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101 Acts of Kindness: Making a Positive Impact on a World Filled with Negativity
Acts of kindness allows each of us to make a positive impact on a world that is swarming with negativity. Kindness is an act that, simply, “feels good”. It does not matter if we observe kindness, have kindness bestowed upon us, or bestow kindness upon others. It is said that, when a person experiences kindness – in one way or another – it puts them at their absolute best, as people. Kindness is compassion. Kindness is generosity. Kindness is love. Kindness allows us to connect with others. As parents, we should encourage our children to engage in random acts of kindness. We, too, should engage in these acts. In doing so, we will inspire happiness, high levels of gratitude, and will be making a positive difference in the lives of others that they will want to pay forward! The following outlines 101 acts of kindness that we and our kids may perform in order to make a positive impact on the negative world that we are part of:
1) Smile when you make eye contact with others.
2) Hold the door open for someone.
3) Use kind words when speaking to others, such as “please”, “thank you”, and “you’re welcome".
4) Compliment a person on their talents.
5) Brag about a person’s accomplishments and really mean it! Use great examples.
6) Congratulate someone on a job well done.
7) Congratulate someone who has been able to do something new and exciting, such as purchase a house or travel to a new and exciting place.
8) Use a person’s name when speaking to them.
9) Listen when others talk – not with the intent to answer, but, with the intent to truly hear them.
10) Be genuinely happy for someone. They will notice!
11) When online, speak positively.
12) Always strive to encourage others.
13) Help those that are less fortunate. Volunteer. There are tons of local opportunities. Places to contact: local Church, schools, libraries, food pantries, hospitals, Red Cross, and animal rescue shelters to name a few.
14) If someone recently had a baby, offer to cook a week’s worth of meals.
15) If someone had a baby, offer to clean their house for a couple of weeks while they adjust to being a new parent.
16) If a car is parked where a meter has expired, put money in it.
17) Do not use your phone when speaking and/or engaging with others.
18) Make friends with the new neighbor they will appreciate it and you will too!
19) Make friends with the new kid at school.
20) Make friends with the new person at work.
21) Invite a neighbor over for dinner.
22) Buy a meal for a homeless person.
23) Make and hand out blessing bags to the homeless.
24) When you buy something new, donate one used item to a family in need, a local charity, or to the local Goodwill store.
25) When someone is speaking, make a point to avoid interrupting them.
Ah, it’s that time of year again for the famous (or infamous) New Year’s Resolutions. These are often made in haste with the hopes of making some drastic changes but most of the time the resolutions fail and by February, it is a long forgotten goal. It can be so ridiculous that one year I made a resolution never to make New Year’s resolutions again. But like the resolutions, I haven’t kept that promise.
What makes the New Year so appealing? It’s as if it’s a big Etch-O-Sketch and it’s being erased and we have a do over – a chance to make a better life. The New Year comes with hope, which is why people want to strive to do better as the calendar changes over.
Here’s a good thought, why not make the New Year Resolution be family oriented? By involving those we love the most, we can hold each other accountable for a positive outcome and in reaching these new goals.
Great Family-Sized New Year’s Resolutions
One of the biggest New Year’s Resolutions is weight loss for many adults. This can still hold true for your family, however, you want to take the focus off weight loss for the children. Unless your child is obese, they do not need to go on a diet to lose weight, even if you need to do so. Instead of saying weight loss, make a resolution to eat healthier. Make it a family deal and start to introduce a better diet for all of you. If you eat right to begin with, weight loss is a natural occurrence with a healthy diet.
Make it a goal to include vegetables with each meal. Trade a junk food favorite for a healthy snack. Example, if the kids and parents like to eat cake or pies, try making homemade granola out of healthy whole grains and nuts instead. Teach the children there are better alternatives to junk foods.
It is that time of year when we all look back on the year we have had and get ready to make our lists of promises to ourselves about how we are going to improve in the New Year. Yes, I am talking about New Year’s Resolutions. We all know the old stand-bys such as losing weight or quitting a bad habit. This year I would like to make a proposal, make your New Year’s Resolutions about bringing your family closer.
I know that at this time with our economy as bad as it is, and many of us face the hardest times that we can remember. It is now, at this time of year that we need to look at all we each have to be thankful for and focus on how to make those connections stronger then ever. What are the reasons you get up each and every day and try to do your best? The answer is the family that you have around you. With a strong family bond in place, it makes even the toughest of times easier to get through. Plus you are teaching your children what is really important in life, and it will encourage them to always strive to not just do their best, but to keep them grounded and focused as they grow. I pray that we have done that with our children, as I am sure that you do. READ More on Family New Years Resolutions
As the Christmas season comes to a head we at More4Kids want to wish you and your family the best of the Christmas season. May your Christmas wishes come true and may you and yours experience the true joy of the holiday. Pause for a moment and contemplate the true meaning of Christmas. If you can teach your kids this one simple truth, imagine what a blessing they will be when they grow up and walk in this truth.
Jesus is the reason for the season. The first Christmas gift came from God, Himself. He gave mankind his only Son to offer us a way back to Him. We exchange gifts in honor of Jesus’ birthday every year. We give to each other to express our love and gratitude. Because God loved us so much He sent His son to us to blaze the trail right back to Him. Can you imagine when you get to spend your first Christmas in Heaven?
Our Christmas wish for you is that you help your kids see the best in others in the same way God sees us. Teach them the true meaning of Christmas and help them to walk in Christmas joy not just on December 25 but in all of 2016. It’s not a joy that occurs due to happy circumstances. It’s a joy that lives within our hearts. We hope you experience this with your family no matter what life my bring your way.
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by Angie Schflett
Grief over the loss of a loved one is considered to be a deep and a difficult challenge – regardless of what time of year that it occurs; however, coping with grief over the holidays tends to magnify the overwhelming sense of loss and immense mourning that is experienced. This is especially true when it comes to kids. Gatherings of family members and seasonal-based traditions and events are often considered to be exceptionally painful reminders that our loved one or loved ones are absent from our lives. If your family has recently experienced a loss, it is important that you pull together to comfort one another. In this guide, you will be introduced to a few steps that will aid you in parenting and coping with grief over the holidays.
1. Embrace the Past by Recreating the Present
If you and your family have endured a loss this holiday season, it is important to know and understand that the adjustments associated with your loss will be exceptionally difficult for everyone involved. Each family gathering, each family tradition will remind all of you of the absence of your loved one; however, instead of focusing on the loss, try to focus on the memories that you have of your loved one and find comfort in one another. You must commit to embrace the past, and recreate the present. You must overcome the expectations of what the holidays should be and recreate what they are now that your loved one has passed on. Simply acknowledge the loss and express appreciation for all of the time that you had with your loved one or loved ones. Then, work to create new traditions and gatherings that involve those that are still living. Honor the deceased while celebrating the living. This is the absolute best way to embrace the past and recreate the present. By taking this step, the future will be brighter for you and your kids.
2. Accept the Inevitable
Despite the fact that the holidays are considered to be a joyous and exciting time, it is inevitable that you and your loved ones will experience anger, sadness, and despair. You must accept the inevitable. Regardless of age, no one should be expected to ignore the feelings that they have simply because the holidays are in full swing. You should not judge, nor should anyone judge you for feeling how you feel. Even if you feel a sense of joy due to the season, do not feel guilty. Remember, your loved one or loved ones would not want you to experience any negative emotion around the holidays; however, if you do, it is acceptable and to be expected. Simply accept the inevitable when suffering through grief. That is, you will experience a vast array of emotions and that is completely acceptable.
How much is too much Technology?
by Lori Ramsey – real life parenting with a mom with 6 kids
If you compare the activities of kids today to the children of your childhood, you may be shocked. I grew up in a time when no home had a computer or a game system. Atari was just beginning to make the scene by the time I hit my teen years. And I never heard of a cell phone. Kids from my day relied on doing things manually. We went outside to play. We used our imaginations. We heard the news when it came on TV at 5 pm or we read it in the newspaper. There was nothing instant about life. Even microwaves were in few homes.
Today, children have a vast technology universe at their fingertips. How many children have you seen with smartphones? My smaller children can show me how to do things on the computer. I marvel at the lives of children and teens when we’re out in public. Whether we’re sitting in restaurants, or at the mall, or whatever, most children have their attention on their phone screen, their thumbs busily typing in another text. Have you counted how many text messages your child sends and receives in a month? Information is instantaneous now. We just need to turn our phones on to see what’s happening all over the world. It’s a lot of distractions for young developing minds.
I believe children have too much leeway way when it comes to what we allow them to do. With all the access to social media, internet browsing, and instant everything comes information overload. I can see where it will cause our children to stop reacting in a normal way. If they are so accustomed to responding with their thumbs and a mouse, they may have issues with real pressing challenges.
All Things in Moderation
Denying a child the opportunity to partake in the technologies of today may be painful to them. It’s not necessary to totally unplug from modern advances. Allow children to play a video game, to spend time texting, to browse the internet (safely) but limit the time. Children will, if left to their own devices, do these things for hours. We must make sure we don’t allow that. Put a limit. Tell them they can play the video games for an hour. Give them a set time they can be on their phone. Once the time is up, remove the temptation. Take the phone and put it away. Turn off the computer or game system. The same goes for the television.
Be An Example
Our children watch what we do. If we tell them they can’t be on their phone texting all the time and we do it, what sort of message are we sending to them? We need to show them the way by living what we preach. We need to shut off our phones and lay the remotes aside and spend as much time away from the phone, computer, TV, or game system as they do. Show your children they are a top priority by focusing on them instead of on a piece of electronic.
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