na Amy Mullen
Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi keiki me ADHD e like me aʻu, ʻike ʻoe he mau paʻakikī kāu e kū ai i nā mākua ʻē aʻe i maopopo ʻole. Hiki ke paʻakikī loa ka mālama ʻana i kahi keiki me ADHD. Ma mua o kou hāʻule ʻana i loko o ka manaʻolana, e ʻike ʻaʻole he kīnā ʻole ʻo ADHD inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae iā ia e lilo i hoʻokahi. Loaʻa iaʻu ka ADHD a loaʻa iaʻu kahi ʻoihana kākau maikaʻi ma muli o ka hana wikiwiki ʻana o koʻu mau mākua a loaʻa iaʻu i nā lāʻau lapaʻau like ʻole. Nui nā poʻe kūleʻa ma laila me ADHD. No laila, inā i loaʻa i kāu keiki kēia maʻi maʻi, e hanu hohonu, e aʻo i nā mea a pau āu e hiki ai, a e mākaukau no nā mea e hiki mai ana.
Manaʻo ka poʻe he nui i nā keiki ADHD he mau brats out-of-control i hānai ʻia e nā mākua palaualelo. Manaʻo kekahi ʻaʻole makemake nā kumu a me nā mākua e hana i nā keiki paʻakikī hou aʻe, no laila hoʻolei lākou i nā lāʻau lapaʻau i ko lākou ʻāʻī. A ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei kekahi poʻe ua hana ʻia ʻo ADHD e kūʻai aku i nā lāʻau lapaʻau hou aku. Ke hilinaʻi nei i ka waiwai o ka ʻike pilikino a me nā hola pau ʻole o ka noiʻi, hiki iaʻu ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo kekahi o kēia mau mea.
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ʻAʻole wale wau i loaʻa iā ADHD, ʻo koʻu mau kaikunāne pū kekahi. Hiki i ka ADHD ke hoʻoilina. Inā ua ʻike ʻia kāu keiki, e noʻonoʻo hou. Ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi mau hakakā pilikino? Ua pilikia paha ʻoe i ka noho ʻana ma ke ʻano he kamaliʻi me ka nui o kāu hoʻāʻo ʻana? Ua hana ʻoe i nā hoʻoholo wikiwiki āu i mihi ai ma hope? Auwana kou manao? Ke nānā nei ʻoe i waho o ka puka makani i ke aʻo ʻana o nā mea ʻē aʻe i ke kula? ʻOiai ʻaʻole i manaʻo ʻia kēia mau mea iā ʻoe he ADHD, hiki ke lilo i mau hōʻailona.
ʻAʻole au i ʻike he ADHD koʻu a hiki i koʻu wā makua. Ua ʻike ʻia koʻu mau kaikunāne, akā ʻaʻole loaʻa iaʻu nā hōʻailona like me lākou. ʻAʻole ʻike ʻia koʻu ADHD. I koʻu hakakā ʻana i koʻu ola, ua hāʻule koʻu manaʻo ponoʻī no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana i nā mea a ka hapa nui o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i hana maʻalahi. ʻO kahi hana ʻeiwa a ʻelima ʻaneʻane make iaʻu. ʻO ka noho ʻana ma hope o kahi pākaukau pane kelepona ua like ia me ka hoʻomāinoino iaʻu. Ua hala au i ka hana no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hele i loko no nā lā ʻelima pololei. Ua hauʻoli loa au a me ke kaumaha. Manaʻo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe iaʻu he palaualelo a makemake ʻole e hana. He ʻoiaʻiʻo ka mea kūʻē. Ua makemake au e hana. Ua loaʻa iaʻu nā bila e uku. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e like me nā manaʻo i hana ʻia e ka poʻe. Ua loaʻa iaʻu ka ADHD.
Ua hana au i kaʻu kuleana kūpono o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā kānaka. I kekahi manawa, i kēia manawa, hoʻopuka wau i nā mea. ʻOiai ua aʻo wau e hoʻomalu i ka nui o kaʻu ʻōlelo, aia kekahi mau manawa e ʻōlelo ai au i nā mea me ka leo nui aʻu i noʻonoʻo mua ai. 'Ōlelo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe me ka ʻike ʻole e kānana ana lākou i ko lākou mau manaʻo. I kekahi manawa, ʻaʻole ʻike ka poʻe me ADHD pehea e hana ai i kēia - pono lākou e aʻo. E hoʻopuka wau i kekahi mea a ʻo ka poʻe e puni ana iaʻu e nānā mai iaʻu me he mea lā he ʻano ʻē wau. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he mea ʻē kekahi o ia mea. No kēia kumu, ua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o koʻu manaʻo ponoʻī.
Ma hope o ka hōʻike ʻana
Inā ʻike ʻia kāu keiki me ADHD, e ʻoluʻolu e hoʻomaopopo he mau ʻano like ʻole. ʻOiai ua kapa ʻia nā ʻano i kapa ʻia ʻo ADD a me ADHD, ua kau ʻia lākou ma lalo o ka lepili ADHD, akā me nā hōʻike like ʻole. ʻO kekahi he hyperactive a impulsive a ʻo kekahi ʻano ʻaʻole nānā. E noi i kāu kauka e wehewehe i ke ʻano pololei o kāu keiki a nīnau i nā nīnau a hiki i kou hoʻomaopopo ʻana. No ka laʻana, e like me aʻu, pono wau e kiʻi ka ʻōlelo ʻōlelo no ke keiki ʻōpuʻu. ʻOi aku ka nui o kou ʻike, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou hele ʻana i kēia. Eia kekahi, ʻo ke ʻano kikoʻī e kuhikuhi i ke ʻano o ka lāʻau ADHD e pōmaikaʻi ai kāu keiki, a inā paha hiki i kāu keiki ke hele me ka lāʻau ʻole.
Mai hōʻeha iā ʻoe iho ma luna o ka maʻi maʻi. E like me ka mea i hōʻike ʻia ma www.cdc.gov: "ʻAʻole kākoʻo ka noiʻi i nā manaʻo i manaʻo nui ʻia ʻo ADHD ke kumu o ka ʻai ʻana i ke kō, ka nānā nui ʻana i ke kīwī, ka makua, a i ʻole nā mea pili i ka pilikanaka a me ke kaiapuni e like me ka ʻilihune a me ka haunaele ʻohana. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā mea, me kēia mau mea, e hōʻino paha i nā hōʻailona, ʻoi aku hoʻi i kekahi poʻe. Akā ʻaʻole ikaika ka hōʻike e hoʻoholo ai ʻo lākou ke kumu nui o ADHD.
ʻO ke kaumaha a me ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa he mau hopena ʻaoʻao o ADHD. ʻO kēia kahi e pono ai ʻoe e komo. E hakakā kāu keiki me nā mea hiki ke maʻalahi i nā keiki ʻē aʻe. He mea nui ma ke ʻano he makua e hōʻike i kāu mau keiki i kēia hakakā ʻana ma muli o ADHD. ʻAʻole ia he ʻoi aku ka naʻauao o nā keiki ʻē aʻe ma mua o lākou. I koʻu ʻike, naʻauao loa ka poʻe me ADHD. Hōʻike kekahi mau haʻawina ʻo ia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo me nā maʻi ADHD āpau, akā ʻo nā haʻawina ʻē aʻe e hōʻole i kēlā manaʻo. He mea liʻiliʻi kēlā. Ma kahi o ka nānā ʻana i kā lākou mau hakakā, e nānā i ka hiki a me ka ʻimi ʻana i nā ala hou a leʻaleʻa e hoʻokō ai i ka hana.
Ke aʻo ʻana me ADHD
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke ʻeha ke lohe ʻoe i kekahi e ʻōlelo ana, "E noʻonoʻo ma waho o ka pahu!" Eia naʻe, ʻo kēia ka mea āu e hana ai. ʻOkoʻa ke aʻo ʻana o nā keiki a pau. Pono ʻoe e kōkua i kāu keiki e ʻike i ka mea e kōkua nui iā ia. ʻAʻole ia e maʻalahi, akā ʻo ia kekahi o nā mea kōkua nui e hiki iā ʻoe ke hana no lākou. E hoʻohana i nā hoʻolālā kākoʻo ʻano maikaʻi e hana pū me ADHD ma mua o ke kūʻē ʻana iā ia. Ke hāʻule nā keiki i ko lākou nānā ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a puni lākou e kūleʻa me ka maʻalahi, e like me kaʻu ʻike, e ʻeha ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī.
Inā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka nānā ʻana i nā haʻawina home me ka TV a i ʻole ke mele, e hoʻāʻo iā lākou. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻeha no ka mea kūʻē i nā mea a pau i haʻi ʻia iā ʻoe, akā e hoʻāʻo. E ʻoluʻolu e hāʻawi i kahi manawa kūpono, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe maopopo i ke ʻano o ke kōkua. Ke hana kēia mau mea a maikaʻi koke lākou, piʻi ka manaʻo ponoʻī. He mau haneli o nā ʻaoʻao pūnaewele maikaʻi ma laila e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻimi i nā ala hou e kōkua ai i kāu keiki e ʻimi i ka mea e kūpono iā lākou. Inā hana ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou ʻaʻole lākou 'ʻokoʻa,' kōkua ia. Inā ʻoe e haʻi iā lākou he maikaʻi ko lākou makemake a pono paha e hana ʻokoʻa ma mua o kā lākou mau hoa a ʻaʻole ia e hoʻohiwahiwa iā lākou, he kanaka. ʻo mākou a pau ʻokoʻa ma nā ʻano he nui.
Hoʻohanohano iā ia iho, kūleʻa, a me ADHD
Ua hana ʻokoʻa wau ma mua o koʻu mau hoaaloha i koʻu ola a pau. Ma mua o koʻu ʻike ʻana ua loaʻa iaʻu ka ADHD, manaʻo wau ua like nā hakakā ʻē aʻe a pau aʻu, akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka lanakila ʻana i kēlā mau hakakā. I kēia manawa ua ʻike wau he hewa ia. I ka manawa aʻu i ʻike ai, wehe ʻia kēlā me kēia puka a loaʻa iaʻu my ala e hana ai. I ka manawa aʻu i hana ai, ua loaʻa iaʻu ka holomua. Ua hoʻihoʻi ʻia koʻu manaʻo ponoʻī a hauʻoli wau. Hiki ke maʻalahi, akā ʻaʻole hiki mai kēlā ʻike pilikino i ka pō. Mai haʻalele iā lākou a laila e nānā iā lākou e holomua. Pono ka hana nui. ʻAʻole nalowale kaʻu mau kī kaʻa i kēlā me kēia manawa aʻu e hoʻopā ai iā lākou, akā ua lōʻihi ka manawa. ʻAʻole loaʻa i koʻu mau hoaaloha kēlā pilikia. Maikaʻi au me ka ʻokoʻa ma ia mea. Pono wau e aʻo i kahi ala ʻē aʻe a ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hauʻoli i kēia manawa.
A i ka hopena, e hoʻomanaʻo i kāu mau keiki he hemolele lākou e like me lākou. ʻAʻohe mea e hoʻopilikia i ko lākou hiki ke aloha iā lākou iho. Kapau ʻokú ke fekumi ki he tataki fakalaumālié, manatuʻi ʻa e veesi ko ʻení pea lau faʻa lau ia kiate kinautolu: Luke 12:7: ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua helu ʻia nā lauoho o ko ʻoukou poʻo. Mai makau oe; ua oi aku ko oukou waiwai mamua o na manu liilii.
He mea kākau manuahi ʻo Amy Mullen a he mea kākau moʻolelo aloha e noho ana ma Corning, NY, me kāna kāne ʻo Patrick, kāna mau keiki ʻelua, a me kahi pua liʻiliʻi ʻole i kapa ʻia ʻo Liz. ʻO Amy ka mea kākau o A Stormy Knight, Her Darkest Knight, a me Redefining Rayne. Ua paʻi ʻia kāna mau mele kahiko ma o Cleanreads.com, i kapa ʻia ʻo Astraea Press.
Ua kākau ʻo Amy e pili ana i ke aloha i nalowale a loaʻa hou mai kona wā ʻelemakule e loaʻa ai kona puʻuwai ʻeha mua. ʻO kona aloha i ka mōʻaukala a me kāna mau huakaʻi hele ʻana i ka moʻokūʻauhau amateur alakaʻi iā ia i kahi aloha aloha me ke kākau moʻolelo moʻolelo. Ke kākau ʻole ʻo ia, paʻi ʻo ia i nā kiʻi, hauʻoli i ka hui ʻana o kāna mau keiki, a i ka wā e hiki ai ka manawa, makemake ʻo ia e kanu i kona ihu i kahi puke maikaʻi.
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