na Jennifer Shakeel
ʻAʻole i loaʻa iaʻu kahi hana ʻē aʻe ma ka honua i ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ma mua o kēlā a i ʻole ka makua. Ke alo mau nei ʻoe i nā nīnau inā he hana maikaʻi ʻoe ma ke ʻano he makua a ʻaʻole paha, e aʻo ana i kāu keiki i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka pono a me ka hewa me ka manaʻolana e ulu aʻe lākou i poʻe huahua a mahalo. Hoʻohui ʻia kēia i ka wā e hānai ai ʻoe i kahi keiki me ADHD.
ʻAʻole au e hoʻāʻo e aʻo mai kahi ʻano olakino i ka mea e hana ai ma ke ʻano he makua no kāu keiki me ADHD. ʻAʻole wau he lāʻau lapaʻau o kēlā me kēia ʻano a ua wehe ʻia ka ʻike lapaʻau i loaʻa iaʻu mai kaʻu mea e kamaʻilio nei me ʻoe. He makua au a he ADD/ADHD ka'u keiki. E manaʻoʻiʻo mai iaʻu i kaʻu haʻi ʻana iā ʻoe ua maopopo iaʻu ka paio āu e loaʻa nei i kēia manawa a me ka hewa āu e lawe pū nei me ʻoe. E pili ana au e like me aʻu, ua haʻi ʻia ʻoe e nā kumu a ʻike paha i nā hōʻailona hōʻailona a hōʻole i ka ʻae ʻana he "hewa" kāu keiki. E haʻi mai iaʻu, ʻaʻohe hewa i kāu keiki, pono kāu keiki me ADHD i nā mea like ʻole ma mua o ke keiki ʻaʻole ADHD.
Hoʻomanaʻo wau i ka lā aʻu i hoʻomaopopo ai i ka pono o kaʻu keiki i ke kōkua. Ma hope o ka nui ʻana i ka home mai ke kula no ka hoʻopaʻa ʻia ʻana ma muli o ka hana hoʻohaunaele i ka papa a me kona huhū loa no ka heluhelu ʻana no ka mea ua hakakā ʻo ia me ia no ka mea, hoʻi mai kaʻu keiki i ka home a hoʻolei iā ia iho ma ka papahele o kona lumi moe a uē no kāna ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana. . Ua ho'āʻo ʻo ia e hana ma ke kula, ua hoʻoikaika nui ʻo ia ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana. Me ka waimaka ua ʻae au i ka pono o kaʻu keiki i ke kōkua a ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu ka mea e hana ai. Ma laila, ua hoʻomaka mākou i ko mākou huakaʻi i ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi ala e hoʻokō ai a hoʻoponopono i ka noho ʻana me ADHD.
ʻO nā manaʻo aʻu e hāʻawi aku nei iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole ia a pau ka papa inoa, ʻo ia ka mea i hana no mākou. Manaʻo wau e ʻokoʻa ka nui o nā hana ma muli o kāu keiki i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e kōkua ai a me ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana o ia lāʻau. ʻO ka pōmaikaʻi ke hana maikaʻi nei ka lāʻau lapaʻau a mākou e hoʻohana nei. Akā, eia kekahi mau manaʻo kōkua e kōkua iā ʻoe a me kāu keiki e noho nei me ADHD.
E hoʻolako i ka hale no kāu keiki. ʻO ka hōʻoia ʻana aia kahi hana maʻamau e hana ʻia ana ma ka home e kōkua i ke keiki me ADHD e noʻonoʻo pono. No ka laʻana, hoʻi mākou i ke kula, hana i nā haʻawina home, hele i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa, hoʻi i ka home a paʻa i ka ʻaina ʻohana, ka ua a me ka hola o ka ʻohana, a laila ʻo ka manawa moe. ʻO kēia kā mākou hana maʻamau i ka Pōʻakahi a i ka Pōʻalima. Inā e hoʻololi ʻia kēlā hana maʻamau, kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ke kakahiaka me ka mākaukau no ke kula. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au he nui ka hopohopo e pili ana me ADHD a kōkua ke ʻano e hōʻemi i kekahi o ia hopohopo. Ua kūkākūkā au a pediatrics a hale mālama ola kino e hana i ka pono Hoʻoponopono ADHD me aʻu no kaʻu keiki. Ua ʻike kaʻu keiki i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia iā ia a me ka manawa i loaʻa iā mākou.
Ua ʻike pū au i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana no ka hoʻomau ʻana i ka hana i hana i nā mea kupanaha a me ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kahi ʻōnaehana uku no nā mea like ʻole. No mākou he kaua koʻikoʻi ka heluhelu ʻana, no laila ua hoʻonohonoho mākou i kahi palapala uku no nā puke he nui e heluhelu ai kā mākou keiki e koho i kahi makana. Ua hoʻonohonoho mua mākou, no kēlā me kēia puke ʻelima i loaʻa iā ia ka inoa o ka makana i loaʻa iā ia kahi mea e pana ai.
E kikoo a hāʻawi i nā ʻōlelo aʻo ma nā ʻāpana a me nā ʻāpana ʻē aʻe he nui ka ʻike e hāʻawi i kahi keiki me ADHD/ADD i ka manawa hoʻokahi e nānā ai. No laila ke ho'āʻo nei ʻoe e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kāu keiki i ko lākou lumi, ma kahi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana "E hele e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kou lumi," pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo, "ʻAe, e hele e waiho i kāu mau kaʻa a pau… maʻemaʻe ka lumi.
Ke ho'āʻo nei mākou e hoʻopaʻi ʻole no ka hana maikaʻi ʻole e like me kā mākou uku no ka hana maikaʻi. Ua hele mākou i nā kumu a noi iā lākou e hana like. Me kā mākou keiki ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole e hoʻopau loa iā ia. Eia naʻe, ʻo ka hōʻike ʻana i ka maikaʻi o kāna mea hiki ke hana a hana maikaʻi e hoʻonui i kona manaʻo ponoʻī a makemake ʻo ia e hoʻomau i kēlā ʻano a "ʻoluʻolu" i nā poʻe.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka mālama ʻana i kahi keiki me ADHD/ADD, pono mākou e noʻonoʻo hou i ke ʻano o kā mākou makua no ka mea he ʻokoʻa nā pono o kā mākou keiki. He paʻakikī paha ia a he mau manawa paʻakikī loa akā he nui nō hoʻi nā manawa kupanaha e hoʻolauleʻa ai a nānā i mua. Pono ʻoe e ʻimi i ke ahonui i loko o ʻoe iho me ka ʻo ka lāʻau adhd kaʻina hana a e hoʻokō ʻoe.
Kawaihae
He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai mua. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻole ʻelua, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua. Ua loaʻa iā ADD kekahi o kaʻu mau keiki, ʻo kā mākou huakaʻi aʻo e hoʻokō i nā ʻōlelo me ka maʻi maʻi a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka mea maikaʻi loa no mākou he paʻakikī a hauʻoli. Ua ʻike ʻia kā mākou keiki ma kahi o ʻelua a me ka hapa makahiki i hala, a ua loaʻa iā mākou nā piʻi a me nā haʻahaʻa, nā hauʻoli a me nā kaumaha. Inā hiki iaʻu ke hāʻawi aku iā ʻoe i hoʻokahi lā o ka manaʻolana a i ʻole kekahi manaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe a me kou ʻohana a laila ʻike wau ua hoʻokō ʻia kaʻu kumu.
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I ka hopena, pono wau e lapaau i kaʻu mau keiki ʻelua no ADD (me ka ʻole hyperactivity). ʻAʻohe mea e hele a puni, akā ʻaʻole i ʻike i nā hopena ʻaoʻao. Ua ho'āʻo ka 16 makahiki e haʻalele iā ia iho i ka lāʻau lapaʻau. i kēia kauwela i hala, akā ʻaʻole hiki ke hana. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "Mama, pono wau i kaʻu lāʻau" a hele i ke kīʻaha & lawe i kāna pila. Ua hauʻoli wau i kona ʻike pono ʻana i ka pono a ke lawe nei i ke kuleana no ka lawe ʻana i kāna lāʻau ma kāna iho.
Mahalo no ka hāʻawi ʻana i kēia pou i ka Carnival of Family Life! Mahalo au i kou kākoʻo a me kou komo ʻana.
E mālama ʻia ana ka Carnival i ka lā 19 o Nowemapa, 2007 ma An Island Life na Kailani. E ʻoluʻolu e hoʻouna i kāu palapala i ka Pōʻaono, Nowemapa 17, 2007, ma ke aumoe (wā Pākīpika). Loaʻa nā kikoʻī ma Colloquium.
Mahalo no ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu ʻike. Mahalo au i kou manaʻo nui i ka pono o nā kākoʻo kūpono (ma mua o ka hewa o kahi keiki). Manaʻo wau he ala maikaʻi a hoʻohua kēia e hoʻopili ai i ka honua.