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ʻO ka hoʻomaikaʻi a me ka hoʻohewa ʻana

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ʻOkoʻa loa ka ʻike ʻana o nā keiki o kēia wā i ka honua ma mua o ko mākou wā kamaliʻi. Ua hala ka ʻuhane o ka hoʻokūkū a ua pani ʻia e ka motto nā mea a pau i hoʻokomo ʻia, uku ʻia nā mea a pau. Eia ke ʻano o kēia lā:

Hoʻi mai nā pepa hōʻailona liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi ma ka haʻawina kula a kāu keiki. ʻO ka baseball, ka pōpeku, ka pōpeku, ka pōpeku, a me ka basketball kekahi mau haʻuki i hāʻawi ʻia i nā keiki. ʻO nā mea a pau a ka makua e hana ai, ʻo ka hoʻopiha ʻana i ka palapala, loaʻa kahi kino, a uku i ka uku a aia kā lākou keiki ma ka hui. I ka wā kau, pāʻani ke keiki a noho paha lākou i ka noho, i nā mea a ke kaʻi e manaʻo ai he pono. Ma hope o ke kau, inā maikaʻi ka pāʻani ʻana o ke keiki a ʻaʻole paha a lanakila paha ka hui i nā pāʻani a ʻaʻole paha, loaʻa i kēlā me kēia keiki ke kīʻaha a me ka mekala, no ke komo ʻana. No laila, komo ʻoukou e nā keiki a pau i ka hui, loaʻa i nā keiki a pau ka makana, me ka nānā ʻole i ko lākou akamai, inā maikaʻi lākou i ka pāʻani, inā lanakila a ʻaʻole paha.

Me he mea lā ua kūpono ka hiʻohiʻona? Ma ka ʻili he mea kūpono. Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ka manawa, ʻaʻohe mea i haʻalele. Akā e ʻeli hohonu. He aha kēia e haʻi ai i kā mākou mau keiki? Hōʻike ia iā lākou i ko lākou hiki ʻana i ke kanaka makua, pono lākou e loaʻa ka manawa kūpono e hana i nā mea a lākou e makemake ai, me ka nānā ʻole i ko lākou mākaukau a me kā lākou mau talena. ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona e like me kēia e noʻonoʻo ai lākou i ke kuleana, me ka manaʻo he pono lākou i ka uku inā ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā lākou ke kuleana a kūpono paha.

I nā makahiki i hala aku nei, ma mua o ka ulu ʻana o ka ʻenehana nui, i ka wā i makemake ai nā keiki e pāʻani i kahi haʻuki pono lākou e hoʻāʻo no ka hui. Ua koho ʻia lākou no ka hui inā hōʻike lākou i ke kālena a me nā mākau no ka haʻuki, a i ʻole inā hōʻike lākou i ka hiki. ʻAʻole i koho ʻia kekahi mau keiki, a ʻoiai ua ʻeha paha ia i kēlā manawa, ua aʻo ʻia lākou e loaʻa i ko lākou kūlana. ʻO nā kamaliʻi wale nō i pāʻani maikaʻi, a ʻo nā kime i lanakila maoli i nā pāʻani i loaʻa nā ʻāpana a me nā mekala. ʻAʻole i loaʻa i nā keiki ka makana no ke komo wale ʻana.

ʻOiai he kūpono ʻole kēlā, ʻo ka hōʻike ʻana i nā mākau a me nā talena i aʻo i nā hanauna o nā keiki pono lākou e hana ikaika e loaʻa ko lākou kūlana ma nā hui haʻuki a ma hope o ke ola no kā lākou mau hana. Ua aʻo ʻia i nā keiki e loaʻa nā uku ma muli o ka pono, ʻaʻole no ka ʻeli ʻana o ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne i loko o kā lākou ʻeke a uku i ka uku.

Hoʻokani ʻia ke ʻano hana mua i kēia mau lā a pilikia nā keiki no ka loaʻa ʻole o kā lākou ala. Pono mākou e hoʻoholo maikaʻi i ka wā e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i ke keiki a me ka manawa e hāʻawi ai i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa. Loaʻa kahi laina maikaʻi inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻohana i nā mea ʻelua e kōkua i ke keiki e kūkulu i ke ʻano maikaʻi a me nā mākau.

He kūpono ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i nā keiki i ka wā e pono ai. Inā loaʻa i kahi keiki ka F ma nā haʻawina kula, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu keiki no ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hana i kāna hana ke ʻole ʻo ia e loaʻa i kahi papa maikaʻi maoli. E hoʻomaikaʻi i ka wā e pono ai ka mahalo. Hāʻawi i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa maikaʻi inā makemake ke keiki i ke kōkua a me ka paipai ʻana.

Mai kuhihewa i ka mahalo me ka paipai. Pono ka makua e paipai i kāna keiki e hana i ka mea hiki iā lākou. Ke loaʻa ke keiki i nā helu kiʻekiʻe, hana maikaʻi i nā haʻuki, loaʻa ka hoʻohiwahiwa kū ʻana, a loaʻa paha ka makana no ka maikaʻi maikaʻi, a laila pono ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi. Inā ʻaʻole, ʻo kēlā me kēia mea, e hāʻawi i ka hoʻohewa constructive.

ʻAʻole pono e ʻike ʻia ka hoʻohewa ʻana i kāu keiki. E hoʻomaka me ka paipai. "Makemake au e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe, haʻaheo wau iā ʻoe no ka hoʻāʻo ʻana / hana / hoʻāʻo i kēlā me kēia mea. Makemake au e ʻike iā ʻoe e kūleʻa, loaʻa iaʻu ka ʻōlelo aʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe. ”… Inā hāʻawi ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa kūpono no nā haʻuki, e hōʻike iā lākou. E kamaʻilio me lākou e pili ana i ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ke akamai, pehea ia e kōkua ai iā lākou e ulu ma ke ʻano he kanaka, pehea ia e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i nā wahi ʻē aʻe o ko lākou ola.

ʻO kahi ala maikaʻi loa e kōkua ai i nā keiki e aʻo ma o ka hoʻohewa maikaʻi ʻana ʻo ka hāʻawi ʻana i ke keiki iā ʻoe. E hana pū me lākou i kahi āu i ʻike ai he maikaʻi lākou a hāʻawi iā lākou i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa maikaʻi. E aʻo iā lākou ma ka ʻae ʻana iā lākou i ka ʻike.

E noho maikaʻi a mālie i ka wā e hāʻawi ai i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa. Makau nā keiki i ke kanaka makua nāna lākou e uē a ʻulaʻula ke alo i ka hoʻohewa ʻana. E ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana o nā keiki inā ʻoe e hāʻawi ana i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohewa maikaʻi me ke ahonui a me ka lokomaikaʻi a kōkua ia iā lākou e hōʻike i kēia lokomaikaʻi i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

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lori ramsey Ua hānau ʻia ʻo Lori Ramsey (LA Ramsey) i ka makahiki 1966 ma Twenty-Nine Palms, Kaleponi. Ua ulu ʻo ia ma Arkansas kahi i noho ai me kāna kāne a me kāna mau keiki ʻeono!! Ua lawe ʻo ia i ka papa kākau moʻolelo kaulana ma Fiction mai 1993-1996. Ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kākau moʻolelo moʻolelo i ka makahiki 1996 a ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kākau i ka non-fiction ma 2001.

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Ua hānau ʻia ʻo Lori Ramsey (LA Ramsey) i ka makahiki 1966 ma Twenty-Nine Palms, Kaleponi. Ua ulu ʻo ia ma Arkansas kahi i noho ai me kāna kāne a me kāna mau keiki ʻeono!! Ua lawe ʻo ia i ka papa kākau moʻolelo kaulana ma Fiction mai 1993-1996. Ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kākau moʻolelo moʻolelo i ka makahiki 1996 a ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kākau i ka non-fiction ma 2001.


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