Christmas Tree

by Lori Ramsey – real life parenting with a mom with 6 kids

The holidays are upon us and as a big part of the year, we decorate our homes for the festivities. For parents of smaller children, especially crawling babies and toddlers, this can be a bit of a challenge. We go from having a safe childproofed home to having decorations and holiday items that can be a hazard to the little tikes. As parents we have to decide is having a fully decorated home worth the extra safety risk to our little children.

For me, it often wasn’t and when mine were little I took on the holiday decorating with a whole different approach. I was a stickler for childproofing the home. I had outlet covers cover plugs and outlets, I had safety hinges on all cabinets. I had latches on doors and gates blocking danger zones and stairs. I realize how difficult it made our lives to have this stuff in place, but it also gave me breathing room to know my little one had a safe environment to explore. But when it came to the holidays I had to put a halt on many of the traditional decorations.

You need to make a decision if you choose to put up a traditional on the floor Christmas tree you have a couple of choices. You can either stay with your child every single moment to keep them from grabbing the ornaments, biting at the electrical lights, and knocking the tree over onto themselves or you can block it off. Put the tree in a little used room and keep the child out of it unless you are with them.

Or do like I did and do something different. When mine were little, I chose not to use the larger Christmas tree and instead we purchased a smaller tree that we set upon a table out of the child’s reach. All our décor existed high enough we could enjoy it but little hands couldn’t grab it.

As you can imagine, we went through about eight years where we did this just to make it easier on me. I’m sure there are parents out there who claim they can teach a child not to touch the tree, but with smaller children and curious toddlers, you’d better be right there with that constant need to slap back little hands or with the quick, “No-nos.” I chose not to go that route. Instead of it being a negative experience for our family, we kept the lower part of the home clear and child-proof and just decorated from about three feet and up.

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Thankful boy
Thanksgiving was never really meant to be only one day a year. It should be held in our hearts every day. As parents we are thankful for our kids and thankful for all those who have touched our lives and whose lives we touch.

 Top "Being Thankful Quotes"

It isn’t what you have in your pocket that makes you thankful, but what you have in your heart. ~ Author Unknown

Each Day I am Thankful for Nights that Turned into Mornings, Friends that Turned into Family, Dreams that Turned into Reality, and Likes that Turned into Love

Silent gratitude isn’t very much use to anyone. ~ Gertrude Stein

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. ~ Lao Tzu

Take time to be thankful for everything that you have. You can always have more, but you could also have less.

A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love. ~ Saint Basil

Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others. ~ Cicero

You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you ~ Sarah Ban Breathnack

Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have—life itself. ~ Walter Anderson

Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end of having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

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by Stacey Schifferdecker


"Thanksgiving was never meant to be shut up in a single day"
Robert Caspar Lintner

Giving thanks and saying grace before Thanksgiving mealWhen people ask me what my favorite holiday is, I always say Thanksgiving. I don’t know that deep down Thanksgiving is really my favorite holiday, but I feel sorry for it. There it is, sandwiched between the candy, costumes, and trick-or-treat of Halloween and the gifts, glitz, and glamour of Christmas. How is a simple, mostly non-commercialized holiday like Thanksgiving supposed to compete?

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Teen Texting

Text messages to friends and online IMs are nothing new when you have a child in the home. These forms of communication are a great way for them to keep in touch on the go. While plenty of good comes from them, you’ll also find that not everything is as it seems. In some cases, what looks like a simple mistype or random letters or numbers could be something far more sinister. Since even good kids can make bad choices, it is important for parents to know the internet slang of today and to keep up with it as it evolves.

Red Flags

Some of the internet slangs are red flags something are up. If you see the following they mean your child is likely up to something they are concerned that you need to know about.

12345 – Parents Reading Screen.

9 – My parents are watching me.

99 – My parents are gone.

Code 9 (CD9) – My parents are around here.

KPC – Keeping parents clueless

MOS – Mom over shoulder

PA – Parent Alert.

P911 – Alert Parents!

PAL – My parents are listening

PAW – My parents are watching

PIR – My parent is in the room

POS – My parent is over my shoulder.

If you see these texted or on an instant message chat, it is a good idea to pay close attention to what your child is doing. It means there is something they don’t want you to see. It is a good idea to open up with them and hold a dialogue and to feel out the situation. Don’t instantly jump to accusations or cause an unnecessary rift, but use this as a chance to get things out into the open with each other. That way, you can build on trust and ultimately work on strengthening the bond between you so that if something does happen, your kids will talk to you.

Texting Sexual and Romance Items

Most of us want to believe our kids aren’t at that age where they are meeting up with people for physical relations. Unfortunately, there is plenty of internet slang out there that is designed to help them communicate their desires. Be sure to look out for any of the following:

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Dad and special needs son

Tips for Special Needs Parenting

by Joy Burgess

Parenting always comes with challenges, but the normal challenges that come with being a parent are often compounded for the parents of children with special needs. Just a few of the common challenges for parents may include:

  • Coping with the physical and emotional demands that come with caring for a child with a disability
  • Becoming educated about the child’s disability
  • Advocating for essential school accommodations, placements, and/or interventions
  • Researching and finding effective resources and treatments
  • Paying for interventions and treatments that may not be covered by the school system or health insurance
  • Getting to all the appointments with therapists, school personnel, advocates, and medical providers

Of course, these are only a few of the many challenges that special needs parents deal with each day. Some of the biggest challenges that parents face are not the most obvious ones, such as dealing with a special needs child’s challenging behavior, staying organized in the chaos, and nurturing your marriage. Here is a closer look at these specific challenges and some helpful parenting tips that will help special needs parents meet these challenges head on.

Challenge #1 – Dealing with Challenging Behavior

One of the most stressful parts of parenting a special needs child is managing challenging behavior. However, it is important for parents to understand that this behavior is a form of communication from children with special needs, often because these children are not able to communicate in other ways. Parents must realize that this behavior indicates a problem in learning – the problem is NOT in the child.

Managing challenging behavior requires that parents listen to what their child is trying to tell them. It’s important to avoid confrontation when possible while keeping a consistent approach. Special needs children generally do not use challenging behavior to manipulate parents. In most cases, there’s a reason this type of behavior is happening.

Although there’s never one solution for dealing with the child’s challenging behavior, there are tips that you can try. Try using these tips consistently to better deal with the challenging behavior that often comes from children with special needs.

  • Tip #1 – Record Incidents of Challenging Behavior – Start recording incidents of challenging behavior in a journal. Write down as much as you can about the incident. What happened before the incident? How did the problem start? How long did it last? How did you get your child calmed down? This can help you to look back to see if there are any contributing factors or patterns that seem to result in the behavior.
  • Tip #2 – Encourage Exercise as an Emotional Outlet – Kids and teens with special needs need to have a healthy way to let out their emotions. Exercise is an excellent emotional outlet and can help kids get rid of some of their overload of anger or stress. Try to build exercise into every day if possible. Many parents find that this reduces the occurrence of challenging behavior.
  • Tip #3 – Try Using a “Break Card – For older children, try using a “break card” to avoid a meltdown. These cards give the child the ability to communicate that they want to leave a situation that they find unpleasant. These cards can be used at home, while out and about, or even in school. Giving a child this ability to communicate often stops a problem before it begins.
  • Tip #4 – Keep Calm – When challenging behavior occurs, an important parenting tips is to keep calm. Calm, assertive body language and instructions are important when dealing with this type of behavior. Adding more emotion to the situation will only cause confusion and escalate the situation.
  • Tip #5 – Take the Volume Down – If your child is shouting or getting aggressive, take the volume down. Keep a neutral face and lower the pitch and volume of your voice. In most cases, kids will quiet down so they are able to hear what you are saying. Shouting back will only make the problem worse.
  • Tip #6 – Focus on Good Sleeping Habits – Sleep makes a huge difference in the behavior of any child, but especially a special needs child. Make sure your child is getting enough sleep. A meltdown could occur simply because a child is overly tired. Kids with special needs should get at least 7-8 hours of sleep each night.

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Bernie Sanders

by Angie Schflett

With the primary elections on the horizon, families need to determine who the best candidate for them is. With Bernie Sanders, Hillary Clinton, Donald Trump, Ben Carson, and others making waves, our future president is likely already in the limelight. With that in mind, we need to take a look at the big picture and some of the main issues families face. Today, we’ll look at Bernie Sanders. This includes everything from his take on health care, to gun control, to his stance on abortion.

In general, the voting history of Bernie Sanders has been with families in mind. His stance on families and children we know the following to be true:

  • He has stated we are the only major country in the world that doesn’t currently offer paid family leave. (10/15)
  • We must provide an affordable choice for childcare and for those who are in the early pre-K education group. (9/15)
  • Bernie Sanders believes the Violence Against Women Act should apply to everyone. (9/15)
  • Voted to increase funding for victims of domestic violence. (1/13)
  • Banned lead in children’s toys. (11/05)
  • He was originally against a nationwide Amber alert (4/03), however, the reason he voted against it is that he felt it had unconstitutional riders attached to it. In particular Bernie Sanders felt the sentencing provisions took away from the powers of the judicial branch.
  • Once was an active member of the Missing and Exploited Children Caucus. (1/01)

From this standpoint, Bernie Sanders looks like an individual who has become compassionate and has a pro family attitude in mind. His work for families in the latter years of his career suggests he is pro family.

Next, we need to look at his stance on education. This is a place where things get a little trickier.

  • Voted to replace the current NCLB standardized tests with options that are more holistic. (9/15)
  • Offered vouchers that allowed public education funds to be placed in private schools. (9/15)
  • Charter schools are acceptable as long as they are held to the same standards as public schools. (9/15)
  • Low income preschoolers should be welcomed into the Head Start Program. (9/15)
  • $18B provided to encourage free tuition at state colleges. (4/15)
  • Wants to refinance and forgive old student loans. (4/15)
  • Wants higher education to become affordable. (3/15)
  • Voted to not count combat pay against free school lunch earnings. (3/09)
  • Allowed to make educational assistance for employees a tax deductible solution. (1/1993)

With this, we see that Bernie Sanders has remained a positive force for the education system. His forward thinking approach has proven he values the education of our children.

Drugs are another important area to consider, as it affects the lives of millions. Here is Bernie Sanders approach on drugs.

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veterans day prayer

No matter what our political affiliation is, or what we believe about the wars are troops are involved in, we need to make sure we keep our troops in our thoughts and prayers this holiday season and especially this Veterans Day. I received this picture from a friend and it really stuck me how alone they are. Fathers, sons, mothers and daughters will not see each other this year. Instead they will be doing their duty and helping to protect the United States and the freedom we have.READ More on Veterans Day: Remembering Our Troops and Their Families

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