He aha kāu e hana ai ke ʻike ʻoe e hoʻomaka ana kāu keiki e nahu i nā keiki ʻē aʻe? ʻOiai e maʻa mau nā kamaliʻi e hōʻeha iā lākou iho i kā lākou mau ʻoihana liʻiliʻi a puni ka hale, nui ka poʻe o lākou e hoʻohana i ka mea kaua o ko lākou niho e hōʻeha i nā keiki ʻē aʻe, a i ʻole nā mea makua. ʻO ka nahu keiki kekahi o nā ʻano hoʻopilikia a nā mākua a kahu paha i ke komo ʻana o kā lākou mau keiki i ke kahua kamaliʻi. ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā kumu o kēia ʻano a me ka ʻimi ʻana i nā hana pale ka mea e hopohopo nui ai nā mākua a me nā kahu mālama.
Nā kumu o ka nahu ʻana o nā kamaliʻi
ʻO ka mea mua, pono e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole nahu nā kamaliʻi a pau. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka hapa nui o nā keiki ma waena o hoʻokahi a ʻekolu mau makahiki e hana i kekahi ʻano nahu no nā kumu like ʻole. Manaʻo nā kānaka kālaiʻike hoʻomohala ʻo ke kumu nui o ka nahu ʻana o ke keiki ʻo ka hiki ʻole o ke keiki ke kamaʻilio waha. Me ka ulu ʻana o nā mākau ʻōlelo, aʻo nā kamaliʻi e hoʻohana i ko lākou mau niho e kāhea aku i kahi pane mai nā poʻe a puni lākou.
ʻO ka huhū ke kumu ʻē aʻe o ka nahu ʻana o ke keiki. Inā huhū ke keiki, ʻo ka nahu ʻana he ala ia e haʻi aku ai ke keiki i kēlā mau manaʻo i kekahi. Hiki i nā keiki liʻiliʻi [/tag-cat] ke hoʻohana i ko lākou mau niho ma nā mea e hoʻomaha ai i ka ʻeha o ka ʻāʻī i kumu e ulu ai ka niho. ʻO ka hope, hiki i kahi keiki liʻiliʻi ke hoʻohana i ka nahu ʻana ma ke ʻano he hana hoihoi.
Pehea e pale ai i ka nahu keiki
He mea nui ka nahu ʻana ma waena o nā kamaliʻi ma mua o ka lilo ʻana i mea maʻamau i paʻakikī i kāu keiki e haki. ʻO ka nahu ʻana o nā kamaliʻi kekahi o nā ʻano liʻiliʻi e hiki ke hoʻopilikia i kāu keiki a me ʻoe i ka [tag-ice] kula kula [/tag-ice]. ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, aia kekahi mau ʻanuʻu e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana e hoʻōki i ka nahu ʻana o ke keiki ma mua o ka lilo ʻana i mea maʻamau no kāu keiki.
Hana Hana
E hoʻomaka ka hana pale mua i ka nahu ʻana o ke keiki me ka makua. E hōʻike i kou ʻae ʻole i ka hana ma ka haʻi ʻana i kāu keiki, "ʻAʻole nahu!" me ka leo koʻikoʻi a hoʻoneʻe iā ia mai ke kūlana. E hana hou i kēia hana e like me ka mea e pono ai, a hiki i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai ʻoe e ʻike i ka holomua o nā pane a kāu keiki. Inā ʻaʻole maikaʻi kāu mau hana, e kiʻi i ke kōkua o nā kahu mālama o kāu keiki no ke kākoʻo hou aʻe. Inā hōʻole kāu keiki e hoʻōki i ka hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i kahi [tag-tec]loiloi hoʻonaʻauao [/tag-tec] no nā manaʻo ʻē aʻe.
Ka nānā 'ana
Inā hāʻawi ʻoe i kou manaʻo a pau, ʻaʻohe mea ʻae ʻole, i ke keiki ʻino, e hoʻoikaika paha ʻoe i ka maʻamau o ka nahu. ʻO ke kumu, e aʻo koke kāu keiki i ka nahu ʻana. Ma ka nānā ʻana i ke kanaka a kāu keiki i nahu ai, a me ka hōʻike ʻana i ke aloha iā ia, e lawe ʻoe i ka manaʻo mai kāu keiki ponoʻī a kau pono i ke keiki i ʻeha.
Aʻo ʻŌlelo
Hiki paha i ka wā e aʻo ai kāu keiki i ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma o nā ʻano ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole e hōʻike hou ka nahu ʻana o ke keiki i kahi pilikia. Ke hiki i ke keiki ke hoʻohana i ka ʻōlelo e hōʻike ai i kona mau manaʻo, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻohana i ka nahu i ka wā e huhū ai a huhū paha.
E hoʻomanaʻo, he ʻano kēia e pono e hoʻoponopono koke ʻia no ka pale ʻana ʻaʻole kāu keiki wale nō akā nā keiki ʻē aʻe kekahi. Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke pale i ka makemake o kāu keiki e nahu i ka wā e huhū ai ʻo ia a i ʻole ʻoe e makaʻu e noi i ke kōkua a kūkākūkā me kahi ʻoihana no nā manaʻo a me ke kākoʻo.
He pou hoihoi loa. Mahalo iā ʻoe no kēia.
Makemake au i ka manaʻo e pili ana i ka nānā ʻana i ka nahu ma mua o ka nahu. He kōkua nui kēlā.
Makemake au i ka nānā ʻana i ka makua ma ke ʻano he mea hoʻoikaika mua, a me ka paipai ʻana e hana hou i ka hana i nā manawa e pono ai. Ma muli wale nō o ko mākou ʻike ʻana iā mākou iho e hana hou i kekahi mea, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole e lawe kā mākou keiki. I kēia hihia, pono e hana hou ʻia ka "keiki no ka nahu." Inā nahu ʻia nā mākua, a laila, “ʻAʻole no ka nahu ʻo Māmā/Papa (a i ʻole, ʻaʻole e nahu ʻia). ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻae iā ʻoe e hana pēlā!"