na Jennifer Shakeel
Aia kekahi mea i hānau ʻia i kēlā me kēia keiki a kōkua mākou ma ke ʻano he mau mākua iā lākou e hoʻonui a luku loa paha. Ke kamaʻilio nei au e pili ana i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho. E lawe i kekahi hui o nā keiki, a i ʻole nā kānaka, a e ʻimi ana ʻoe i ka poʻe i hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, ka poʻe i maopopo ʻole a me nā mea ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole. Inā loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho, he aha ka mea e ʻoliʻoli ai kekahi poʻe iā ia a makemake wale kekahi. ʻO nā mākua ka pane. E manaʻoʻiʻo a ʻaʻole ʻo nā mea a pau āu e launa pū ai me kāu keiki e hoʻoikaika a hoʻonui i ko lākou hilinaʻi a hōʻino paha.
Ke ʻōlelo nei au i kēia me ka akahele, no ka mea, ʻo wai kāu keiki e hana nui i ke ʻano o ka lawe ʻana i kēlā mau pilina a hoʻohana iā lākou e lilo i poʻe ponoʻī. Eia kekahi laʻana, ʻekolu keiki i loko o koʻu ʻohana. ʻO wau ka hiapo, he kaikaina koʻu a he kaikaina hoʻi. Ua hānai ʻia mākou a pau i ka hale hoʻokahi e nā mākua hoʻokahi, akā ua lilo mākou i ʻekolu mau kānaka like ʻole. Me ka hele ʻole ʻana i nā kikoʻī, e ʻōlelo wale mākou e ʻae ke ʻano o kekahi mau keiki iā lākou e lawe i ka pilikia a hoʻohana ia mea e kūkulu ai i ko lākou ikaika, a e lawe kekahi mau keiki i ka pilikia a hāʻule i laila, haʻalele a manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole lawa lākou e lanakila. ia.
E noʻonoʻo i kēia e pili ana i kāu mau keiki. E noʻonoʻo pehea ʻoe e launa pū me kēlā me kēia keiki a me kāna hana i kēlā me kēia keiki. I kēia pule e hoʻomau wau i ke kōkua ʻana iā ʻoe e kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho i kāu mau keiki. ʻAʻole ia he mea nui inā he 3 a 13 paha kāu keiki, ʻaʻole i lōʻihi ka hoʻomaka ʻana… hiki ke lōʻihi ke ʻelemakule akā ʻaʻole i lohi.
E hoʻomaka kākou me ke ʻano o ka hilinaʻi ponoʻī, ʻo ia ka manaʻoʻiʻo i loaʻa iā mākou kēlā me kēia i ko mākou hiki. ʻO ia ka leo o loko e haʻi iā mākou e hilinaʻi mākou iā mākou iho, e hilinaʻi i kā mākou hiki i kā mākou hoʻoholo a me kā mākou koho. ʻO ia hoʻi ka mīkini liʻiliʻi i hiki ke noho i loko o ko mākou mau manaʻo e ʻōlelo ana, "Manaʻo wau hiki iaʻu, manaʻo wau hiki iaʻu, ʻike wau hiki iaʻu." No laila pehea ʻoe e hoʻoikaika ai i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho?
Manaʻo kōkua 1: Mahalo ʻO wai lākou
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ʻO kaʻu manaʻo ma ʻaneʻi, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻohālikelike i kāu keiki me kekahi, ʻoi aku hoʻi i kekahi kaikaina. ʻOiai ua hewa mākou a pau i kekahi manawa a i ʻole, ʻaʻole wau i ʻike he hiki ke kōkua ʻia, akā hiki ke kaupalena ʻia. Ke hoʻohālikelike ʻoe i kāu keiki me kekahi keiki ʻē aʻe, ke hoʻohaʻahaʻa nei ʻoe iā lākou iho. ʻAʻole mākou i hele mai mai kahi ʻoki kuki mai, no laila, ʻokoʻa mākou a pono e hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia no ka mea ʻaʻole mākou i ʻāhewa ʻia no ka ʻoki ʻole ʻana i ka ʻoki kuki.
Manaʻo kōkua 2: Mai hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka hiki o kāu keiki
E manaʻoʻiʻo a ʻaʻole paha i ka wā e pāʻani ana ʻoe me kāu keiki hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kāu keiki. I kēlā me kēia manawa āu e ʻōlelo ai, "E ʻae mai iaʻu e hana i kēlā no ʻoe," ke hoʻopau nei ʻoe i ko lākou hilinaʻi i loko. Aʻo mākou pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i ka pilikia inā pono mākou e noʻonoʻo i ke ala e hana ai nā mea. No laila ma kahi o ka hāʻawi ʻana e hana no lākou no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hakakā lākou, e nīnau iā lākou inā aia kekahi ala ʻē aʻe e hiki ai iā lākou ke ʻike e hiki iā lākou ke hoʻāʻo e hoʻokō i kā lākou pahuhopu.
Manaʻo kōkua 3: E paipai i ka pilina pilikanaka
He mea nui ka pilikanaka no ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho. ʻO kēia no ka mea hiki iā mākou ke noho a pau ma ka home ma ko mākou wahi pilikino a manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo mākou ke aliʻi a i ʻole mōʻīwahine o kekahi mea i hāʻawi ʻia, akā ke hele mākou i ka honua maoli a ʻike i ka hoʻokūkū ʻo ia ka manawa e hoʻāʻo maoli ʻia ai ko mākou hilinaʻi ponoʻī. Hiki i ka Socialization ke ʻimi i nā manawa kūpono a kōkua iā lākou e hana i nā ikaika i loaʻa iā lākou.
Manaʻo kōkua 4: ʻO ke kūlike ka lua o nā kulekele maikaʻi loa
Ke loaʻa i kahi keiki nā palena ikaika a kamaʻāina, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā ʻike hou a emi ʻole ka makaʻu i nā kūlana hou.
Manaʻo kōkua 5: He hana maʻamau
Me ka hoʻomau ʻana e hele mau, hilinaʻi a kūpaʻa. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hana maʻamau i kēlā me kēia lā e kōkua i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi.
Manaʻo kōkua 6: Hoʻokomo i nā kūlana hou ma ke kumu maʻamau
E ho'āʻo e hoʻolauna i kāu keiki i kahi kahua pāʻani hou, a i ʻole e lawe iā ia ma nā ala hele like ʻole, a i ʻole e kipa i nā hale kūʻai like ʻole. E paipai i kāu keiki e ʻimi i ke kaiapuni hou. E hele e ʻike i ka pāʻani pōpōpō, a i ʻole kahi pāʻani a i ʻole kiʻiʻoniʻoni ma kahi hale keaka hou.
Manaʻo kōkua 7: E wehewehe, hoʻonaʻauao, kamaʻilio, hoʻolohe, paipai, hoʻomaikaʻi, kākoʻo a hauʻoli.
E kamaʻilio me kāu mau keiki e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo ponoʻī, kou mau makaʻu, nā moeʻuhane a me nā manaʻolana. E kōkua kēia i ka paipai ʻana i kāu keiki e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kona mau manaʻo. Mai hoʻokuke aku i kāu keiki ke hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e kamaʻilio me ʻoe e pili ana i kēia mau mea. E lawe i ka manawa e hoʻolohe ai iā lākou. E nānā iā lākou ke kamaʻilio pū lākou me ʻoe. E hana maʻa i ka haʻi ʻana iā lākou i hoʻokahi mea maikaʻi e pili ana iā lākou i kēlā me kēia pō ke waiho ʻoe iā lākou e moe. E haʻi iā lākou i kahi mea āu e mahalo ai i kā lākou hana. "Makemake loa au i kou kōkua ʻana i kou kaikuahine me nā kīʻaha ma hope o ka ʻaina ahiahi."
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