na Jennifer Shakeel
I loko o ka honua e ulu nei o ka makua, ʻo ke kumuhana o ke aʻo ʻana, ʻaʻole ia e nalowale i kona pili. ʻO kekahi ʻano kikoʻī i loaʻa ma lalo o ka microscope ʻo ka paʻi ʻana. ʻOiai ʻo ka hapa nui o mākou, ma ke ʻano he mau mākua, ua ulu aʻe me ka paʻi ʻana ma ke ʻano maʻamau o ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana a maikaʻi wale nō, ʻo nā haʻawina hou e hōʻike ana he hopena lōʻihi paha kēia ala. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua ʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi i paʻi ʻia ma Pediatrics e hōʻike ana nā keiki i ʻā ʻia e hōʻike i nā ʻano hana ʻino ma hope o ke ola. Ua alakaʻi kēia i nā mākua a me nā poʻe loea e ʻimi i nā mea ʻē aʻe.
ʻO wau iho, ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au he ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia keiki a ʻaʻole pono ka mea e hana ai no kekahi. Eia nō naʻe, he mea koʻikoʻi ka loaʻa ʻana o kā mākou mau mākua i nā mea hana like ʻole i kā mākou pahu hana hoʻopaʻi. Ma kēia ala, hiki iā mākou ke pane maikaʻi a me ke aloha i ka hana hewa o kā mākou mau keiki, e aʻo iā lākou i nā haʻawina ola waiwai me ka ʻole o ka hoʻopaʻi kino. Ma kēia ʻatikala, e ʻimi mākou i kekahi mau mea ʻokoʻa ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻaʻole e hoʻoikaika i ka ʻano maikaʻi akā e hoʻoulu pū i kahi pilina makua-keiki aloha a mahalo.
Ua paʻi ʻia kahi noiʻi hou ma ka National Pediatric ē aʻe Ua hōʻike ʻia ʻo nā keiki i hahau ʻia i ka wā he 3 (a ʻoi paha) ʻoi aku ka ʻoi aku ka huhū ma ke kula kindergarten a i ke ola holoʻokoʻa ma mua o kēlā mau keiki i hahau ʻole ʻia. ʻOiai ʻo ka hapa nui o mākou he mau mākua i kēia manawa ua ulu a paʻi ʻia a maikaʻi, ua hōʻike ʻia kahi koho balota i ka manaʻo o nā mākua e pili ana i ka paʻi ʻana, ua ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻumi 80% i manaʻo he kūpono. ʻAhahui Pediatric National ʻae ʻole.
Noʻu iho, manaʻo wau aia kahi manawa e hahau ʻia ai ke keiki, ʻoiai ʻo ia ka hopena hope loa a ʻo ia ka pane ʻana i ke keiki e waiho ana iā ia iho a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei hoʻi au he mau koho maikaʻi aʻe a he nui nā mea hoʻopaʻapaʻa e pono ai mākou e nā mākua ʻaʻole e aʻo wale i kā mākou mau keiki akā e aʻo iā lākou i ke kumu i hewa ai kā lākou hana.
Nā ʻano ʻē aʻe o ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana i nā mākua makua ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻekahi: e noho mālie
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Inā huhū ʻoe, he mea paʻakikī iā ʻoe ke noho mālie e wehewehe i kāu keiki i kāna hewa a me ke kumu o ka pilikia. Manaʻoʻiʻo a ʻaʻole paha, ʻaʻole maopopo a maopopo i nā keiki ke kumu o ka pilikia. No laila pono ʻoe e noho mālie e wehewehe iā lākou. He mākaukau koʻikoʻi ka noho mālie a me ka hui pū ʻana i ke aʻo ʻana i ke aʻo ʻana i ke keiki me ka ʻuā ʻole a i ʻole ka paʻi ʻana.
Manaʻo Manaʻo ʻElua: E hōʻoia iā ʻoe he "Me Time"
E like me ka naʻaupō o kēia kani, ʻo nā mākua i loaʻa ʻole ka manawa e hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa no lākou iho e wikiwiki e pane i kahi kūlana paʻakikī ma ka hahau ʻana i kāu keiki. ʻIke wau ma ke ʻano he makuahine o 3 (makahiki 15 a hiki i 16 mahina, wahine, a me ka mea nona ka ʻoihana home) hiki i ke ola ke hoʻopilikia iā mākou i kekahi manawa no mākou iho. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe i kahi lā… a i ʻole he mau hola… hoʻokahi hola a i ʻole 15 mau minuke kahi āu e hana ai e nānā iā ʻoe. E hoʻolohe i ke mele… inu mālie i ke kīʻaha kofe… e ʻauʻau wela. E kōkua iā ʻoe e kau i nā mea ma ke ʻano.
Manaʻo Kōkua ʻEkolu: ʻAno… akā Paʻa
Hiki i nā mākua ke paʻi i ka wā i hoʻolohe ʻole ai kā lākou keiki iā lākou ma hope o ka haʻi pinepine ʻana i kā lākou keiki mai hana i kekahi mea. I ka manawa aʻe e noho ai ʻoe ma kēia kūlana, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe e iho i lalo i ka ʻili o ka maka o kāu keiki, e kau mālie i kou lima ma luna o kona poʻohiwi a haʻi iā ia i kāu mea e makemake ai e hana lākou me ka leo ʻoluʻolu akā paʻa. E nānā, i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolohe ʻole iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole lākou ʻike i ka mea e hana ai. Paipai ʻo Kauka Michele Borba i ke aʻo ʻana i kāu keiki i kahi ʻano ʻē aʻe i ka ʻano āu e makemake ai e hoʻōki.
Manaʻo kōkua ʻehā: Hāʻawi i nā koho
E like me kaʻu i ʻōlelo ai ma ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma luna, i kekahi manawa he mea maoli ka ʻike ʻole i ka hana ʻē aʻe e hoʻopaʻa ai i kahi keiki i loko o ka pilikia a ma kahi o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hahau. No laila e hāʻawi iā lākou i nā koho, no ka laʻana, inā ʻoe ma ka papa ʻaina a ke pāʻani nei kāu keiki me kāna meaʻai hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo, "Makemake ʻoe e hoʻōki i ka pāʻani me kāu meaʻai a ʻai i ka ʻaina ahiahi a makemake paha ʻoe e moe pōloli? ” E hoʻoikaika i kāu keiki e hoʻoholo… a laila e ʻimi i nā hopena o kāna koho.
Manaʻo Manaʻo ʻElima: E hōʻoia i ke kūpono o nā hopena
ʻO kekahi o nā koho pānaʻi maikaʻi loa, ʻo ia ka hōʻoia ʻana he kūpono nā hopena. He mea nui kēia inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻololi i kekahi ʻano a aʻo i kāu keiki i ke kuleana. E ʻōlelo kākou ua haki kāu keiki i ke kukui kaʻa ma ke kaʻa o kou hoalauna i ka wā e pāʻani ana i ka pōhili ma ka cul-de-sac… ua hahau ʻoe iā ia… he aha ke aʻo ʻana o kāu keiki mai ia mea? ʻIke wau, ke manaʻo nei ʻoe e aʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole e hana hou. ʻAe, e aʻo nō ʻo ia inā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e paʻi i kāna hana hewa, pono ʻo ia e hūnā i kēlā kuhi hewa. E ʻōlelo aku i kāu keiki, “Ua ʻike au ua haki ʻoe i ke kukui huelo o ke kaʻa o kou hoalauna… he aha kāu e hana ai e hoʻoponopono ai?”
Manaʻo kōkua ʻeono: E hana i nā ʻaelike me kāu keiki
Manaʻo kōkua ʻeono: E hana i nā ʻaelike me kāu keikiInā he ʻaelike kāu a me kāu keiki a ua uhaki kāu keiki i kēlā ʻaelike, e hāʻawi iā ia i ka manawa e hoʻi hou i kāu mau lokomaikaʻi maikaʻi me ka "make-up" ma mua o ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana iā ia.
Manaʻo kōkua ʻehiku: e haʻalele i ka paio
He mea ma'amau no ke keiki ke ho'i i hope i kekahi 'ano. Aia kekahi mau manawa e hiki ai i kēlā sass ke hana iā ʻoe me ka paʻi. Ma kahi o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana me kāu keiki, e huli aʻe a nānā i kāu keiki kāne a i kāu kaikamahine a ʻōlelo aku, “E noho au ma ke keʻena aʻe ke mākaukau ʻoe e kamaʻilio me aʻu me ka mahalo… ”
Parenting ʻo ia kekahi o nā paʻakikī nui loa āu e kū ai, akā pono ʻoe e ʻike ʻo ia kekahi o nā mea maikaʻi loa. Ke ho'āʻo nei nā mākua a pau e hana maikaʻi i ka hānai ʻana i kā lākou mau keiki a i kekahi manawa pono mākou i kahi kōkua liʻiliʻi e ʻimi ana i nā koho ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Pinepine ninau ninaninau 'ana i
He ʻano hoʻopaʻi maikaʻi anei ka paʻi ʻana i nā keiki?
Wahi a kahi noiʻi i paʻi ʻia ma Pediatrics, ʻoi aku ka ikaika o nā keiki i pāpā ʻia i ke kula kindergarten a i ke ola holoʻokoʻa. ʻOiai ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei kekahi mau mākua i ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana ma ke ʻano he hopena hope loa, aia kekahi mau ʻano aʻoaʻo ʻē aʻe i hiki ke ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
He aha nā mea ʻē aʻe i ka hahau ʻana i ke aʻo ʻana i ke keiki?
Nui nā mea ʻē aʻe i ka paʻi ʻana. ʻO kēia ka noho mālie a me ka wehewehe ʻana i kāu keiki i ke kumu o ka hewa o kāna ʻano, me ka hōʻoia ʻana e loaʻa iā ʻoe ka "manawa me aʻu" e pale aku ai i ke koʻikoʻi, ka lokomaikaʻi akā kūpaʻa me kāu keiki, hāʻawi i nā koho e hoʻoikaika i kāu keiki, e hōʻoia i ka hopena o kāna mau hana. kūpono, hana kuʻikahi me kāu keiki, a haʻalele i ka hakakā inā pono.
Pehea e noho malie ai na makua i ke ao ana i na keiki?
He mea nui i nā mākua ke lawe manawa no lākou iho, ʻoiai inā he 15 minuke wale nō i ka lā. Hiki i kēia ke kōkua i ka hoʻokomo ʻana i nā mea i ke kuanaʻike a ʻae i nā mākua e pane mālie a maikaʻi i nā kūlana paʻakikī.
Pehea e aʻo ai nā mākua i kā lākou mau keiki e hoʻomaopopo i ka hopena o kā lākou hana?
Hiki i nā mākua ke hāʻawi i nā koho i kā lākou mau keiki a ʻae iā lākou e ʻike i ka hopena o kā lākou hoʻoholo. No ka laʻana, inā e pāʻani ana ke keiki me kāna meaʻai i ka ʻaina ahiahi, hiki i ka makua ke nīnau inā makemake lākou e hoʻōki i ka pāʻani a ʻai, a i ʻole e moe pōloli. Hāʻawi kēia i ke keiki e hoʻoholo a hoʻomaopopo i ka hopena.
He aha ka mea nui o ka hana ʻana i kuʻikahi me kāu keiki?
Hiki ke kōkua ka hana ʻana me kāu keiki e hoʻokumu i ka hilinaʻi a me ka ʻike. Inā haʻihaʻi ka ʻaelike, ma mua o ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana iā lākou, e hāʻawi iā lākou i manawa e hoʻoponopono ai. Hiki i kēia ke kōkua i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i ka manaʻo o ke kuleana a me ke kuleana i kāu keiki.
Panina
I ka huakaʻi o ka makua, ke aʻo mau nei mākou a me ka hoʻololi ʻana. ʻO ke kūkākūkā e pili ana i ka paʻi ʻana a me kāna mau mea ʻē aʻe he hōʻike i kēia ʻano hoʻololi. E like me kā mākou ʻimi ʻana, nui nā ʻano ʻokoʻa hoʻopaʻi i hiki ke kūpono i ke aʻo ʻana i kā mākou mau keiki e pili ana i nā hopena a me ke kuleana. Mai ka noho mālie a wehewehe i ke kūlana, i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā koho a me ka haʻalele ʻana i ka hakakā, hiki i kēia mau ala ke kōkua iā mākou e alakaʻi i kā mākou mau keiki i ka ʻike a me ka ulu ʻana.
E hoʻomanaʻo, ma ke ʻano he mau mākua, ʻaʻole wale ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana, akā ke aʻo ʻana. E pili ana ia i ke kōkua ʻana i kā mākou mau keiki e hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu o ka hewa a me ke alakaʻi ʻana iā lākou e hana i nā koho maikaʻi aʻe. E pili ana i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i kahi pilina i kūkulu ʻia ma luna o ka mahalo a me ka hoʻomaopopo. No laila, i ka manawa aʻe e loaʻa ai ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi kūlana paʻakikī, paipai wau iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kēia mau mea hoʻololi.
He huakaʻi ka makua i piha i nā luʻi a me nā uku, a ʻoiai ʻaʻole maʻalahi ia i nā manawa a pau, pono maoli ia. E hoʻomau i ka ʻimi, e hoʻomau i ke aʻo ʻana, a e hoʻomanaʻo, he hana maikaʻi kāu.
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Kawaihae
He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai ma mua o 12 mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻelua me hoʻokahi ma ke ala, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua a me nā hauʻoli a me nā loli i ka wā hāpai. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻakaʻaka a uē a hauʻoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he mau makuahine mākou!
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