In today’s world, parenting is becoming an increasingly difficult task. Our ever-changing lifestyles, technological advancements, heavy financial responsibilities, and demanding schedules result in numerous challenges to parents. Balancing work, household responsibilities, finances, and children has the potential to wear on any parent. Despite the obstacles that we currently face as parents, our main priority and responsibility is our children. Parenting is the process and act of both promoting and supporting the various levels of development of a child from the time that they are born until the time that they reach adulthood; it is not simply a biological-based relationship. The various stages of development include the physiological, psychological, intellectual, social, and financial. As a parent, we must nurture and educate. In this comprehensive parenting guide, you will learn about teaching your children. You must pass on your experiences in life to ensure that your child’s life is positive and productive. Here, you will learn about the 10 things that I want to teach my child. If you are a parent, you should consider teaching your child the same.
The Foundation of Success in Teaching Values to Our Kids
Before delving into the 10 things that I feel that every child should learn from their parents, I feel that it is first important to teach YOU the foundation of success as it relates to teaching values to our kids. First and foremost, it is essential that you take the time to personally absorb all of the values that you are attempting to instill in your children and then model the values in their presence. When educating your children on the values that you will be introduced to in this guide, it is important to understand that the learning process IS a process. Children often have short-term memories. It will take a lot of modeling the behaviors and reminders in order to truly impact the long-term behaviors of the child in a positive manner. Our kids will automatically absorb what we DO more quickly than what we SAY. If we attempt to teach our kids the values in this positive parenting guide, we must first know those values and practice them ourselves. By doing, our children will listen. When our children listen, they will learn. As they continue to learn, they will absorb the values that we are attempting to instill in them. This is, by far, the most successful foundation when it comes to teaching our kids.
The first and most important thing that I want to teach my child is to take 100% responsibility for themselves and all that happens in their life. I first learned of this concept in the book, “The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be” by Jack Canfield. While, somewhere in this brain of mine, I knew this was the RIGHT way to live, before I read this book, I often found myself blaming things that I felt were out of my control for the situations and events that I faced in my life. Of course, I was always miserable. Then, I learned that, in order to be personally fulfilled and achieve success in my life, it was critical that I accept 100% responsibility for myself and the things that I experience in life. Since practicing this, I have a whole new take on things. I simply want my child to know that they must acknowledge that they are the ones that create everything that happens to them and that they are the cause of all in which they experience at an early age.
The next thing that I would like to teach my child is respect. Respect for himself and respect for others. In order to do this with your child, you must first understand that most of us fail to give our child the type of respect that we are demanding. One of the most effective strategies that parents may use is to take time to listen to a child. Display a genuine interest in them and allow them to see you displaying a genuine interest in others. Make the child feel as if the ideas that they have and their opinions are valued. This is how my parents taught me respect and I feel it is important that my child experiences the same lesson in order to learn respect. Look for every opportunity to talk with your child and engage with your child in such a way that they come to realize that what they say and/or do is highly important to you!
The third thing that I would like to teach my child is how to be kind to themselves and others. We have ALL stumbled across miserable people in our lives. These are the people that drain us emotionally and hurt us on a psychological level. In some instances, these misers hurt us in a physical way. We have also ran into kind people in our lives. These are the ones that lift you up, motivate you, support you, and make you feel great about life. I want to teach my child that, no matter what, be the person that lifts up others and makes them feel good – not the person that hurts those that they come in contact with throughout their life. The best parenting method for teaching kindness is to show kindness to our children. While there will be situations that will make you feel as if being kind is the last thing you want to do, if your child is listening and/or watching, always exhibit the most positive responses to others as possible.