na Jennifer Shakeel
Inā paha ʻoe i ʻike he ADD kāu keiki a i ʻole he mea āu i hana ai no kekahi manawa, he mea nui e ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hana i kēia ma kāu iho. ʻO ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hele wale i kēia. Inā makemake ʻoe e ʻike i kāu keiki e kūleʻa ana iā ʻoe a pono kou "kauhale" e komo i ka mālama pono a me ke alakaʻi ʻana i kāu keiki ADD.
Aia i kou “kauhale” ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa o ke keiki. ʻO kēia ka mea mua loa. E kamaʻilio me ka ʻohana pili a me ka ʻohana nui. ʻO kēia ka poʻe i ʻike nui i kāu keiki. Mai hoʻopaʻa inoa i kāu keiki, a mai hoʻopaʻa inoa i nā mea ʻē aʻe o ka ʻohana iā ia. ʻAʻole lākou he "kūikawā" a ʻaʻole lākou he "keiki pilikia". ʻO ia nā lepili ʻelua e alakaʻi iaʻu i luna o ka pā. Ke nīnau ka poʻe, "Ua lawe ʻo ia i kā lākou lāʻau lapaʻau i kēia lā," mai pane i kēlā nīnau. E pane me "He mau lā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o kēlā me kēia kanaka." Pono ka ʻohana e noʻonoʻo nui i nā hoʻoholo a laila ka pilikia a pono lākou e hana pū ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana. Eia kekahi mau alakaʻi no ka ʻohana:
- E hoʻomaikaʻi i ka hui i loko o ka home. E kōkua ke kauoha i ka hoʻemi ʻana i nā mea hoʻohilahila.
- E hoʻonohonoho i kahi papa hana maʻamau. E kōkua kēia i kāu keiki e ʻike i ka wā e manaʻo ai i kekahi mau mea e like me ka "manawa mālie," ka ʻaina kakahiaka, ka ʻaina awakea a me ka ʻaina ahiahi, ka wā moe, ka manawa ala, ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa.
- Ke kamaʻilio ʻoe a i ʻole kou ʻohana me kāu keiki, e ʻike pono ʻoe e nānā maka ana me ke keiki.
- Inā loaʻa i kāu keiki ka papa inoa o nā hana e hana ai, e hāʻawi iā ia i hoʻokahi hana i ka manawa a e hoʻopau iā ia ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ia i ka hana aʻe. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he pilikia ka nānā ʻana a mākou e kamaʻilio nei. ʻAʻole pono ka hoʻouna ʻana iā lākou i ko lākou lumi e hoʻomaʻemaʻe. Hele lākou a hoʻomaka e ʻohi i kekahi mea a laila hoʻomaka lākou e pāʻani me ia.
ʻO ka hui aʻe ma ka "kauhale" he mau kumu a me nā mea mālama. Inā pono kāu keiki e hele i ka mālama lā, pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio me ka mea mālama. E hōʻike iā lākou i ka mea e hana nei a pehea e hiki ai iā lākou ke kōkua. Pela no na kumu. Noho mau mākou me nā kumu a kā mākou keiki. Hoʻololi mākou i nā helu kelepona, leka uila a hui mākou i kēlā me kēia manawa i ka makahiki kula.
ʻO ke kumu o kēia, ʻo ia ka pahuhopu like e kōkua i kāu keiki e holomua. E hōʻoia i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana o nā kumu i ʻole e hoʻonoho i kāu keiki ma kahi o nā keiki hoʻohaunaele. E noi e hoʻokomo i mua o ka lumi papa, me ko lākou kua i nā puka makani. ʻO ka pahuhopu ma ʻaneʻi ʻo ka hoʻemi ʻana i nā mea hoʻohilahila. ʻOiai ma ka lāʻau lapaʻau, inā i hoʻopaʻa pono ʻia ka lāʻau lapaʻau, hiki nō ke hoʻohuli. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e hoʻopau i ka lāʻau lapaʻau i kāu keiki a hao iā ia i ka leʻaleʻa ola. ʻO ka pahuhopu o kekahi lāʻau lapaʻau ʻo ia ke kōkua iā lākou e noʻonoʻo pono, e hoʻemi i ka hoʻonāukiuki i loko o ko lākou noʻonoʻo i hiki iā lākou ke nānā aku.
ʻO ka hope, ʻo ka hui lapaʻau o kāu keiki. Aia kēia me ke kauka ʻohana a i ʻole mālama mālama pediatric pūnaewele a me nā psychologists inā lākou e hana pū ana me kekahi. E hāʻawi wau iā ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi loa āu e lohe ai e pili ana i ke kauka a/a i ʻole psychologist a kāu keiki. Inā ʻaʻole lākou e lawe i ka manawa e kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe a me kāu keiki, inā ʻo nā mea a pau a lākou e makemake ai e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi palapala a haʻalele i ka lumi me ka pane ʻole ʻana i kāu mau nīnau a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka pilikia o kāu keiki E ʻimi i ke kauka ʻē aʻe! ʻO ka manawa mua āu e lohe ai, “ʻAe, ʻo ia wale nō ka lāʻau lapaʻau āna e kau nei,” e ala a haʻalele i ka lumi a ʻaʻole e hoʻi i hope.
ʻAʻole pili inā ua ʻike ʻoe i kēia kauka no nā makahiki… inā ua ʻike lākou i kāu mau keiki ʻē aʻe i ko lākou ola holoʻokoʻa. No kāu keiki me ADD, ʻaʻole kēia ka mea lapaʻau kūpono no lākou. Pono ke kauka e kuhikuhi ana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e kōkua i kāu keiki e hoʻokō i ka ADD pono e hoʻolohe i kāu mau pilikia a me kāu keiki. Pono lākou e noʻonoʻo i kā lākou hana ma ke kula, inā lākou i ka haʻuki, pehea ko lākou ʻano ma ka home, pehea lākou i ka lāʻau lapaʻau, pehea lākou ke pau ka lāʻau.
Pono ke kauhale e kōkua i ke keiki me ADD i ka holomua. Pono lākou i ke kākoʻo o nā mea a pau a puni lākou a na ʻoe e hōʻoia iā lākou kēlā kākoʻo. E hōʻoia i nā mea a pau mai ke kaikunāne, nā kūpuna, nā kumu, nā kahu mālama a me nā mea lapaʻau ma ka ʻaoʻao hoʻokahi.
Kawaihae
He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai mua. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻole ʻelua, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua. Ua loaʻa iā ADHD kekahi o kaʻu mau keiki, ʻo kā mākou huakaʻi aʻo e hoʻokō me ka maʻi maʻi a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka mea maikaʻi loa no mākou he paʻakikī a hauʻoli. Ua ʻike ʻia kā mākou keiki ma kahi o ʻelua a me ka hapa makahiki i hala, a ua loaʻa iā mākou nā piʻi a me nā haʻahaʻa, nā hauʻoli a me nā kaumaha. Inā hiki iaʻu ke hāʻawi aku iā ʻoe i hoʻokahi lā o ka manaʻolana a i ʻole kekahi manaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe a me kou ʻohana a laila ʻike wau ua hoʻokō ʻia kaʻu kumu.
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