Parenting Manaʻo makua

Nā Manaʻo Mākua i kēlā me kēia pule: E lilo nā keiki i kamaliʻi

E lilo kāu keiki i kamaliʻi, me ka nānā ʻole i kona mau makahiki. No ke kōkua ʻana e hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻaihue kāu keiki i kona wā ʻōpiopio, eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua hiki iā ʻoe ke hahai, hoʻokahi no kēlā me kēia lā o ka pule.

keiki-paʻa-lima.jpgI kekahi manawa, kahaha iaʻu i nā koi i kau ʻia i nā keiki i kēia mau lā. ʻOiai ma ke ʻano he mau mākua hiki iā mākou ke ʻōlelo he "ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī" a laila hana kā mākou poʻe keiki i kēia manawa no ka mea pono mākou e noʻonoʻo a pāʻani me ko mākou noʻonoʻo kahi i kēia manawa aia nā pāʻani wikiō a me nā kamepiula. E nānā kākou, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻopaʻa ʻia ke koʻikoʻi e kau ʻia ana i nā keiki i kēia lā e ulu wikiwiki.

Loaʻa iā mākou i nā haʻuki he nui, koi mākou iā lākou e komo i nā hui like ʻole, hoʻoikaika ko lākou mau hoa iā lākou e ʻoi aku ka makua a me ka ʻaʻahu ʻana i ke kanaka makua a paipai ka media i kēia. E nānā i nā mea pāʻani a mākou e makemake ai e pāʻani pū me kā mākou mau kaikamahine liʻiliʻi, ʻo Bratz lāua ʻo Barbie… a i ʻole e nānā i ke ʻano o nā lole i loaʻa, he hala ʻole ia mau mea pāʻani iā ​​ʻoe?

Ke hala koke nei ke ola iā mākou e like me ia. E lilo kāu keiki i kamaliʻi, me ka nānā ʻole i kona mau makahiki. No ke kōkua ʻana e hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻaihue kāu keiki i kona wā ʻōpiopio, eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo hiki iā ʻoe ke hahai, hoʻokahi no kēlā me kēia lā o ka pule e noʻonoʻo ai.

Nā Manaʻo Mākua o nā Lāhina: E hoʻonoho i nā palena akā e ʻoiaʻiʻo!

Me he mea lā ʻekolu ʻano o nā mākua. ʻO ka poʻe i kaupalena ʻole i kā lākou mau keiki, ʻo ka poʻe i loaʻa i nā palena he nui loa i kā lākou mau keiki a laila ka pūʻulu waena hauʻoli i loaʻa nā palena maoli. Me kēlā ʻōlelo ʻana, ma mua o kou lele ʻana a ʻōlelo ʻo ia ke ʻano o kaʻu makua e ʻae mai iaʻu e wehewehe. ʻO nā mākua "ʻaʻohe palena" ʻo ia ka poʻe e manaʻo nei e hana maikaʻi ana lākou i kā lākou mau keiki ma ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā lākou i ka ʻuhane kūʻokoʻa a ʻaʻole lākou e kau i nā kapu e like me ka manawa moe, ke ʻano, ka ʻano a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. A laila aia nā mākua i ʻae ʻole i kā lākou mau keiki e hana i kekahi mea. ʻAʻole holo, lele, ʻuā, ʻuā, pāʻani nui… ʻike ʻia nā keiki a lohe ʻole ʻia a i ka wā e ʻike ʻia ai, pono lākou e hoʻomaʻemaʻe a hoʻoponopono. ʻOi aku koʻu hoa pili i ke kanaka makua a ʻo ke keiki.
E hoʻonoho i nā palena, pono nā keiki i nā palena e aʻo i ka mea i ʻae ʻia a me ka mea ʻole. Pono lākou e kūʻokoʻa e ʻimi a ulu ma ke ʻano he kanaka. No laila, inā makemake kāu keiki ʻekolu makahiki e holo olohelohe i loko o ka hale me ka pāpale a hoʻohālike ʻo ia he superhero, e ʻae iā lākou. ʻAʻole e mau ka māhele… a he mea hilahila iā ʻoe ke hala.

Manaʻo Manaʻo Mākua i ka Pōʻalua: E hana i ka hana i ke ola o kāu keiki

No kaʻu mau keiki kēia ʻōlelo, i ko mākou noho ʻana a kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia ʻāpana. Ke pāʻani ʻoe me lākou e paipai ana ʻoe iā lākou e pāʻani. Ke hōʻike nei ʻoe iā lākou he mea nui e hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa o kāu lā luhi, me ka nānā ʻole i nā koi i laila e pāʻani ai.

Nā Manaʻo Mākua o ka Pōʻakolu: E hoʻolohe i kā lākou ʻōlelo

Inā makemake ʻoe e lilo kāu keiki i kamaliʻi a laila e hoʻolohe iā ia ke kamaʻilio. Ke nīnau nei paha ʻoe pehea e kōkua ai i kāu keiki e noho keiki. E hai aku ana au ia oe. Hōʻike ia iā lākou he waiwai i kā lākou ʻōlelo. E mahalo ʻoe iā lākou a me kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei, ʻoiai inā he 3, 10, 13, 16, a i ʻole 18 paha lākou. lakou o ko lakou wa kamalii. E hilinaʻi mai iaʻu, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻolohe iā lākou i ko lākou hoʻāʻo ʻana e kamaʻilio me ʻoe, e loaʻa iā lākou kahi ala e ʻike ai ʻoe a i ʻole e ʻike ʻia e kekahi… lawe.

Manaʻo Manaʻo Mākua i nā Pōʻalima: E ʻoluʻolu ke kamaʻilio me kāu mau keiki

Ua lawa ka negativity o ko mākou honua i ʻole e pono i kā mākou mau keiki ke kiʻi mai iā mākou. No laila inā loaʻa kahi pāʻani a makana paha a lākou e makemake ai no ka mea ua loaʻa i kā lākou mau hoaaloha a pau, e wehewehe iā lākou ma ke ʻano kūpono i ke kumu ʻaʻole lākou e pono ai. Ke hana hewa lākou, e hoʻāʻo e kamaʻilio me ka naʻauao e pili ana i ke kumu i hewa ai. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hana hou lākou pono lākou e hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu i hewa ai.

Manaʻo Manaʻo Mākua i ka Pōʻalima: Hāʻawi i kāu mau keiki i manawa e hōʻike ai i kā lākou makemake

No laila makemake ʻoe i ke kolepa, a i ʻole ke kūʻai aku, a i ʻole hele i ka ʻili a manaʻo ʻoe makemake kāu mau keiki i kēlā mau mea. Ua nīnau paha ʻoe i kāu mau keiki i ka mea a lākou e hauʻoli ai? A i ʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ua hoʻolohe ʻoe iā lākou i kā lākou kamaʻilio ʻana e lohe i nā mea hoihoi loa iā lākou. No ka laʻana, ua ʻike mākou he hoihoi maoli kā kā mākou keiki i ka lawaiʻa no ka mea e ala ʻo ia i kakahiaka nui a nānā i nā hōʻike lawaiʻa ma mua o ko mākou ala ʻana a ma ka ʻaina kakahiaka e haʻi mai ʻo ia iā mākou. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i haʻi mai iā mākou i kona makemake e aʻo i ka lawaiʻa, a i ʻole makemake ʻo ia i ka lawaiʻa. Akā, ua kamaʻilio ʻo ia e pili ana, a e hauʻoli ʻo ia a hauʻoli ʻo ia i ia mea. Hoʻolohe mākou, a loaʻa iā ia kahi pou a kauoha kona makuakāne iā ia i mau lures a aʻo ʻo ia iā ia iho i ka lawaiʻa ma ka loko ma muli o kāna mea i nānā ai ma ke kīwī.

Manaʻo Manaʻo Mākua i ka Pōʻaono: E Mākua i kāu mau keiki, Mai hāʻawi i kāu mau keiki

He mea nui kēia! Ua hewa ko'u mau makua a pela no na makua o ka'u kane. A ua hana mākou i nā mea āpau i hiki ʻole ke hana i kēia i kā mākou mau keiki. ʻO ʻoe ka makua, ʻo lākou ke keiki… mai kau i kāu kuleana ma luna o lākou. ʻAʻole na kāu keiki e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka hale holoʻokoʻa, e hopohopo e pili ana i ka uku ʻana i nā bila, e mālama i nā mea ʻē aʻe o ka hale. ʻAe, hiki iā lākou ke kōkua, ʻae, pono iā lākou ke kuleana no ko lākou lumi a me kā lākou mau mea… akā pau ia ma laila. Hoʻomanaʻo wau ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia e ʻai i ka ʻaina ahiahi a hiki i koʻu hānai ʻana i koʻu kaikaina a me koʻu kaikunāne. He 6 au makahiki.

Nā Manaʻo Mākua i nā Lāpule: Ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kou wā kamaliʻi, e ʻae iā lākou e loaʻa iā lākou

Mai noho aloha ma o kāu mau keiki. E hāʻawi iā lākou i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi. ʻAʻole pili ka mea āu i hana ai i ko lākou mau makahiki, a i ʻole kāu hana i ko lākou mau makahiki. Ua hala kou manawa, e leʻaleʻa iā lākou a noho i hope a hauʻoli pū me lākou.

Kawaihae
He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai ma mua o 12 mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻelua me hoʻokahi ma ke ala, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua a me nā hauʻoli a me nā loli i ka wā hāpai. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻakaʻaka a uē a hauʻoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he mau makuahine mākou!

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