na Jennifer Shakeel
Pono wau e ʻae i koʻu lohe ʻana i nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa āpau e pili ana i ka ʻae ʻia ʻana o nā haumāna e pūliki kekahi i kekahi ma ke kula, ua hele au i ke kumu no ka hoʻokolokolo ʻana. Ua kamaʻilio wau me kaʻu mau keiki, aia kekahi ma ke kula haʻahaʻa a ʻo kekahi e pau ana i ke kula waena. Ua nīnau au iā lākou inā he kulekele kā lākou mau kula e kūʻē i ka ʻapo ʻana a i ʻole ka pili kino a pehea ko lākou manaʻo no ia mea.
Ua ʻōlelo kaʻu keiki i ke kula haʻahaʻa, ʻaʻohe kumu o kāna kula i ʻike ai. ʻO kaʻu kaikamahine ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻōlelo kāna kula, akā ʻaʻohe mea hahai. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia e hiki iā ia a me kāna mau hoaaloha ke pakele me ka "puʻi lima hoʻokahi." ʻO ia nō ka "puʻi hoa kāne" ʻo ia ka mea nui no-no.
ʻO wau iho, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke manaʻoʻiʻo ke noho nei mākou i kahi hui e pāpā ʻole i ka pūliki ʻana. Makemake au e wehewehe mai nā kula iaʻu i ke kumu e pāpā ai lākou i ka pūliki. I kēia manawa, hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole like nā pūliki a pau. ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo he kula kahi e ʻimi ai nā haumāna i kekahi i kekahi, akā ʻaʻole wau i manaʻoʻiʻo he hana ia e hana ai nā keiki. No laila hiki iaʻu ke ʻike i ka ʻōlelo ʻana ua pāpā ʻia kekahi hoʻopā ʻana. Akā he pūliki?
Loaʻa i nā keiki i kēia mau lā kelepona. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu i ke kumu i loaʻa ai iā lākou nā kelepona paʻa, ʻoiaʻiʻo he aha ka mea e pono ai i kahi keiki 7 makahiki i ke kelepona? Aia nā keiki ma MySpace a me Facebook. Ke kamaʻilio nei lākou i loko o nā lumi kamaʻilio ʻaʻole pono lākou i loko a ke leka uila nei kekahi i kekahi a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka sexting kekahi i kekahi. Hoʻohana ka poʻe i kā lākou kelepona e hoʻoweliweli kekahi i kekahi a hana like lākou ma nā pūnaewele pūnaewele. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au e hana lākou i kēia no ka mea, ʻo mākou, ma ke ʻano he hui, ke haʻi aku nei iā lākou he hewa ka pili kino ʻana me kekahi kanaka. ʻAʻole pono lākou e hana. He hewa ia, e alakaʻi i nā mea ʻino.
E nānā, ʻo ka manawa kēia e nānā pono ai kākou i ka pōmaikaʻi o ka pūliki a pehea e hiki ai ke kōkua i kā mākou mau keiki. Ua ʻike mākou a pau he maikaʻi ka ʻapo. ʻOi aku kou maikaʻi ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ka pūliki a me ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi pūliki. E manaʻoʻiʻo a ʻaʻole paha ʻoi aku ka hohonu o ka hopena o ka pūliki ma mua o ke ʻano o ka ʻili. ʻO kahi haʻawina i hana ʻia ma ke Kulanui o North Carolina e hōʻike ana i ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka hormone hoʻopaʻa i kapa ʻia ʻo oxytocin a hoʻemi lākou i ka hopena o ka maʻi puʻuwai.
Nā Pōmaikaʻi o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka hoʻopā
ʻO mākou ma ke ʻano he kanaka he holoholona pilikanaka, aia nā hōʻike ʻepekema e kākoʻo ana i kēia. Ua hōʻike ʻia nā haʻawina e ʻoi aku ka olakino o ka poʻe i loaʻa nā hoaaloha ma mua o ka poʻe ʻaʻohe hoaaloha. Ua hōʻike pū ʻia nā haʻawina ʻoi aku ka olakino o ka poʻe i male ma mua o kā lākou mau hoa kāne hoʻokahi.
Pono mākou i ka launa pū ʻana, a ʻo ia ka hoʻopā ʻana, ʻoi aku ma mua o ka hiki o nā kāne. E noʻonoʻo i ka pōmaikaʻi o nā pēpē mai ka launa pū ʻana o ka ʻili a me ka ʻili me ko lākou makuahine me ka hoʻomohala kino maikaʻi a me ka pilina maikaʻi.
ʻO kahi hiʻohiʻona haʻiʻōlelo ʻo ia ke aʻo ʻana i nā pēpē Korea ma kahi keiki makua ʻole. ʻO ka poʻe i loaʻa iā lākou he 15 mau minuke o ka leo wahine, lomilomi a me ka nānā ʻana i ka maka, ʻelima mau lā o ka pule no ʻehā pule, ua loaʻa ke kaumaha a ʻoi aku ka nui o ka lōʻihi o ke kino a me ke poʻo o ke poʻo ma hope o nā pule ʻehā a me nā mahina 6. ʻoi aku ka nui o nā makahiki ma mua o nā keiki me ka ʻole o ka hoʻoulu ʻana.
Ua hōʻike ʻia ʻo Therapeutic touch e hōʻemi i ke koʻikoʻi a me ka ʻeha i waena o nā pākeke, a e hōʻemi i nā hōʻailona o ka maʻi o Alzheimer, e like me ka hoʻomaha ʻole, ka pacing, ka leo, ka ʻimi ʻana a me ka paʻi ʻana.
ʻOiai ke manaʻo nei au he pono ka pūliki i mea e makemake ai nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua, ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻaʻole pono e hoʻokau ʻia nā pūliki ma luna o kekahi, manaʻo wau ʻaʻole pono e pāpā ʻia. He pōmaikaʻi lākou ʻaʻole wale ma muli o nā hopena i loaʻa iā ʻoe ma kou noʻonoʻo, akā nā hopena olakino i loaʻa iā ʻoe ma ke kino. Inā ʻae mākou i kā mākou mau kula e pāpā i ka pūliki ʻana, he aha ka mea e hiki mai ana… ka pāpā ʻana i ka ʻakaʻaka ʻana kekahi i kekahi?
Kawaihae
He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai ma mua o 12 mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻelua me hoʻokahi ma ke ala, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua a me nā hauʻoli a me nā loli i ka wā hāpai. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻakaʻaka a uē a hauʻoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he mau makuahine mākou!
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Aloha Jennifer. Mahalo nui iā ʻoe no kēia kikokikona maʻalahi. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻae hou aʻe a ke manaʻolana nei ʻaʻole e holo kēia manaʻo no ka pāpā ʻana i nā pūliki mai nā kula.
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