ʻOiai ʻo kēlā me kēia keiki āu e hānai ai e hōʻike ana i nā luʻi, aia nā pilikia hou a kūʻokoʻa e hiki mai ana i kou wā e hānai ai i kāu keiki muli loa. No ka nui o nā keiki āu i hānai ai, e ʻike ʻoe he ʻokoʻa nā mea me kāu muli loa. ʻIke pinepine ʻia ke keiki muli loa he ʻano kipi, a pono kēia mau keiki i ka hōʻoia a me ka nānā nui ʻana no ka mea e hoʻokūkū nei lākou i ke koena o ko lākou mau kaikaina.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e ʻike, ʻo ke kauoha hānau ka mea nui i ka manaʻo a me ke ʻano o kāu keiki. Inā lawe ʻoe i ka manawa e aʻo hou aʻe e pili ana i nā pono kikoʻī o kēlā me kēia keiki, hāʻawi ia iā ʻoe i ka hiki ke hānai i kāu keiki i ka hilinaʻi a me ka pōʻai maikaʻi, i kona wā e ulu ana. Eia ka nānā ʻana i kekahi o nā hiʻohiʻona maʻamau i hōʻike ʻia e ke keiki muli loa a me kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokō pono i nā pono kūikawā o "ka pēpē" i loko o ka ʻohana.
Ke ano o ke keiki muli loa
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No ka mālama pono ʻana i kāu keiki muli loa, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo mua i kāu muli loa, kona manaʻo, a me nā ʻano a lākou e hōʻike mau ai. I ka hapanui o nā hihia, e ʻike ʻoe he ʻokoʻa loa kāu muli loa mai kāu mau keiki nui. ʻO ka maʻamau, he ʻakaʻaka a ʻoi aku ka launa pū ʻana o ke keiki muli loa ma mua o kāu mau keiki ʻē aʻe. Hiki iā lākou ke hana me ka makaʻu ʻole, no ka mea, ʻaʻole nui kā lākou kuleana. Manaʻo pinepine ka muli loa e hoʻokūkū a hahai paha i ka wāwae o ko lākou mau kaikuaʻana.
ʻO nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi he hele wāwae pinepine, noʻonoʻo, a ʻoi aku ka nui o ka lawe ʻana i nā pilikia. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻoluhi maʻalahi, hiki iā lākou ke manaʻo ponoʻī iā lākou iho, a makemake lākou i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia - ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua maʻa lākou i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia e like me "ke pēpē." E ʻike nō ʻoe i ko lākou ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka a hiki ke hoʻokūkū pū kekahi.
Nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua ʻōpio maikaʻi loa
I kēia manawa ua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā hiʻohiʻona o ke keiki muli loa, ua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou manaʻo pehea e mālama ai iā lākou. Ke hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i ka mea e alakaʻi ai i kahi keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻimi i nā ala e hana pū ai me kēlā mau ʻano pilikino e hānai ai iā lākou i mau mākua i hoʻoponopono maikaʻi ʻia a kuleana. Eia kekahi mau kiko'ī ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua no ka hānai ʻana i nā kaikamahine a i ʻole nā keiki kāne e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe i ka makua e hānai pono i kāu keiki muli loa i ko lākou ulu ʻana.
Manaʻo makua
Manaʻo kōkua #1 - Hāʻawi i kāu ʻōpio i kekahi manawa kūpono kūikawā
ʻO kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mua e hoʻomanaʻo i ka wā e hānai ai i ke keiki muli loa, ʻo ia ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu muli loa i kahi manawa kūikawā kūikawā. I ka wā e loaʻa ai ke keiki muli loa, ʻaʻole ʻoe hopohopo e like me ka makua mua. Ua ʻoi aku kou hilinaʻi ma ke ʻano he makua, akā ʻike ʻia paha kēia i kāu ʻōpio me ka nānā ʻole. Pono pono nā keiki i kahi manawa kūpono me ko lākou mau mākua. Heʻoiaʻiʻo kēia no ka muli loa. E hoʻokaʻawale i kekahi manawa i kēlā me kēia lā me kāu keiki muli loa. E hōʻoia e kūkākūkā ʻoe i kekahi hopohopo a hopohopo paha i loaʻa iā lākou. Pono lākou e ʻike aia ʻoe ma laila no lākou, ʻoiai ʻoe paʻahana me kāu mau keiki āpau.
Manaʻo kōkua #2 - E hoʻolauleʻa i kā lākou mau hana
ʻO kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo koʻikoʻi no ka mālama ʻana i kāu ʻōpio ʻo ka hoʻolauleʻa ʻana i kā lākou hana. He mea maʻalahi no ke keiki hānau hope ke hoʻomaka me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia ma muli o nā hana āpau i loaʻa i ko lākou mau kaikunāne. He mea nui e hoʻolauleʻa pono i nā hana i loaʻa i kāu keiki muli loa. Pono lākou e ʻimi i kā lākou mau leʻaleʻa a me nā mākau i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Loaʻa iā lākou ko lākou mau ʻano ponoʻī a pono ʻoe e hānai i nā makemake i loaʻa iā lākou i mea e ulu ai lākou i kahi ala maikaʻi. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hoʻōki i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i nā hana a kāu mau keiki ʻē aʻe, e hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu muli loa a mai hoʻohālikelike iā lākou me nā keiki ʻē aʻe āu i loaʻa ai.
Manaʻo kōkua #3 - E hōʻalo i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā lima-me-down he nui loa
Hoʻokahi mea a ke keiki muli loa e hana pinepine ai, ʻo ia ka lima-me-down. He ala maikaʻi loa kēia e hoʻohana hou a hana hou i nā mea, maikaʻi loa ia no ke kaiapuni. ʻO ka pilikia inā hāʻawi ʻoe i nā lima-me-down he nui i kāu keiki muli loa, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hauʻoli i ka hauʻoli o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi mea hou. ʻOiai pono paha ʻoe e hāʻawi i kekahi mau mea i kāu ʻōpio ma muli o nā pilikia kālā, e pale i ka hana pinepine ʻana i kēia. ʻO kahi koho e ʻae i kāu keiki e koho i nā mea a lākou e makemake ai mai nā kaikuaʻana. E hōʻoia i ka loaʻa ʻana o kāu ʻōpiopio i nā mea hou i kēlā me kēia manawa. ʻAʻole pono lākou e poina i kēia ʻike.
Manaʻo kōkua #4 - Mai ʻae i ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana
He mea nui ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae i ke aʻo ʻana me kāu keiki muli loa. ʻO kēia kekahi o nā hāʻule nui loa e hālāwai ai nā mākua. He mea maʻalahi ka lax me kāu muli loa. Makemake pinepine ka muli loa e ho'āʻo e uhaki i nā lula a makemake paha e hana i kahi ala no lākou iho. ʻAʻole kēia he mea āu e makemake ai e hānai. Hiki ke hoʻopōʻino ke ʻano pōʻino i ko lākou ulu ʻana a lilo i kanaka makua. Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e hoʻokuʻu i ke aʻo ʻana a me nā lula me kāu ʻōpio, he paʻakikī ke hoʻōki i kēia ʻano, e alakaʻi ana i kahi keiki ʻaʻole kaohi. E hoʻonohonoho i nā lula me kāu muli loa a pili iā lākou. ʻOkoʻa kēlā me kēia keiki a pane i nā ʻano aʻo like ʻole. E ʻimi i ka mea e hana ai, a paʻa i ia. ʻOiai he paʻakikī ke noho ikaika me kāu muli loa, e uku ʻia i ka hopena.
Manaʻo kōkua #5 - E aʻo iā lākou i kuleana
He mea nui nō hoʻi ke aʻo ʻana i kāu ʻōpio i ke kuleana. ʻAʻole ʻoe e koi pinepine mai kāu keiki muli loa. ʻAʻole paha lākou e like me ka nui o nā hana a me nā lula, akā pilikia paha kēia. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake i kāu keiki e ulu ana me ka manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana i kekahi mea iā lākou iho. Hāʻawi iā lākou i nā palena a me nā kuleana i ko lākou wā ʻōpiopio. ʻOiai ʻaʻole lākou makemake i ke kuleana, e kōkua ia iā lākou e hoʻomohala i nā mākau koʻikoʻi e kōkua iā lākou e lilo i kanaka makua kuleana i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
Ke hele mai kāu muli loa, manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻo ia kāu keiki hope loa e hoʻomoe a hauʻoli. ʻOiai makemake ʻoe e leʻaleʻa i ka manawa me kāu muli loa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke poina i ka mālama pono ʻana i kāu keiki. ʻOiai ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi nei i kāu muli loa, pono ʻoe e kūpaʻa me kāu keiki, e koi ana iā lākou e hana me ke kuleana. E aʻo e pili ana i ko lākou ʻano kūʻokoʻa, apo i nā pono kūʻokoʻa i loaʻa iā lākou, a hoʻohana i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e hānai i kahi kanaka pilikino, kuleana, a hilinaʻi.
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