na Jennifer Shakeel
ʻO kekahi o nā hana koʻikoʻi a ka makua, ʻo ia ke aʻo ʻana i kāna mau keiki e mālama iā ia iho. Ma ke ʻano he makua makemake ʻoe e hiki i kāu keiki ke hōʻike ākea i kona mau manaʻo me ka ʻole o ka huhū huhū, kiola ʻana i nā mea, nahu a paʻi paha. E hoʻomaopopo i ka hoʻomau ʻana o kēia hana, ʻaʻole ia e pau ma hope o ko lākou 4, ʻo ka hoʻomalu ponoʻī kekahi mea e pono e hoʻoikaika ʻia ma waho o ka ulu ʻana o kāu keiki i hiki i kona wā e ulu ana, i kēlā me kēia pae, ʻike lākou i ke ʻano e hoʻoponopono pono ai i kahi kūlana. ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻo kēia ka hana aʻu i manaʻo ai ua nele nā mākua he nui i kēia lā.
Ma mua o kou huhū ʻana i ka ʻōlelo hope loa, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe i ka manawa hope āu i noho ai i loko o ka hale kūʻai a i ʻole i ka hale ʻaina a lohe ʻoe i kahi keiki e hoʻonāukiuki ana i ka huhū, e uē i kona mau mākua, e hana i kahi hiʻohiʻona… Ua mākaukau wau e pili aia i loko o ka 24 hola i hala, a ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i hoʻokahi hanana like me kēia, akā ʻelua. I kēia manawa, e noʻonoʻo hohonu, ʻo ka manawa hea ka manawa hope i hana ai kāu keiki i kahi hiʻohiʻona a hana ʻia paha? ʻAʻole au i hemolele, ʻaʻole au e noho ma ʻaneʻi a haʻi iā ʻoe ʻaʻole i hana kaʻu mau keiki i kekahi mea like ma mua. Hiki iaʻu ke haʻi aku iā ʻoe ʻo ka manawa hope i hana ʻia ʻoiai ua lōʻihi loa ia.
Mai hoʻomāʻewaʻewa iā ʻoe iho i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana he kūpono ia mau makahiki a laila e hoʻokuʻu. ʻO ke kumu o ka hana ʻana o nā keiki pēlā, ʻaʻole lākou i aʻo ʻia i ka hoʻomalu iā lākou iho. ʻAʻole ʻike ka poʻe pehea e hōʻike ai iā lākou iho ma ke ʻano huahana. Pono ʻoe e aʻo iā lākou. ʻO nā keiki i aʻo ʻole i ka hoʻomalu iā lākou iho, ʻoi aku ka makemake e hana me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i ka hopena o kā lākou hana. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻoi aku ko lākou makemake i nā ʻano impulsive a me nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻAʻole kēia wale nō ka makahiki ʻelua i hoʻolei iā lākou iho i ka papahele ma waena o ka hale kūʻai ʻoihana no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke loaʻa ka pāʻani a lākou i makemake ai. Aia kēia me ka 10 makahiki e lawe ana i ka pū i ke kula no ka mea ua huhū lākou i kā lākou mau hoaaloha. Hoʻopili kēia i ka ʻōpio e hoʻolei i ko lākou ola no ka mea ua hoʻoholo lākou e hana i kahi mea maikaʻi a leʻaleʻa paha i kēia manawa. ʻO kēia ke kanaka makua ʻaʻole hiki ke ola i kahi ola hauʻoli huahua no ka mea ua alakaʻi ʻia lākou e ko lākou mau makemake a me nā makemake e ola ai lākou e hoʻokō i nā mea e pono ai.
ʻO ka ʻaoʻao maikaʻi, ʻaʻole ia e lohi a i ʻole ke kakahiaka nui e hoʻomaka ai e aʻo i kāu keiki i ka hoʻomalu iā ia iho. ʻAe, no laila e hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i nā makahiki liʻiliʻi e hala… e hoʻomaka i kēia lā, ʻoiai nā makahiki o kāu keiki, ʻeono mahina.
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Manaʻoʻiʻo a ʻaʻole hoʻomaka ke aʻo ʻana iā ʻoe iho i ka manawa mua loa e uē ai kāu pēpē a pane ʻoe. He nui ka poʻe i manaʻo wahaheʻe hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopōʻino i kahi pēpē ma ka pane mau ʻana i kā lākou uē. ʻO ka noiʻi naʻe, hōʻike ʻia inā ʻoe e pane pololei i ka leo o kāu pēpē, i kona ulu ʻana, e emi ana ka uē. Hoʻokahi wale nō ala o ka pēpē e kamaʻilio ai i kāna mau pono āpau, ʻo ia ka uē. Ma ke ʻano he makua, ʻo kāu hana e hoʻolohe i ka uē a aʻo i ke ʻano o kā lākou uē ʻana a pane aku e like me ia.
Ke neʻe nei lākou i nā makahiki liʻiliʻi, nā makahiki koʻikoʻi, pono ʻoe e manaʻo maoli i kāu keiki i ka liʻiliʻi o ka mana iā ia iho. ʻO ka hapa nui kēia ma muli o ka huhū o nā kamaliʻi no ka hiki ʻole iā lākou ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi i ko lākou mau pono a i ʻole no ka mea liʻiliʻi lākou e hana i kā lākou makemake. No ke kōkua ʻana i kāu keiki liʻiliʻi, makemake paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka mālama ʻana iā ia ma ka papa hana maʻamau, i loaʻa iā ia ka nui o ka hiamoe a me ka ʻai a me ka ʻai. E nānā i kāu keiki no nā hōʻailona o ka luhi a i ʻole ka pōloli.
ʻO kekahi pōmaikaʻi ʻē aʻe i nā makahiki liʻiliʻi ʻo ia ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻohuli ʻia a maʻalahi hoʻi. E kala mai, akā, ʻaʻole wau kekahi o kēlā mau makuahine i hoʻokuʻu i kāna keiki e ʻuā a uē iā ia ke makemake lākou i kekahi mea. Nānā wau iā lākou a ʻōlelo aku, "Ke ʻoluʻolu ʻoe e haʻi mai iaʻu i kāu makemake e hoʻolohe wau iā ʻoe." E uē a uē hou lākou, e hana hou au i ka mea like. ʻO ke kolu o ko lākou ʻuā ʻana a me ka uē, nānā au iā lākou a ʻōlelo aku, “Inā makemake ʻoe iaʻu e kōkua iā ʻoe, pono ʻoe e haʻi mai iaʻu i kāu makemake. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo i ka uē a me ka uē ʻana. ʻO ka manawa holoʻokoʻa wau e noho ai a kū paha ma laila me lākou a mālama i ka maka me lākou. Ke hoʻomaka nei lākou e noho i lalo, e nīnau wau iā lākou i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā koho lehulehu. "Makemake anei ʻoe i kēlā a me kēia...." I ka hopena, e ʻōlelo wau, "ʻAʻole anei i maʻalahi ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā huaʻōlelo me ka uē a me ka uē ʻana i hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa kāu mea i makemake ai?" I ka wā ʻekolu a ʻehā, hele mai lākou i o mākou nei me ka uē ʻana, paʻa mākou iā lākou a mālie lākou a haʻi mai iā mākou i ka hewa a i ʻole nā mea e pono ai lākou me ka ʻole o kā mākou ʻōlelo nui ʻana.
ʻO kahi ʻāpana o ke aʻo ʻana i ka hoʻomalu iā ʻoe iho i kēia makahiki ʻo ia ke aʻo ʻana i ka hana ʻae ʻia. ʻAʻole ʻae ʻia ke kīloi ʻana, ke kuʻi, ka nahu a me ka hana ʻana. He maʻalahi kaʻu hana no kēia. He hoʻokahi, ʻelua, hana hana. E lawe kākou i ka nahu ʻana. ʻO ka manawa mua i hana ai kekahi o kā mākou mau keiki i kēia, ʻōlelo mākou iā lākou ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia ka nahu ʻana a ʻaʻole pono lākou e hana hou. ʻO ka lua o ka manawa, haʻi hou ʻia lākou ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻae ʻia a inā e hana hou ʻia lākou e nahu ʻia. ʻO ke kolu o koʻu lālau ʻana i ko lākou lima a nahu. Manaʻo paha ʻoe he hewa wau no ia mea, akā pono nā keiki e ʻike i ka wā i hewa ai kekahi ʻano, pono lākou e ʻike i ke ʻano o ka hana like ʻana iā lākou (no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou makemake e hana i kahi mea a lākou i ʻike ʻole ai. ʻoluʻolu) a pono lākou e ʻike aia nā hopena i kā lākou hana.
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ʻO kēia ka makahiki kahi e launa pū ai lākou me nā keiki ʻē aʻe i ko lākou mau makahiki. No laila, he mea nui ke aʻo ʻana i kāu keiki pehea e kamaʻilio ai i kona mau manaʻo. He mea nui ke aʻo ʻana iā lākou i nā ala kūpono e hoʻoponopono ai i ka hakakā. Eia kekahi laʻana, ke pāʻani nei lāua me kahi hoaaloha a makemake lāua i ka pāʻani like. Loaʻa i ka hoaaloha a hana kāu keiki, hoʻāʻo e hakakā me ke hoaaloha. ʻAʻole ʻae ʻia kēia, pono ʻoe e komo i loko a aʻo iā lākou i ka hoʻomalu iā lākou iho. Mai uwē aku iā lākou, a e hoapono i kā lākou hana.
E haʻi iā lākou ma kahi o ka hakakā ʻana a me ka nalo ʻana i kahi hoaaloha hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi e hoʻololi me ka pāʻani. A i ʻole e hōʻike iā lākou i kahi mea pāʻani ʻē aʻe e like me ka hoihoi i hiki iā lākou ke pāʻani pū. E paipai i kāu keiki e kamaʻilio ma mua o ka hana ʻana. Inā pono, e haʻi iā lākou e haʻalele i kahi kūlana e "hoʻomaha" a laila hoʻi i ke kūlana.
10-12 mau makahiki
ʻO kaʻu mau makahiki punahele, no ka mea, hiki i kāu keiki ke hoʻomaopopo i kona mau manaʻo ponoʻī. ʻO ia hoʻi ke hana lākou i kekahi ʻano hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau iā lākou no ke aha lākou i hana ai pēlā. He mea nui kēia no nā kumu ʻelua. Hoʻokahi ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu ma hope o kahi ʻano a ʻo ka lua e ʻike lākou i ke kumu i hana ai lākou i kā lākou hana i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana. Hāʻawi i kahi ala maikaʻi aʻe e mālama ai i ko lākou manaʻo i hiki ke hoʻokō ʻia kahi hopena i makemake ʻia. ʻO kēia kahi āu e makemake ai e koʻikoʻi he mea nui e noʻonoʻo i kāu mea e hana ai ma mua o kou hana ʻana. Pono wau e wehewehe i kēia, pono lākou e hoʻomaopopo pehea e noʻonoʻo ai i ka hopena o kā lākou hana.
13-17 mau makahiki
Hauʻoli nō wau i kēia pūʻulu makahiki. I kēia manawa hiki i kāu keiki ke hoʻomalu i ka hapa nui o kāna mau hana a me kāna mau ʻano. Akā i kēia manawa ua loaʻa iā lākou ka hoʻoikaika ʻana o nā hoa. ʻO kēia kahi he mea nui e hoʻokumu i kahi pilina ākea me kāu keiki. Makemake ʻoe e kamaʻilio lākou iā ʻoe e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei i ko lākou ola, nā kūlana a lākou e holo ai, pehea ke ʻano o kā lākou mau hoaaloha. ʻOiai ke manaʻolana nei ʻoe ua ʻike kāu keiki i ka mea i ʻae ʻia a me ka mea ʻole, ʻokoʻa loa ia ke hoʻopuni ʻia lākou e kāna mau hoaaloha. No laila, i ka wā e pili ana i nā pilikia o ka hoʻomalu iā ia iho, pono i kāu keiki e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka hopena o kāna mau hana no ka wā lōʻihi. ʻAʻole ka mea e hiki mai ana ke hoʻi lākou i ka home a ʻike ʻoe, akā he aha ke ʻano o kēia iā lākou no ka makahiki aʻe… a ʻelua a ʻekolu paha.
ʻO ke kumuhana kumu o ke aʻo ʻana i ka hoʻomalu iā lākou iho i kēlā me kēia makahiki, ʻo ia ke aʻo a ʻike nā keiki aia nā hopena i kā lākou hana. ʻO nā hopena maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole, akā nā hopena. ʻO kāu hana ma ke ʻano he makua ke aʻo iā lākou pehea e loaʻa ai nā hopena maikaʻi aʻe ma mua o nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO ia hoʻi, pono ʻoe e hoʻolohe i kāu keiki, ʻike i kāu mau keiki a hahai i kāu mea e hoʻāʻo nei e aʻo iā lākou.
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He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai ma mua o 12 mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻelua me hoʻokahi ma ke ala, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua a me nā hauʻoli a me nā loli i ka wā hāpai. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻakaʻaka a uē a hauʻoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he mau makuahine mākou!
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