empowering Words

"You should"  instead you can say "You could or you can"

"I can't" instead you can say "I'll do my very best"

"Try" instead you can say "Do your very best"

"You must" instead you can say "I'd like for you to"

"Don't forget to" instead you can say "Please make sure you remember"

"Don't drop it" instead you can say "Make sure you carefully hold it"

"That was a bad shot" instead you can say "You can do much better"

"I'm too busy to…"  instead you can say "I'll find some time"

"You're a real pain" instead you can say "You could take better actions"

"You have to" instead you can say "I would like you to"

"It's too hard" instead you can say "Practice will make it easier"

"I'm not good at" instead you can say "I can do better"

"You're being selfish" instead you can say "Try to work on sharing more"

"You're being irritable"  instead you can say "You're a bit sensitive"

"I'm not good…" instead you can say "I need some more practice"

"No one likes me" instead you can say "Making friends takes some time"

"You're naught" instead you can say "You can behave in a better way"READ More on Parenting: Words That Empower

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Recipe for a Happy Family
A Barrel of Trust
A Bushel of Patience
A Gallon of Faith
A Liter of Understanding
A Quart of Respect
A Pint of Humor
Combine all ingredients. Blend with consistency; Stir well to form a ball of love.
Sift out jealousies, guilt, resentments, anger and frustrations.
Pour in Encouragement; Soften with decency;
Shape into equal parts of caring, humility, inspiration and communication;
Place in lightly coated heartfelt holder;
Sprinkle with fondness and affection.
Bake in a high degree of common sense until bubbles of positive parenting form.
Serves a loving family.  Preserved for life.

Whether we can cook or not, the above recipe will prepare us to empower our children to look for the best within themselves; to experience their self-worth; to envision their future; to never have to say ‘if only’. Even if we aren’t equipped with all the ingredients all the time, they have an eternal shelf life we can tap into as needed. It’s up to us to keep our pantry well stocked.

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Back to School – Back to Schedules

Summertime – schedules are relaxed, kids can stay up a little later, sleep a little longer, lounge around in their pajamas all morning. But before you know it, the clock will rule the morning again. How do you help kids adjust from the relaxation of summer to the schedules of school?
Start Early
Your kids are not going to be happy if they can stay up to 11:00 one night and have to be in bed by 8:00 the next night. In fact, they probably won’t be able to make such a drastic change so quickly and will make everybody miserable. Begin slowly reintroducing your regular bedtime and wake-up schedules a few weeks before school starts so everyone is used to the change.READ More on Getting Your Family Into That Back To School Routine

Ringing the Liberty BellUnfortunately, many kids today are not aware of the real meaning behind the 4th of July. Many celebrations on July 4th include fireworks, picnics, BBQs, and other celebrations. While celebrating the holiday is wonderful, we cannot allow our children to forget what this day is all about. It's time that kids learn about the history that is behind all the festivities that occur on the 4th of July. If you are not sure where to begin teaching kids the real meaning of this important holiday in the United States, here are some tips that can help.

Tip #1 – Talk to Your Kids About the Meaning of the Day

The first place to start when you want to teach your kids about the 4th of July and its meaning is by talking to them. Talk to kids and find out what they already know about this national holiday. Chances are they have learned some information in school, and you can add to the education that they already have. Spend some time talking about the importance of this holiday, the history behind it, and make them realize it is more than just a day to have a BBQ. Encourage kids to ask questions as well. This is also a great time to talk to kids about how they can celebrate this day in a way that brings across the real meaning of the holiday.

Tip #2 – Find Books About the History

Another great tip to help kids understand the meaning behind July 4th is finding books about the history of our country. While you can purchase books, another option is to visit a library in your area. Check out books that relate to the time of the Revolutionary War and the fight for independence in this country. There are some wonderful books available for children on this topic, such as "The Story of America's Birthday," which is by Patricia A. Pringy.

Tip #3 – Study the Declaration of Independence with Your Child

It's pretty easy to get a copy of the Declaration of Independence. You can get tourist versions or you could simply print it off from the internet. Take time to study the Declaration of Independence with your child. Try to explain what it means in a way that they can understand. Make them realize how important this document was in all the events that led up to what we now know as July 4th, or Independence Day.

Tip #4 – Take Time to Honor Soldiers

Take some time out to honor soldiers while you are teaching your children about the history of the country and Independence Day. Take some flowers or flags to a local cemetery and place them on soldier's graves. As you do this, talk to your kids about the sacrifice that has been made for freedom and how important it is that we never forget about those sacrifices made in the past.

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