Kamaʻilio me nā kamaliʻi e pili ana i nā pōʻino

na Joy Burgess

ʻIke ʻia ka nūhou weliweli ma nā wahi a pau o ka pāpā i kēia mau lā. Me nā mea hou nā pōʻino in Paris a me nā hoʻouka kaua ʻē aʻe o ka ISIS a puni ka honua, nui nā keiki e hoʻomaka nei e nīnau i ko lākou mau mākua i nā nīnau e pili ana i kēia mau hana ʻino ʻole. Hōʻike pinepine ʻia nā kamaliʻi i ka nūhou i kēia lā, i hoʻopaʻa ʻia me nā kiʻi o nā pana, nā ōlaʻi, nā pahū, a me nā mea hou aku. Ma ke ʻano he poʻe mākua, ʻike mākou i kēia mau hanana weliweli a hoʻoweliweli, akā nā pōʻino hiki ke weliweli loa i na keiki. Ke hiki mai ka pōʻino, he mea nui e kamaʻilio me kāu keiki, e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ka palekana a me ka palekana. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he aha a me ka nui āu e kaʻana like ai e hilinaʻi i ka ʻano a me ka makahiki o kāu keiki. E mālama i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā manaʻo kōkua i kou kōkua ʻana i kāu keiki e hoʻokele i nā hanana pōʻino he nui e hana nei i ko kākou honua i kēia mau lā.

ʻO ke koʻikoʻi o ka kaupalena ʻana i ka hōʻike ʻana o kāu keiki i ka Media

ʻO ka mea mua, he mea nui e kaupalena i ka hoʻolaha pāpaho o kāu keiki, ʻoi aku hoʻi no kāu mau keiki liʻiliʻi. ʻAʻole pono e ʻike ʻia nā keiki ma lalo o ʻelima mau makahiki nā pōʻino like me Paris i nā mea āpau. Hiki i nā keiki makua ma waena o 6-11 mau makahiki ke hā'awi 'ia i nā 'ike maoli a he mea li'ili'i wale nō ka 'ike 'ana i ka pāpaho. No nā keiki o kēia mau makahiki, ʻo ka ʻike mau ʻana i nā kiʻi weliweli hiki ke hopena i nā pilikia me ka hopohopo i waena o nā keiki.

Ma hope o ka mea hope loa Paris hoouka kaua, ka Ua hoʻopuka ʻo American Academy of Pediatrics i kahi ʻōlelo e ʻōlelo ana e makaʻala loa nā mākua i nā kiʻi e ʻike ʻia e kā lākou mau keiki ma hope o ka hoʻouka kaua weliweli Paris. He hopena mau ka hana ʻino i nā keiki, ʻoiai inā lohe wale lākou a ʻike iā ia ma o ka media. No nā keiki ma lalo o 11 makahiki, he mea nui e pale aku i nā kikoʻī e weliweli a hoʻopilikia i nā keiki. Eia nō naʻe, he mea nui ka ʻae ʻana i kāu keiki e hōʻike i kona manaʻo ma hope o ke aʻo ʻana e pili ana i kahi pōʻino.

E lawe mai i ka pōʻino iā ʻoe iho inā ʻaʻole kāu keiki

Ke hiki mai kahi pōʻino, ʻaʻole hiki i kāu keiki ke hāpai i ke kumuhana. ʻOiai inā lohe a ʻike paha lākou i ke kumuhana ma ka nūhou, ʻaʻole makemake lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana. Inā ʻike ʻoe ua ʻike kāu keiki i kahi pōʻino, a ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻopuka iā ia, e lawe i ka manawa e hoʻopuka iā ʻoe iho. E nīnau i kāu keiki i kona manaʻo i hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kona manaʻo ua hana maoli. I nā manawa he nui, waiho ʻia nā keiki me nā kuhi hewa ʻole o kahi hanana pōʻino, hiki ke lilo i mea pilikia. Lohe pinepine na keiki nā pōʻino like me Paris mai nā hoa ʻē aʻe, a he mea nui ia e ʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka makani. E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e hoʻopuka ai i ka pilikia a ʻike i kā lākou ʻike e pili ana i ia mea i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i nā wehewehe kuhi hewa.

E nīnau i nā nīnau e ʻike ai i nā pilikia o kāu keiki

Ke hana ʻia nā hanana weliweli, pono nā keiki e hoʻomaka e nīnau iā ʻoe i nā nīnau e pili ana i nā kikoʻī. Hiki paha iā lākou ke nīnau i nā nīnau penei: "E hiki mai ana paha ma ʻaneʻi?" Aia i hea nā mākua o ke keiki?” "Ua hewa anei kēlā mau kānaka?" “He kaua anei kēia?” "ʻO wai i make, a pēlā aku?" Eia naʻe, ma mua o kou hoʻomaka ʻana e pane i kēia mau nīnau, e hoʻomaopopo pono ʻoe i ka mea a lākou e nīnau nei. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ke kumu o ka manaʻo o kāu keiki ma o ka nīnau ʻana i kāu mau nīnau ponoʻī. No ka laʻana, inā nīnau kāu keiki "E hiki mai anei kēlā me kēia?" Hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i kāu keiki i ka nīnau like, me ka nīnau ʻana i kona manaʻo no ia mea.

I nā manawa he nui, hopohopo nā keiki i kou palekana pilikino a i ʻole ko lākou palekana pilikino. Inā ʻo kēia ke kumu kumu o kā lākou mau nīnau, hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā lākou i nā hōʻoiaʻiʻo kikoʻī i ʻike lākou ua maikaʻi lākou a ua maikaʻi ʻoe.

Hāʻawi i kāu keiki i ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo

He mea nui e hāʻawi i kāu keiki i ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo nui ke kamaʻilio ʻoe me nā keiki e pili ana i nā mea hou nā pōʻino i hanaia. He mea koʻikoʻi kēia i ka wā e hopohopo nei nā keiki inā hiki mai kahi pōʻino iā lākou. Ke noʻonoʻo koke nei ka hapa nui o nā keiki inā palekana lākou a me nā poʻe a lākou e aloha ai.

Ke makemake kāu keiki i ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻana, e ʻoluʻolu e kamaʻilio me kāu keiki e hana ikaika ana ʻoe e mālama pono iā lākou e noho palekana. Eia naʻe, pono ʻoe e pale i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiki wahaheʻe i kāu keiki. ʻO ka hōʻike ʻana i kāu keiki e lilo ana ʻoe i ka wiwo ʻole a me ka makaʻu ʻole, ʻoiai ke kū mai ka haunaele a me ka pōʻino, e kōkua i kāu keiki e ikaika a wiwo ʻole pū kekahi.

ʻOiai e hōʻoluʻolu i kāu keiki, e hōʻoia ʻoe e hōʻike iā ia he maikaʻi ke makaʻu a kaumaha paha. Nui nā keiki e ho'āʻo e hūnā i ko lākou mau manaʻo. He manawa kēia e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua i kāu keiki e ʻae he mea maʻamau a kūlohelohe kona mau manaʻo, e maʻalahi iā ia ke hoʻokele i kēia mau manaʻo ke hiki mai.

E hoʻomau i ka mālie

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ke kamaʻilio ʻoe me nā keiki nā pōʻino, he mea nui e hōʻoia e noho mālie ʻoe. Pilikia kāu mau keiki i kou mau manaʻo, no laila pono ʻoe e hōʻoia e hoʻomau ʻoe i kāu pane ʻana. Inā lohe kāu mau keiki iā ʻoe e kamaʻilio ana e pili ana i kahi pōʻino a nīnau e pili ana i ia mea, he mea maikaʻi e mālama i kāu wehewehe pōkole akā pololei. E hōʻike i kāu keiki e maikaʻi ana ʻoe.

E hoʻomanaʻo, makemake ʻoe e noho mālie, me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka ʻōlelo kino, ka ʻano, a me ka pane e hōʻike i kāu mau keiki e maikaʻi ana ʻoe. Eia nō naʻe, makemake ʻoe e hōʻike i kou manaʻo i kekahi e ʻike i nā keiki he maikaʻi ka hōʻike ʻana i nā manaʻo. Hiki ke aʻo i kāu keiki i nā haʻawina koʻikoʻi ma ka hōʻike ʻana i ka manaʻo a me ka nāwaliwali, akā e noho mālie ʻoe a e noho mālie pū kekahi.

Hoʻopili i nā hana maʻamau

Makemake nā keiki i ka hana maʻamau. Hiki ke ʻike ʻia ko lākou ola, ʻoiai ʻo ke koena o ka honua e hāʻule ana. I ka wā pōʻino e like me ka Paris hiki mai nā hoʻouka kaua, e mālama pono ʻoe i nā hana hōʻoluʻolu o kāu keiki. Ke manaʻo ʻole ke ola a me ka weliweli, ʻike nā keiki i ka hōʻoluʻolu i ka wānana. Ke hoʻohui ʻoe i kēia i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu mau keiki, hōʻoiaʻiʻo ia iā lākou e hoʻomau ko lākou honua a maikaʻi nā mea, ʻoiai inā hopohopo lākou i kēia manawa. ʻO ka kamaʻāina o nā ʻano o ke ola o kēlā me kēia lā e ʻoi aku ka maʻamau o ke ola, ʻoiai i ka wā i hiki mai ai kahi pōʻino.

Nā Manaʻo kōkua ʻē aʻe

Ke kamaʻilio nei ʻoe me nā keiki e pili ana nā pōʻino, e noʻonoʻo e hoʻohana i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā hoʻolālā pū kekahi:

• E hoʻolimalima manawa me kāu keiki. ʻO ka noho ʻana i mua o kou alo hiki iā lākou ke ʻoi aku ka palekana.
• E hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe e hāʻawi i kāu keiki i ke aloha kino a me ka hōʻoluʻolu, e like me ka hoʻomoe pū ʻana me kahi moʻolelo moe a i ʻole ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā pūliki hou aʻe. Hāʻawi kēia i kahi manaʻo palekana kino e hānai iā ʻoe a me kāu keiki.
• Hana i nā mea a ʻolua a me kāu keiki e hauʻoli ai e hana like, e like me ka pāʻani ʻana, a i ʻole ka hele wāwae pū. Hiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o kekahi manawa ke kōkua i nā keiki e ʻoi aku ka palekana i ka wā e makaʻu ai lākou.
• E kuhikuhi i nā mea kōkua i ka wā nā pōʻino e like me nā kauka, nā mākaʻi, nā kānaka kinai ahi, nā kauka, nā mea manawaleʻa, nā mea lapaʻau, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Kōkua kēia i kāu mau keiki e ʻike he nui ka poʻe e hoʻāʻo nei e kōkua. Inā ua ʻike ʻoe i kahi hanana ahi ʻeha a laila e ʻike ʻoe a me kāu keiki ʻElima mau mea koʻikoʻi e hana ai ma hope o ke ahi.

Hoʻouka ʻo Paris ma nā maka o kahi keiki. He manawa ʻehaʻeha kēia i ka wā e hoʻāʻo ai ka makua kāne e kōkua i kāna keiki ʻōpio e hoʻokō a hōʻoluʻolu.

Kawaihae

He mea kākau ʻoihana ʻo Joy Burgess. He 35 makahiki ʻo ia ka wahine a me ka makuahine, ke noho nei ʻo ia ma Arizona. Aia i loko o kona ʻohana kāna kāne, ke keiki kāne, ke kaikamahine, a me ka ʻīlio, ʻo Chewy. Me ka piha piha o ka makuahine, hana pū ʻo Joy i ka manawa piha ma ke ʻano he mea kākau a mea hoʻokani pila. ʻO nā leʻaleʻa a me nā mea hoihoi e pili ana i ka scrapbooking, ka mahiʻai ʻana, ka pāʻani piano, ka kuke ʻana, a me ka loaʻa ʻana o nā manawa kaʻawale o ka manawa mālie.

Kevin

More4kids Luna Nui, Lunahooponopono a Luna Nui

Aloha mai! ʻO wau ʻo Kevin, ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu a me ka luna hoʻoponopono o More4Kids International, he kumuwaiwai piha no nā mākua ma ka honua holoʻokoʻa. ʻO kaʻu misionari e hoʻolako i nā mākua me nā mea hana a me nā ʻike e pono ai lākou e hānai i nā keiki ʻokoʻa.

Ma ke ʻano he makua kāne no ʻelua keiki kāne maikaʻi ʻole, ua ʻike wau i ka rollercoaster o ka makua, a ʻo kēia mau ʻike e hoʻoikaika i koʻu hoʻolaʻa ʻana i ka hana ʻana iā More4Kids i alakaʻi hilinaʻi no nā mākua. Hāʻawi kā mākou kahua i ka ʻike nui, mai nā hacks makua mālama manawa i nā hoʻolālā meaʻai meaʻai no nā ʻohana nui, a me nā hoʻolālā no ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻana me nā ʻōpio.

Ma waho aʻe o kaʻu kuleana ʻoihana, he makua kūpaʻa wau e hoʻokūkū nei i ka manaʻo o ka noʻonoʻo nui i ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki kūpaʻa a kūleʻa. Paʻa wau i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i kēia manaʻo i kaʻu mau keiki ponoʻī a makemake nui wau i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i nā mākua ʻē aʻe e hana like.

E hui pū me aʻu i kēia huakaʻi maikaʻi ʻoiai mākou e ʻimi pū ai i ka paʻakikī o ka noho makua. Ma o More4Kids, ke hāpai nei mākou i ka hanauna hou o nā keiki kupaianaha a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i nā ʻohana, hoʻokahi ʻōlelo makua i ka manawa.

Ua kākau ʻia ʻo More4kids no nā mākua e nā mākua.