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Mākua: He aha ka mea nui

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by Katy Newton Naas

E hoʻomanaʻo mau wau i ka lā aʻu i hānau ai i kaʻu keiki hiapo.

Ua hoʻoholo ʻo ia e hōʻike i kona helehelena i ʻelua pule ma mua, ʻaʻole ia he mea kāhāhā iaʻu i kēia manawa ua ʻike wau iā ia; Ua hana mau ʻo Aven i kāna ʻano ponoʻī. ʻAʻole pili i ka nui o nā puke aʻu i heluhelu ai no ka hānau ʻana – ʻaʻohe mea i hiki ke hoʻomākaukau iaʻu no nā hola ʻumikūmālua āna i lawe ai e komo i kēia ao. Akā ʻaʻohe mea i hiki ke hoʻomākaukau iaʻu no ke ʻano o koʻu manaʻo i ka manawa mua aʻu i paʻa ai i koʻu mau lima. ʻO ia ke aloha maʻemaʻe, aloha kupua loa aʻu i ʻike ai.

ʻO kēlā mau lā ʻelua i loko o ka haukapila ma hope o kona hānau ʻana he mea kupanaha a paʻakikī a me nā mea āpau ma waena. Ua hoʻomaha loa au i ko lākou hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā mākou - ua mākaukau wau e hoʻi i ka home a lilo i ʻohana. Ua hōʻea mākou i ko mākou hale ma hope koke o ke awakea a hauʻoli i ko mākou manawa me koʻu mau mākua, kaikuahine, kaikoʻeke, a me ke keiki kāne. Ua piha ka hale a ua hoʻohana nui ʻo Aven i nā lima o nā poʻe he nui i aloha iā ia.

Ma hope o ka haʻalele ʻana o nā mea a pau ua hoʻomaka wau e hāʻule.

Ua hoʻoluliluli au iā Aven e hiamoe a hoʻomoe pono iā ia i loko o kona wahi moe no ka manawa mua. Huli au i waho o ka lumi a huki i ka puka kokoke e pani ʻia ma hope oʻu, e hoʻopili ana i koʻu pepeiao e ʻike ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻō.

A laila komo ka makaʻu. Pehea? Ua hoʻolālā wau e hele i koʻu lumi moe - ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ke keʻena - a mākaukau e moe. Akā, ua hopohopo koke wau i ka mamao loa mai ona aku. E lohe au iā ia inā e uē ʻo ia? E ʻike anei au pehea e hōʻoluʻolu ai iā ia?

He mea paʻakikī ke ʻae aku iaʻu iho i nā manaʻo i komo i loko o koʻu naʻau ma hope aku, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka waiho ʻana i laila ma ke kākau ʻana no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e heluhelu. Akā ma ka ʻuhane o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e kaʻana aku au i ka maikaʻi, ka hewa, a me ka ʻino. Ua makau au, a ua pouli ko'u manao. No kekahi mau manawa, minamina au.  Ua hana hewa wau. ʻAʻole au i ʻoki ʻia e lilo i makuahine. He aha ka honua i manaʻo ai ua mākaukau wau no kēia? He aha kaʻu i hana ai?

A no laila ua hana au i ka hana a nā wahine ʻē aʻe i ka wā i manaʻo ʻole ai lākou - kāhea wau i koʻu makuahine. "Mama, pehea inā ʻaʻole au e lohe iā ia i kona ala ʻana?"

Ua ʻakaʻaka ʻo ia a hōʻoiaʻiʻo mai iaʻu, "E hana ʻoe. Mai hopohopo."

Ua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o koʻu manaʻo i ka manawa a mākou i hoʻopaʻa ai i ke kelepona, akā, ua kolo hou wau i loko o kona lumi e nānā iā ia - no ka ʻike ʻana ʻaʻole ʻo ia i pau ka hanu i loko o ʻelua mau minuke mai koʻu haʻalele ʻana iā ia. ʻO ka ʻōlinolino mālie o ke kukui alanui e hele mai ana ma ka puka makani ua lawa ia i hiki iaʻu ke ʻike i kona ʻōpū ʻoluʻolu e piʻi ana i luna a i lalo, i luna a i lalo, ʻo kona mau lehelehe liʻiliʻi e ʻimi ana a neʻe i ka omo. A ʻo ka manaʻo o ka maluhia i uhi mai iaʻu a lohe au i kēia leo liʻiliʻi ma hope o koʻu noʻonoʻo - he leo aʻu i ʻike ʻole ai i kēlā manawa akā ua ʻike wau i kēia manawa mai luna mai - i ʻōlelo ʻia, "E aloha wale iā ia." Ua hilinaʻi au ma luna o ka moena a hāwanawana, "E hana paha wau i kekahi mau hewa. Akā ke hoʻohiki nei au iā ʻoe i kēia: E aloha au iā ʻoe.

Ua hānai ko mākou mau kupuna wahine i nā ʻohana he ʻumikūmālua mau keiki a ma kekahi ʻano ua hiki iā lākou ke kuke, hoʻomaʻemaʻe, holoi lima a me nā diapers ma ka lima, a kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i ka mahiʻai. ʻAʻole lākou i ʻōhumu – no ka loaʻa ʻole o ka manawa a i ʻole ka ikaika.

I kēia lā, huki kā mākou papa hana pupule iā mākou i hoʻokahi miliona mau ʻaoʻao. Eia naʻe, ke ola nei mākou i ke au o ka ʻoluʻolu, ka makahiki o ka hōʻoluʻolu. Loaʻa iā mākou nā mea hoʻonani i moeʻuhane ʻole i ko mākou mau kūpuna. Akā, me kēlā maʻalahi hiki mai nā luʻi hou he nui e kānalua ai i ko mākou makua i kēlā me kēia pae.

I kēia au kikohoʻe, loaʻa ka ʻike ma ko mākou manamana lima. ʻO ia ka mea maikaʻi… ka hapa nui o ka manawa. I ka loaʻa ʻana o kaʻu muli loa i ke kuni a me ka maʻi maʻi, ua hiki iaʻu ke ʻimi i kāna mau hōʻailona a loaʻa kekahi mau lāʻau lapaʻau home i hana maoli. I ka wā i makemake ai kaʻu hiapo e aʻo e nakinaki i kona mau kāmaʻa, ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi wikiō nani ma YouTube i kōkua iaʻu e aʻo iā ia.

Akā ʻo kekahi mea e pili ana i ka noho ʻana ma hope o ka pale e hāʻawi i kekahi poʻe i ka hilinaʻi keʻano. Paʻi mākou i nā mea a mākou e moeʻuhane ʻole ai e ʻōlelo kino. A ua kahe kēia i ka ʻōlelo aʻo makua. Aia kekahi poʻe ma waho e lilo i "poʻe loea," makemake lākou e haʻi i ke ao nei no ke aha ʻo kā lākou mau ala wale nō ke ala a hilahila i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hana ʻokoʻa. A hōʻike ʻia nā makuahine i hana hewa ma ka pāpaho pūnaewele i hiki i nā poʻe ke haʻi iā lākou he poʻe weliweli lākou, pehea lākou i kūpono ʻole ai e lilo i makuahine a me nā mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻaʻole pono e hana hou ʻia.

Ma ke ʻano he mea makemake mau i ka heluhelu a me ke kākau ʻana, ua ʻike mau wau i ka mana o nā huaʻōlelo. Ma ka Baibala, ua hoohalike o Paulo i ko kakou mau alelo me kahi huna ahi e hiki ai ke puhi i ko kakou mau kino holookoa i ke ahi. Naʻá ne ui ia ko e “kovi taʻengata, ʻa ia ʻi he ʻakau ʻoku mate” (Sēmisi 3:8). A ʻo ia nō. ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo kahiko, "Na nā lāʻau a me nā pōhaku e haki i koʻu mau iwi akā ʻaʻole e hōʻeha nā ʻōlelo iaʻu," he wahaheʻe loa.

No nā makahiki ʻeono i hala iho nei, ua huli pinepine au i ka pūnaewele no ka ʻōlelo aʻo makua. A ʻoiai ua loaʻa iaʻu kekahi mau mea maikaʻi ma laila, ua loaʻa iaʻu nā mea he nui i huikau wale iaʻu a i kekahi manawa ua haʻalele wau iaʻu me he makuahine weliweli.

No ka laʻana, i ka ʻumi mahina o kaʻu hiapo a e ala mau ana i kēlā me kēia hola e makemake ana e hānai, e waiho ana iaʻu i ka luhi ma ka hana, ua noiʻi au i nā ʻatikala e pili ana i ka mea e hana ai. E uē ʻo ia, ʻōlelo ʻia kekahi poʻe loea. E aʻo ʻo ia e hoʻomaha iā ia iho.

A pēlā wau i hana ai. A ma hope o hoʻokahi pō wale nō o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā ia e uē - ʻoiai wau e moe ana ma koʻu wahi moe a uē pū kekahi - hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hiamoe i ka pō. Akā i koʻu manaʻo ʻoluʻolu a haʻaheo noʻu iho, ua ʻike au i kahi ʻatikala ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole maikaʻi a ʻino ke ʻano cry-it-out, hoʻopaʻapaʻa kekahi. Hoʻokō ʻoe i kā lākou pono a poina iā ʻoe iho. Auē, he aha kaʻu i hana ai? Ua hilinaʻi ke keiki liʻiliʻi iaʻu e hoʻokō i kāna pono, a waiho wale wau iā ia e moe i laila a uē? He ʻano makuahine hea wau?

A e kamaʻilio ana i ka hānai… auwe. He ikaika nā manaʻo e pili ana i kēia kumuhana. Ua hānai au i kaʻu mau keikikāne ʻelua a makemake wau iā ia, akā ʻike wau ʻaʻole pono ia no kēlā me kēia makuahine. Akā ma nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa, nui ka poʻe kala ʻole. Aia kekahi poʻe e hāʻawi i nā ʻatikala piha, piha mo'omana'o Pūnaewele ʻoiai, no ke aha e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hānai ʻana i nā makuahine i koho ʻole e hana. Aia kekahi mau moʻomanaʻo ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ka pilikia, e hoʻohewa ana i nā makuahine no kēia hana "barbaric" i ka wā e loaʻa ai ke ʻano olakino maikaʻi.

Pono nā māmā e noho ma ka home? A i ʻole hele i ka hana? He nui ka poʻe e hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo ka noho ʻana ma ka home ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, e hoʻohewa ai ka poʻe hiki ʻole ke noho i ka home a me ka poʻe koho e hana no ka mea makemake lākou i kā lākou ʻoihana. Ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa nei kekahi e pōmaikaʻi nā keiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka makuahine hana e hāʻawi kālā i ka ʻohana, me ka manaʻo o nā makuahine noho ma ka home me he mea lā ʻaʻole lākou i lawa.

ʻO ka moe pū me ka moe kūʻokoʻa? Paʻi ʻana vs. Loaʻa i kahi papa hana koʻikoʻi vs. Nā pāʻani wikiō a i ʻole? ʻO ka manawa pale a ʻaʻole paha? ʻO ka manawa moe kūpono a ʻaʻole paha?

A no kēlā me kēia pae o ke ola o ke keiki, aia nā manaʻo ikaika i ke ʻano o ka hana ʻana. I ka manawa hea e hoʻomaka ai lākou e hana i nā hana a puni ka hale? A pono anei e uku ia lakou no ia mau hana, i hiki ia lakou ke a'o i ka waiwai o ka hana a me ke dala? A i ʻole e manaʻo ʻia lākou e hana i kēlā mau mea, e lilo wale i mau lālā kōkua o ka ʻohana a me ke kaiāulu?

ʻO nā lā hoʻomaha hoʻi e lilo i kumu hoʻopaʻapaʻa. Pono ʻoe e ʻaʻahu i kāu mau keiki no ka Halloween? A pehea kēlā mau kiʻi kupua e like me Santa Claus, ka Easter Bunny, a me ka Tooth Fairy? Pehea ʻoe e pili ai i kēlā mau kumuhana? A ua loaʻa iaʻu kekahi lapaʻau niho maikaʻi loa ma waho i kēia manawa a ua kahaha wau i ka maikaʻi o lākou, me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka ʻoi aku o ke kumukūʻai. makemake wau he kauka niho maikaʻi ma Tijuana (ʻo ia ma Mexico) a he mea kupaianaha wale nō lākou no laila pono e noʻonoʻo inā pono ʻoe i ka mālama niho pipiʻi.

ʻOiai he kanaka i hoʻopaʻa mau i nā huaʻōlelo, ua hoʻokuʻu wau i kēia mau mea e ala iaʻu i ka pō. Ua hopohopo au ua hana hewa wau e hoʻopilikia maikaʻi i kaʻu mau keiki, e hana ana i nā pōʻino hiki ʻole ke lawe pū me lākou i ko lākou ola.

ʻAʻole a hiki i koʻu ʻike maoli ʻana i ke Akua a ʻike wau i koʻu hewa.

Ma o ka nui o ka pule a me ka heluhelu ʻana i kaʻu Baibala, ua aʻo au i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻohe makuahine i laila i hui pū ʻia. A ʻoiai aia kekahi mau makuahine ma laila, no kēlā me kēia kumu, ʻaʻole i hoʻolilo i ka makua i mea nui i ko lākou ola, ʻo ka hapa nui o mākou e hana maikaʻi ana. Akā, ʻaʻole e like kaʻu mea maikaʻi loa me kou maikaʻi loa, a ʻaʻole e like kāu mea maikaʻi loa me kēlā "makuahine hemolele" āu e hoʻohālikelike ai iā ʻoe iho ma Facebook.

E nā Māmā, ua loaʻa iā mākou kēia! E hoʻomau i ko mākou mau poʻo i luna! Pono mākou e haʻalele i ka haehae ʻana i kekahi i kekahi. ʻO ka manawa kēia e kūkulu ai kekahi i kekahi, e hoʻoikaika kekahi i kekahi i kēia hana nani a paʻakikī naʻe i kapa ʻia he makuahine. Pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole pono ka mea e hana ai no kekahi a ʻo ka nui o kēia mau mea a mākou e hoʻopaʻapaʻa nei ʻaʻole ia he mea nui i ka hopena. He aha makemake ʻO ka mea nui ma o kā mākou mau hewa a pau, ma o kā mākou mau hewa āpau, aloha mākou i kā mākou mau keiki.

ʻAʻole ʻōlelo ka Baibala i nā mea makua ʻole i kēlā me kēia lā. ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻo nui loa aʻu i ʻike ai ma ka ʻōlelo a ke Akua, ʻo ke aʻo ʻana i kāu mau keiki e aloha iā ia. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Palōveepi 22:6, “ʻE kamata ki he fānaú ʻi he hala ʻoku totonu ke nau ʻalu ai, pea ʻi heʻenau ʻuluaki ʻoku ʻikai te nau liliu mei ai.” Ma ka Deuteronomy 6:5-7, ʻōlelo ʻia, "E aloha ʻoe iā Iēhova i kou Akua me kou naʻau a pau, a me kou ʻuhane a pau, a me kou ikaika a pau. ʻO kēia mau kauoha aʻu e hāʻawi aku nei iā ʻoe i kēia lā, e waiho ʻia ma ko ʻoukou naʻau. E hoʻokau iā lākou i kāu mau keiki. E kamaʻilio e pili ana iā lākou i kou noho ʻana ma ka hale, a i kou hele ʻana ma ke alanui, i kou moe ʻana a i kou ala ʻana i luna. Nui kaʻu mau mea hewa i kaʻu mau keiki. Pau koʻu ahonui. Uā wau. Ua hoʻokuʻu au iā lākou e pāʻani i nā pāʻani wikiō no ka lōʻihi loa i mea e noho ai i hiki iaʻu ke hana i nā mea. Akā ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au inā e aʻo wau iā lākou ʻo wai ke Akua a pehea e pule ai, pehea e aloha ai iā ia a pehea e loaʻa ai kahi pilina maoli me ia, e uhi ia i kaʻu mau hewa.

A no koʻu mau hewa a me koʻu mau hemahema, koʻu mau kānalua a me nā nīnau e pili ana i kēlā mau mea ʻē aʻe, huli wau i ka Pilipi 4: 6-7: "Mai manaʻo nui i kekahi mea, akā i kēlā me kēia kūlana, e haʻi aku i kāu mau noi ma ka pule a me ka noi. i ke Akua. A ʻo ka maluhia o ke Akua, ka mea i ʻoi aku ma mua o nā manaʻo a pau, nāna e mālama i ko ʻoukou naʻau a me ko ʻoukou mau manaʻo i loko o Kristo Iesū. Paʻa ikaika kēia, ʻoiai he ʻano makuahine ka hopohopo. Akā, e hāʻawi mākou i kēlā mau hopohopo iā ia. Pono mākou e lawe i ko mākou mau nāwaliwali a me nā hopohopo a pau iā ia a e hana iā ia i loko o mākou i ikaika ai mākou. Hoʻokahi mea aʻu i aʻo ai, ke hoʻāʻo wau e hana me ka hoʻokahi, hāʻule wau. ʻO kēlā me kēia. hoʻokahi. Manawa.

A ʻo ka hope, i ka wā e paʻakikī loa ai nā mea, ke manaʻo nei au e like me ka hemahema i nā mea a pau aʻu e hana ai, hoʻomanaʻo wau i ka Salamo 127: 3: "He hoʻoilina nā keiki mai Iēhova mai, ʻo nā keiki he uku mai ia." No kēlā me kēia kumu, ua koho ke Akua iaʻu e hānai i kēia mau keikikāne maikaʻi, naʻaupō, naʻauao, ʻoluʻolu a me nā keikikāne. Ua hilinaʻi ʻo ia iaʻu me ko lākou ola a me ko lākou naʻau. ʻOiai paʻakikī wau e hele i ka lā i kekahi manawa, ua hoʻoholo ʻo ia ʻo wau ka mea no kēia mau keikikāne.

A pēlā wau e hana ai no lāua ʻelua i ka mea aʻu i hoʻohiki ai i kaʻu poʻokela i kēlā pō mua i loko o kona wahi moe i kēlā mau makahiki i hala aku nei: E aloha au iā lāua. ʻAʻole pololei, ma kekahi ʻano, akā ʻo ke ala maikaʻi loa aʻu i ʻike ai.

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Katy Newton Naas currently teaches middle school reading and high school English in southern Illinois, as well as children’s church. She graduated from Southern Illinois University-Carbondale with a bachelor’s degree in English Education and a master’s degree in Reading and Language Studies. She enjoys her life out in the country with her husband, her two sweet and rowdy young sons, and all her other “kids”: four dogs, three cats, and eight ducks.

Katy writes literature for children through young adults. Her first picture book, MISSING MAX, will be available in bookstores March 2017. Two of her novels, GUARDIAN and DRAKE THE DANDY, feature service dogs. A portion of the proceeds from those novels benefit Willing Partners Canine Education, a facility that trains service dogs for children and veterans.


Katy Newton Naas’s YA novel, HEALING RAIN, is nominated for YA Book of the Year at Christian Small Publishers Association. Cast your vote and see all nominees and categories at bookoftheyear.net



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Ke aʻo nei ʻo Katy Newton Naas i ka heluhelu ʻana i ke kula waena a me ka ʻōlelo Pelekania kula kiʻekiʻe ma ka hema o Illinois, a me ka hale pule keiki. Ua puka 'o ia mai ke Kulanui o Southern Illinois-Carbondale me ke kēkelē laepua ma ka Ho'ona'auao 'Ōlelo Pelekania a me ke kēkelē laepua ma ka Heluhelu a me ka Ha'awina 'Ōlelo. Leʻaleʻa ʻo ia i kona ola ʻana ma ka ʻāina me kāna kāne, kāna mau keiki kāne ʻōpio ʻoluʻolu a me ka huhū, a me kāna mau "keiki" ʻē aʻe: ʻehā ʻīlio, ʻekolu pōpoki, a me ʻewalu pākē.

Kākau ʻo Katy i nā palapala no nā keiki ma o ka poʻe ʻōpio. E loaʻa ana kāna puke kiʻi mua, MISSING MAX, ma nā hale kūʻai puke ʻo Malaki 2017. ʻElua o kāna mau puke moʻolelo, ʻo GUARDIAN a me DRAKE THE DANDY, nā ʻīlio lawelawe. ʻO kahi hapa o nā mea i loaʻa mai ia mau moʻolelo e pōmaikaʻi iā Willing Partners Canine Education, kahi hale e aʻo ai i nā ʻīlio lawelawe no nā keiki a me nā mea kahiko.


Koho ʻia ka moʻolelo YA a Katy Newton Naas, HEALING RAIN, no ka YA Book of the Year ma Christian Small Publishers Association. E hoʻolilo i kāu koho a ʻike i nā poʻe koho a me nā waeʻano ma bookoftheyear.net



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