Eia kahi pilikia makua: he keiki kāu e ʻimi mau nei i kou nānā? ʻIke ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e noi ʻia e kāu keiki e nānā i kēlā me kēia neʻe a lākou e hana ai? I loko o ke kaʻa, e noi ana nā keiki iā Māmā lāua ʻo Pāpā e huli aʻe e nānā i kahi mea a lākou e kaha nei, a i ʻole kekahi mea e maalo ana, a i ʻole he helehelena ʻakaʻaka āna e hana nei, etc.
Huhū ka hapa nui o nā mākua ma hope o kekahi manawa no ka mea ʻaʻole i noʻonoʻo ke keiki i ka hana a ko lākou Māmā a Pāpā paha i kēlā manawa. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻonāukiuki no ka mea ma ka hapa nui ʻaʻole hiki i ka noʻonoʻo o ke keiki ke hoʻomaopopo i kou hana ʻana i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, ʻoiai hiki iā ia ke ʻike pono me ko lākou mau maka. ʻOiai hiki ke hoʻomaopopo ʻia he mea hoʻonāukiuki kekahi o kēia mau "kahea no ka nānā ʻana", he mea nui e aʻo i ka mahalo i nā pono o kāu keiki.
ʻIke ʻoe, hana ke keiki i nā mea he nui āna i manaʻo ai he mea hoʻohauʻoli loa a ʻo kāna makemake wale nō e kaʻana like ia mau mea me kona mau mākua. E noʻonoʻo i nā mea liʻiliʻi o ke ola āu e ʻike ai i ka hoihoi a me ka hoihoi a makemake ʻoe e hōʻike i kekahi. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka wā hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke kali e hōʻike i kēlā mau kāmaʻa hou? A i ʻole pehea e kiʻi ai i kāu hoa e hele mai e nānā i ka pāʻani ma kāu kīwī plasma hou? ʻAe, ʻaʻole ia he mea ʻokoʻa no ke keiki, koe wale nō ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomaopopo koke i kou paʻahana, kaʻa kaʻa, a heluhelu paha i kahi puke.
Hoʻonui kāu keiki i nā manaʻo maikaʻi. Pono ʻo ia e lohe i nā ʻōlelo hoʻoikaika a ʻike e hana ana ʻo ia i kahi mea "maikaʻi" e hoʻohauʻoli iā ʻoe. I kona hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i kahi akamai i kekahi mea a i ʻole hana i kahi mea hou e hōʻike iā ʻoe, ʻo kāna makemake wale nō e hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia. Ke ʻimi nei ʻo ia i ka mahalo. Makemake lākou e lohe i nā huaʻōlelo e like me “He kiʻi maikaʻi loa ia,” “Nā hopu maikaʻi,” a i ʻole “Makemake au i kāu hana maikaʻi ʻana.”
ʻO ka hapa nui, hoʻohaʻahaʻa nā mākua i ka nui o ka hana maʻalahi o ka nānā ʻana i kā lākou mau keiki. A inā ʻoe e nānā ana i kāu keiki me ka nīnau ʻole ʻia, a laila e hoʻouna ana i kahi ʻōlelo ikaika loa o ke aloha a me ka ʻae ʻana i kāna noʻonoʻo liʻiliʻi.
ʻO nā keiki e ulu nei me kēia ʻano o ka nānā ʻana e loaʻa i kahi kiʻi pilikino ikaika loa. A hiki nō ke kū'ē. Inā ʻaʻole lawa ka nānā ʻana a me ka ʻae ʻia ʻana o kāu keiki liʻiliʻi a laila e ulu aʻe ʻo ia me kahi kiʻi ponoʻī ʻole no ka mea ua manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole i lawa ka waiwai o kāna hana.
Hoʻokahi ʻōlelo akahele: E ʻike i ka wā e nānā ai i kāu keiki me ka nīnau ʻole, akā e huki i ka laina i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā ʻōlelo aʻo makemake ʻole. Inā noi kāu keiki iā ʻoe e nānā iā ia e komo i kekahi ʻano hana, mai hoʻopololei i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana iā ia. ʻO kahi keiki e ʻōlelo ana "e nānā iaʻu" makemake i ka ʻae ʻia, ʻaʻole ke aʻo ʻana. No ka laʻana, inā noi kāu keiki iā ʻoe e "nānā iaʻu e hopu i kēia kinipōpō" a laila e nānā a pāʻani, mai hoʻomaka e hāʻawi iā ia i nā ʻōlelo aʻo a hoʻoponopono iā ia. E mae ana kona hoihoi.
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