Manaʻo hoʻoponopono: Ua haʻi mai kekahi o kā mākou mea kākau, ʻo Karen Sibal i kēia moʻolelo. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o 2 mau keiki liʻiliʻi a mākou ponoʻī he mea weliweli a paʻakikī ke heluhelu. Ua noʻonoʻo ʻiʻo wau me kaʻu kāne e pili ana i ko mākou home a me ka palekana o kā mākou mau keiki, a me ka mea hiki iā mākou ke hana i mea e palekana ai ko mākou home. Julie
Eia ka moʻolelo palekana keiki a Karen i haʻi mai iā mākou:
He kakahiaka punawai nani ia i ka Poalua i hala. ʻO ka mea i hoʻomaka ma ke ʻano he hele wāwae maʻamau i ka paka me kaʻu kaikamahine, ua lilo ia i mea hoʻololi i ke ola, kahi mea aʻu e poina ʻole ai no kekahi manawa. I ko mākou hoʻokokoke ʻana i ka paka, ʻike mākou i ʻelua mau keiki liʻiliʻi - he keikikāne ma kahi o 3 mau makahiki a me kahi kaikamahine ma kahi o 2 - e hele wale ana i ke ala nui. Puhihihi a huikau ko lakou nana aku iloko o ko lakou mau kukini a me na lole moe, e auwana ana. Eia ka mea weliweli: ʻaʻohe kanaka makua me lākou. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻohe kanaka makua i ʻike ʻia.
ʻO ke kaikamahine liʻiliʻi, e paʻa ana i ka lima o ke keikikāne, hele akula ia ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ke ala paʻa a noho ihola ma ke ala. He waimaka kona. Nānā ke keiki i hope ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ke alanui, me ka maopopo ʻole inā pono ʻo ia e hoʻi i hope. I ko makou hele akahele ana i na keiki, hoomaka lakou e uwe. Nīnau au iā lākou i ko lākou inoa a ma hea e loaʻa ai ko lākou makuahine a makua paha. ʻO nā mea a pau i hiki iā lākou ke kuhikuhi i ka lālani o nā hale ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ke alanui, ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻike i ko lākou. I kēlā manawa, lele akula kekahi wahine mai kekahi o nā hale, me ka puʻuwai naʻe akā ua hauʻoli a mahalo i ka ʻike ʻana i kāna mau keiki e noho maluhia ana ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o ke alanui.
ʻIke ʻia, ua wehe nā keiki i ka puka mua i wehe ʻia, a paheʻe i waho i ka wā o ka wahine ma luna o ke kelepona. I kona iho ʻana i lalo, ʻike ʻo ia ua mālie ka hale. Ua manaʻo ʻo ia e pāʻani ana nā keiki ma lalo a i ʻole ma hope. Ma hope o kekahi mau minuke ʻaʻole ʻo ia i lohe i kekahi mea mai iā lākou, ua pio nā pihi panic.
Makemake mākou a pau e noʻonoʻo ua palekana kā mākou mau keiki ma ka home. Ua aʻo nui au mai kēia hanana weliweli a hoʻomaka wau e noʻonoʻo i koʻu mau hemahema ma ke ʻano he makua. ʻO wau paha kēia makuahine, e ʻimi ana i kaʻu kaikamahine? Hoʻokahi wale nō manawa o ka mālama ʻole ʻana a i ʻole ka nānā ʻole ʻana no kekahi mea pōʻino. Ma ke ʻano he poʻe mākua, he kuleana koʻikoʻi ko mākou e hōʻoia i nā keiki mau mālama ʻia - a e hana ʻia nā pāʻani āpau i loko o kahi wahi palekana a palekana.
Hōʻike nā ʻikepili hou ma kahi o 90% o nā hōʻeha ʻohana i nā keiki hiki ke wānana a hiki ke pale ʻia. ʻOiai hiki i kekahi ke hāʻule i lalo i ke alapiʻi, ʻo nā keiki ma lalo o 3 mau makahiki ka nui o nā ʻeha pili i ke alapiʻi. Inā ʻeha ʻoe a i ʻole kekahi mea āu e mālama ai i kahi ulia alapiʻi, mai hoʻokaʻulua e kelepona loio ulia ala alapii no ke kokua kanawai.
Manaʻo hoʻoponopono: Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i kēia mau ʻatikala, e nānā ʻO Karens Child Safety Checklist a Nā alakaʻi palekana no nā keiki home. Inā ʻoe e ʻimi nei i nā mea hou aku e pili ana i ka palekana o nā keiki, ʻelua mau puke maikaʻi ʻo “Nā Keiki palekana"na Vivian Kramer Fancher a me"Nā Kumu Hōʻoiaʻiʻo Pepe” na Vicki Lanski. Julie
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He mea kākau manuahi ʻo Karen Sibal, mea noiʻi a me ke kūkākūkā kamaʻilio. ʻO ia ka mea nona ka Sibal Writing and Consulting, kahi ʻoihana loea i ka noiʻi kulekele aupuni a me nā kamaʻilio kūpono a me nā hoʻonā pūnaewele no nā ʻano hui āpau. I nā makahiki he 15 i hala iho nei, ua hana ʻo Karen i nā hana no nā aupuni kūloko a me ka panalāʻau a me nā hui ʻaʻole waiwai. Ua kākau nui ʻo Karen i nā pilikia o nā keiki a ua kōkua ʻo ia i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi hui no nā makuahine a me nā keiki ma kona kaiāulu. He lālā ʻo ia o ka Halton-Peel Communications Association a ua lawelawe pū ʻo ia ma ke ʻano he luna hoʻoponopono o kahi puke moʻolelo mālama keiki aupuni. Ke kākau nei ʻo Karen i kahi moʻolelo puke no nā keiki kula kamaliʻi a paʻa mau i nā papahana kaiaulu like ʻole.
Noho ʻo Karen me kāna kāne a me kāna mau kaikamahine ʻelua, 2 a me 8 mau makahiki, ma Oakville, Ontario Kanada. No ka ʻike hou aku e pili ana iā Karen, e kipa i kāna pūnaewele ma www.sibal.ca a kāhea aku 416-580-9097.
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