ʻO ka hapa nui o nā makua kāne i ka manawa mua a i ʻole nā mākua e manaʻo nei he nui nā manaʻo e pili ana i ke ʻano a me ke ʻano o ka makua kāne. ʻO kēia mau manaʻo he ʻāpana ia o kou hānai ʻana, kou pilina me kou makuakāne a me nā manaʻo o ka hoʻolālā kaiaulu āu e noho ai mai kahi makua kāne. Eia naʻe, ʻo ka manaʻo kuhihewa nui loa a ka hapa nui o nā mākua e pili ana i ka makua kāne, ʻaʻole koi nā pēpē hou i ko lākou mau makua kāne.
ʻO ka pilina ma waena o ka makuahine a me kāna pēpē, ʻo ia ka pilina paʻa loa ʻaʻole hiki ke wāwahi ʻia a waiho pinepine ʻia ʻoe e noʻonoʻo inā pono kāu pēpē iā ʻoe. E hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe ua hana ʻo ia, no ka mea, ua hana nui ʻoe i ka lawe ʻana iā ia i kēia ao, a hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoluʻolu a hōʻoluʻolu hoʻi i ka pēpē, e like me ka hiki i kāu hoa hana ke hānai i ka pēpē. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopaʻa i kāu pilina me kāu pēpē ma o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana iā ia, ka luli ʻana a me ka uē ʻana. Eia naʻe, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka kali ʻana a hiki i ka hānai ʻana o ka pēpē. Ma kēia ala hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae i kāu hoa e hoʻōla hou ma hope o ka hānai ʻana.
ʻO ka makua kāne, e like me ka makuahine, hiki ke paʻakikī i kekahi manawa, akā hiki ke hoʻokele ʻia inā makemake ʻoe. He mau pilikia hou paha kāu e kū ai a eia kekahi mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka hana ʻana iā lākou:
ʻO ka mea mua e noho mālie. I ka wā o ka hāpai ʻana, ke hele nei kāu hoa i loko o kahi wā traumatic, a me ka nui o nā pilikia kino e like me ka nausea, ka ʻeha a me nā ʻano ʻike ʻole, a me ka nui o ka naʻau i ka manawa like e pili ana i ka nalowale o ka ikehu a me ka nalowale o ka nani kino. i loaa iaia. Hiki paha i kāu wahine ke ʻeha, ke kaumaha a me ka ʻeha pōloli ʻoiai ua ʻai wale ʻo ia, a ʻaʻole pōloli paha ʻoiai ʻaʻole i ʻai ʻia. Hiki ke pehu a ʻeha paha kona mau umauma i kēia manawa ma muli o ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka hormonal a pehu pū kekahi o kona mau wāwae. E ʻeha kona kua i nā wā hope o ka hāpai ʻana a hiki koke mai nā maʻi allergies i loaʻa ʻole iā ia ma mua. Akā ʻo ka mea ʻino loa, hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaka e hoʻohewa iā ʻoe no kona kūlana, ʻoi aku ka nui inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i kākoʻo iā ia i loko o kēia pilikia. ʻO ka mea wale nō āu e hiki ai a i ʻole pono e hana i kēia manawa, ʻo ka hoʻomanawanui a kākoʻo a me ke aloha me ia i nā mea āpau āu e hiki ai.
ʻAʻole nalo paha ʻo ia i ka makemake i ka moe kolohe i ka wā o kona hāpai ʻana, a ua maikaʻi ke moe kolohe a hiki i ka lohi o kona hāpai ʻana. Inā nele ʻo ia i ka makemake i ka moe kolohe, mai hopohopo, e maikaʻi nā mea a pau ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o ke pēpē. ʻAʻole kēia ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai i kāu mau pono, no laila e kau i kāna mau pono ma luna o kāu i kēia manawa a mai hoʻoikaika iā ia. E hōʻoia mau ʻoe e nānā me kāu ʻoihana mālama ola inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi hopohopo.
E hoʻokuʻu ʻia kāu kuleana i ka hoʻomanawanui i ka wā hāpai a me ka hana ʻana, no ka mea, ʻaʻohe mea nui āu e hiki ai ke hana, koe wale nō ka hoʻomanawanui a me ke kākoʻo ʻana i kēia manawa. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua maoli iā ia e amo i kāna ukana e hāʻawi iā ia i kahi hōʻoluʻolu a ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa āu e hana ai, ʻo ia ke hōʻoluʻolu iā ia i ka naʻau a mālama iā ia i ka ʻoluʻolu e like me ka hiki. ʻO kekahi mea āu e hana ai, ʻo ia ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka mea e hana nei a mākaukau no ia. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o kou hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā hoʻololi e hana nei, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou hiki ke hōʻoluʻolu i kāu wahine. ʻO nā manawa pilikia loa ka mua a me ke kolu o ka trimesters. E kū ana nā kāne a pau i nā pilikia he nui i kēia manawa. Hoʻokomo pū ʻia ka hāpai ʻana i kekahi mau hōʻailona makaʻu i ka hapa nui o ia mau mea ke kumu nui o ka ʻeha. E hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ia nā hōʻailona āpau o ka hāpai olakino.
ʻO kekahi mau makaʻu maʻamau o nā makua kāne hou e kamaʻilio ʻia ma lalo nei:
ʻO ka makaʻu maʻamau o ka hapa nui o nā makua kāne, ʻo ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana o ka pilina me kā lākou hoa ma muli o ka loli o kona ʻano. ʻOiai ʻo ke ʻano o ke ʻano he ʻāpana o kēlā me kēia hāpai ʻana, ʻaʻole ia mai ka mana o kāu hoa, no laila e kākoʻo a hoʻomanaʻo e pau koke ia i ka wā e hoʻopaʻa ai nā hormones. He manawa kēia e ʻimi ai i nā ala ʻē aʻe e kamaʻilio ai.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, hopohopo nā kāne o nalowale lākou i ko lākou ola kaiaulu ke hoʻomaka lākou i kahi ʻohana. Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe i ʻohana, e ʻike ʻoe ua loli mau kou ola. Pono ʻoe e hoʻopaʻa pū me kou ʻohana ma ka hoʻolimalima manawa me lākou. Akā, pono ʻoe e ʻike pū i kāu mau hoaaloha.
No laila, pono ʻoe e hoʻoikaika e hoʻokō i ke kaulike kūpono ma waena o waho a me ka home e ʻoluʻolu ai ʻoe a me kāu wahine. Pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo pono e loaʻa iā ia kahi manawa no ia iho.
ʻO ka makaʻu maʻamau e make ka wahine mai ka pilina ma hope o ka hāpai ʻana. ʻOiai e loli ana ka libido o ka wahine i ka wā a ma hope koke o kona hāpai ʻana, aia iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo he nui nā loli o kāu wahine i kona noʻonoʻo, kino a me ke ola. Nau ke kuleana e kūkākūkā i nā manaʻo o kāu hoa a e ʻimi i nā ala ʻē aʻe e noho pili ai e like me ke kamaʻilio ʻana a me ka lomilomi ʻana i kekahi i kekahi.
Ke hopohopo nei ka nui o nā kāne no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i mākaukau e lilo i makua kāne. ʻAʻohe kumu e hopohopo ai, no ka mea, he mea maʻamau kēia a he kumu paha ia e kahaha ai ka ʻike ʻana i kou ʻano makua maoli i ko lākou lawe ʻana.
Hiki ke paʻakikī a paʻakikī ka makua kāne i kekahi manawa, a manaʻo pinepine paha ʻoe e loli nui kou ola. E ka makua i ka makua, ʻaʻole wau e hoʻokamakama iā ʻoe, ʻae, ʻo ka lilo ʻana i makua e hoʻololi nui i kou ola. No ka maikaʻi. ʻAʻohe mea ʻoluʻolu aʻe ma mua o ka noho ʻana ma laila no ka hānau ʻana o kāu keiki kāne a kaikamahine hou. ʻAʻohe mea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana i kāu keiki e hana i kāna mau ʻanuʻu mua, e ʻōlelo ana ʻo 'pāpā' no ka manawa mua, e kiʻi ana i kāna pahuhopu pōkā mua, a i ʻole kekahi o nā hana mua he nui. ʻO ʻoe ko lākou honua a makemake nui lākou iā ʻoe e like me ko lākou makuahine, e nānā i luna, e aʻo mai, a e aloha.
ʻAe, hiki i ka makua kāne ke pilikia i kekahi manawa ke ʻike ʻole ʻoe i ka mea e hana ai, a ʻaʻohe mea hiki ke wānana e like me ka wā ma mua. Akā i ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai ka huakaʻi, hiki iaʻu ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe he hiki a lilo ia i mea ʻoluʻolu a maikaʻi loa no kēlā me kēia kanaka.
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Aloha mai! ʻO wau ʻo Kevin, ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu a me ka luna hoʻoponopono o More4Kids International, he kumuwaiwai piha no nā mākua ma ka honua holoʻokoʻa. ʻO kaʻu misionari e hoʻolako i nā mākua me nā mea hana a me nā ʻike e pono ai lākou e hānai i nā keiki ʻokoʻa.
Ma ke ʻano he makua kāne no ʻelua keiki kāne maikaʻi ʻole, ua ʻike wau i ka rollercoaster o ka makua, a ʻo kēia mau ʻike e hoʻoikaika i koʻu hoʻolaʻa ʻana i ka hana ʻana iā More4Kids i alakaʻi hilinaʻi no nā mākua. Hāʻawi kā mākou kahua i ka ʻike nui, mai nā hacks makua mālama manawa i nā hoʻolālā meaʻai meaʻai no nā ʻohana nui, a me nā hoʻolālā no ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻana me nā ʻōpio.
Ma waho aʻe o kaʻu kuleana ʻoihana, he makua kūpaʻa wau e hoʻokūkū nei i ka manaʻo o ka noʻonoʻo nui i ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki kūpaʻa a kūleʻa. Paʻa wau i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i kēia manaʻo i kaʻu mau keiki ponoʻī a makemake nui wau i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i nā mākua ʻē aʻe e hana like.
E hui pū me aʻu i kēia huakaʻi maikaʻi ʻoiai mākou e ʻimi pū ai i ka paʻakikī o ka noho makua. Ma o More4Kids, ke hāpai nei mākou i ka hanauna hou o nā keiki kupaianaha a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i nā ʻohana, hoʻokahi ʻōlelo makua i ka manawa.
Ua kākau ʻia ʻo More4kids no nā mākua e nā mākua.
ʻO kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻo maikaʻi ma aneʻi. ʻElua mau mea aʻu e hoʻohui ai, ʻoiai ua ʻoi aku au ma mua o hoʻokahi makahiki i nā mea makua kāne:
— He naʻaupō ia, akā e hoʻonoho i kekahi mau kuleana a me nā manaʻo me kāu wahine ma mua o ka hiki ʻana mai o ke keiki. ʻAe, he hoʻololi nui ka loaʻa ʻana o ka mua. Akā ʻo ka ʻike ʻole i ka mea e ala aʻe no ka hānai ʻana i ka pō a i ka wā e hele ai ʻoe i kahi papa e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēlā mau hoʻoponopono ma mua o ka mea e pono ai. ʻO ka pāʻani ʻana i ka roshambo no ka mea e ala ana i ke aumoe e hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe kekahi i kekahi.
— Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe, ua mākaukau paha ʻoe. ʻO ia wale nō ke makemake ʻoe e lilo i makua kāne maikaʻi.
— Mai hopohopo no ka "nalo ʻana i kou ola". ʻO ka mea a mākou i ʻike ai ua kōkua kā mākou keikikāne iā mākou e hoʻonohonoho i nā mea mua. Kūleʻa mākou i nā mea a mākou e makemake ai e hana, me ka mālama ʻana i nā kuleana ʻaʻole mākou i komo.