ʻAʻole hiki wale ke ʻano maikaʻi mai nā keiki. Pono ka manawa a me ka hana ma kāu ʻaoʻao ma ke ʻano he makua. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hana ʻana i ke ʻano o ke keiki, akā hiki ke hana me ke ahonui a me ke aloha. Ke lawe ʻoe i ka manawa e hana ai i ka ʻano o kāu keiki, ʻoiai ʻaʻole paha lākou e mahalo i kēia manawa, i ka wā e hiki mai ana e kōkua ia iā ia e lilo i poʻe mākua huahua e hauʻoli a kūleʻa. Eia kekahi mau mea ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua no ka hana maikaʻi e hiki ke paipai a kōkua i kāu keiki e hoʻololi a hoʻomaikaʻi i kona ʻano no ka maikaʻi. Me kahi aʻo maikaʻi iki, hiki i kekahi mea!
Manaʻo kōkua #1 - E aʻo e haʻalele i ka hana ʻino akā makemake ʻole
ʻO kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo koʻikoʻi e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e paipai i ka hana maikaʻi aʻe mai kāu keiki ʻo ke aʻo ʻana i ka haʻalele ʻana i ka hana pono ʻole akā makemake ʻole. I kekahi manawa paʻakikī ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kaulike ma ka hana makua. He mea nui ʻoe e hakakā i nā kaua koʻikoʻi me ka ʻae ʻana i kekahi mau ʻano e mālama ʻole ʻia. Inā ʻaʻole e hōʻeha ka ʻano i ka waiwai, holoholona, a i ʻole kanaka, a laila he ʻano paha ia e haʻalele wale ʻoe. Ma kahi o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana no nā mea liʻiliʻi, ʻaʻole i ʻae ʻia i kekahi manawa he ala maikaʻi ia e hoʻoponopono ai. Hiki i nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole ke hoʻoikaika i ka hana ʻino o ke keiki, no laila, i kekahi manawa, ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa āu e hana ai, ʻo ia ke hōʻike iā lākou e mālama ʻole ʻia kēlā ʻano. Na kēia e aʻo iā lākou e haʻalele i kēia ʻano, no ka mea, ʻaʻole ia e nānā iā lākou.
Manaʻo kōkua #2 – E aʻo i kāu keiki e pili ana i ke kumu a me ka hopena
ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i kāu keiki e pili ana i ke kumu a me ka hopena kekahi o nā mea maikaʻi loa āu e hana ai e kōkua iā ia e aʻo i ke ala kūpono e hana ai. Ke ʻike nā keiki i ka hopena o kā lākou ʻano, e aʻo nui lākou i ka haʻawina. No ka holomua ma ke ʻano he kanaka makua, pono nā keiki e aʻo he mea nui nā koho naʻauao. Hiki i ka ʻike ke aʻo i kāu keiki i nā haʻawina he nui ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ia. ʻOiai pono ʻoe e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i nā keiki ʻaʻole e hana i nā koho ʻino, i nā manawa he nui, ʻo ka ʻae ʻana i kāu keiki e koho ponoʻī he haʻawina koʻikoʻi. E ʻae i kāu keiki e hana i nā hopena o kāna koho ʻana, e hāʻawi ana i ke aʻo wikiwiki no lākou.
Manaʻo kōkua #3 - E hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu keiki
Ke makemake ʻoe i ka hana maikaʻi aʻe mai kāu keiki, ʻo ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā ia kekahi o nā mea maikaʻi loa e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana e kōkua ai i ka hoʻohua ʻana iā ia. ʻO ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā lākou no ka maikaʻi inā ʻaʻole lākou e manaʻo e ʻoi aku ka ikaika a me ka maikaʻi! I ka hapanui o nā hihia, makemake nui nā keiki e ʻae iā ʻoe. E hōʻoia ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi ana i ke ʻano maikaʻi ma mua o ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i ke keiki. Eia kekahi laʻana, inā hana kāu keiki i kahi hana maikaʻi ma ko lākou lumi, e noʻonoʻo e ʻōlelo "Ua hana maikaʻi ʻoe ma kou lumi," ma mua o ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kekahi mea e like me "kaikamahine maikaʻi." ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e lawe i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ma luna, akā hiki ke kōkua maoli ka hoʻomaikaʻi maoli. Hiki i ka mahalo nui ke hā'awi i kāu keiki i ka mana'o he koho ka hana maika'i. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka manaʻo i ka hana maikaʻi mai kāu keiki a hoʻohana i ka mahalo e hoʻoikaika i kēlā ʻano maikaʻi i kēlā me kēia manawa.
Manaʻo kōkua #4 - E hōʻalo i ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā manaʻo ʻino
Pono ʻoe e hōʻole i ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole me kāu keiki ke makemake ʻoe i ka hana maikaʻi aʻe mai iā lākou. ʻO ka hōʻino ʻana i nā manawa āpau me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e hoʻopau i ka waiwai ponoʻī o kāu keiki. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, i nā manawa he nui, hiki i kēia mau ʻōlelo maikaʻi ke hoʻopau i kā lākou hana i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka maikaʻi. ʻO ka hana hou ʻana i kāu mau kauoha a i ʻole ka hana hou ʻana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e hiki ke hoʻoweliweli i ke keiki a alakaʻi i ka hana ʻino. Hōʻike pū ia ʻaʻole ʻoe hilinaʻi i kāu keiki. E kāpae i ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a ma kahi o mākou i nā ʻano kamaʻilio maikaʻi, e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā hopena maikaʻi aʻe.
Manaʻo kōkua #5 - E hoʻohana i kahi ʻōnaehana uku e hoʻoikaika i kāu keiki
I nā manawa he nui, hiki i ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi ʻōnaehana uku e hoʻoikaika i kāu keiki ke hōʻoia i ka maikaʻi ke hana ʻoe e paipai i ka ʻano maikaʻi. ʻOiaʻiʻo, pono ʻoe e makaʻala ma ʻaneʻi. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e manaʻo kāu keiki i ka uku i nā manawa a pau ke hana lākou e like me ka mea e pono ai. ʻO kāu pahuhopu ka makemake i kāu keiki e hana maikaʻi, ʻaʻole wale no ka uku ʻia ʻana. ʻO kahi ʻōnaehana maikaʻi e hana nei i ka hana ʻana i kahi pakuhi. Hiki i ka pakuhi ke ho'okomo i nā 'ano like 'ole o ka 'ano maika'i, a he 'ike nō ho'i ia e hiki ai ke hō'ike i kāu keiki i kona holomua 'ana i ka uku. Inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e hoʻohana i nā palapala kiʻi, e mālama maʻalahi iā lākou, e kau iā lākou i kahi e ʻike ʻia ai, a mālama i ka manawa a hiki i ka wā e hōʻiliʻili ai lākou i ka uku. Hāʻawi nā makana maʻalahi i nā keiki me ka hoʻoikaika nui.
Manaʻo kōkua #6 - E hoʻomanaʻo mau i kāu keiki i ka mea e pono ai lākou e hana
ʻOiai paʻakikī ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ma ke ʻano he makua, poina maoli nā keiki i ka hana. He kumu ʻoʻopa paha ia, akā pono e hoʻomanaʻo ʻia nā keiki he nui e pili ana i kā lākou ʻano a me nā mea e pono ai lākou e hana. E hoʻohana i nā ʻōkuhi maʻalahi e mālama i kāu mau keiki ma ke ala. ʻAʻole pono ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana e like me ke ʻano ʻino ʻana i ke keiki, akā he mau hōʻailona liʻiliʻi a maʻalahi e kōkua i ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i kahi hana liʻiliʻi. ʻO ke kumu, ke hāʻawi nei ʻoe i kāu keiki i kahi hōʻailona a hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohana iā ia e kiʻi i ka memo kūpono a hana i nā mea a lākou e hana ai me ka ʻole o ʻoe e hāʻawi i kahi kauoha.
Manaʻo kōkua #7 - Kāohi i kekahi mau pono
ʻO ka hope, aia kekahi mau wahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻauʻa i kekahi mau pono e kōkua i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i ka ʻano o kāu keiki. Nui nā mea a nā keiki e makemake ai ʻaʻole pono, akā he mau pono i loko o ka home. No ka laʻana, inā he kelepona kāu keiki, ʻaʻole pono ia. He kuleana ia. Inā ʻaʻole lākou e hana i kā lākou haʻawina home, pono paha ʻoe e hōʻike iā lākou hiki ke nalowale i ka pono o kā lākou kelepona inā ʻaʻole lākou kuleana e hana i kā lākou haʻawina home. E kōkua kēia iā ʻoe e aʻo i ke keiki i kahi haʻawina koʻikoʻi - ʻoi aku ka nui o nā pono e alakaʻi i ke kuleana.
He mea nui ka hoʻolikelike ʻana i ke ʻano o kāu keiki. Makemake ʻoe e hōʻoia i ka hana maikaʻi o kāu keiki a ulu aʻe ʻo ia e kūleʻa ma ke ʻano he kanaka makua. Me kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo hiki iā ʻoe ke hana maikaʻi me kāu keiki e paipai i ka hana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Pīhoihoi paha ʻoe i ka hana maikaʻi o kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, a e hoʻopau pū lākou i ke kaumaha mai kou makua.
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