Beyond Santa Claus – Helping Kids Discover the True Meaning of Christmas
by Lori Ramsey – real life parenting with a mom with 6 kids
Little children believing in Santa Claus brings a whole new depth of magic to the Christmas season. I know what it’s like to sneak off to go Christmas shopping with the little ones clueless. When ours grew older and more aware, we told them we went to meet with Santa’s elves. It was a tale told to me by my mother and I completely believed her. I thought when she left me with my grandparents, she honestly spoke with a real elf. To my memory, she actually did talk to an elf. But I also have other memories of that time and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
On the not so magical side of the Santa Claus belief is the kids who ask for toys they never received. I remember asking for a particular doll and being disappointed on Christmas morning that Santa didn’t bring it to me. But he gave it to the little girl down the street. My parents told me all sorts of tales as to why Santa wouldn’t give me what I asked for and would give it to the kids up the road.
The reasons above have a good argument for the total belief in Santa Claus. Where do you draw the line for your children? I know parents who will go out and buy everything on their child’s wish list to the point of being ridiculous. Then there are the kids who barely get anything. My daughter asked me one year why Santa would choose to pour the gifts on some and not on others.
Some parents make the choice to be honest with their kids from the beginning and the belief in Santa is never practiced in their homes. These are the children who will tell other kids Santa isn’t real and then you have the discussions with your children if he’s real or not.
We do allow our children to believe in Santa Claus, but we try to portray Santa as more of a human who has limited resources and how he has to shop for toys throughout the world and sometimes he can’t find individual items, so he has to substitute. I feel it’s often a tangled web when we get into it. I am relieved when they outgrow the whole Santa thing because then we can be real about it. It begs the question, what should we be teaching our children about Christmas and Santa Claus?