na Jennifer Shakeel
Kākau wau i kēia a ʻakaʻaka. He makuahine wau i hana i kēlā… a ua ʻōlelo wau e hana hou ana au. He 15 makahiki koʻu, he 12 makahiki a he 15 mahina. Aia nō a hiki i kēia lā ke hopohopo nei au i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana me kaʻu mea mua! Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole makemake wau e kaʻawale mai kaʻu mau keiki… ʻoi loa no ka manawa lōʻihi. Aloha au iā lākou. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole wau ma ʻaneʻi e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hopohopo kaʻawale makua… ʻoiai ke kānalua nei au no ke aha ʻaʻohe mea e hana pēlā. Eia mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hopohopo kaʻawale mai ke kūlana o ke keiki a pehea ʻoe e maʻalahi ai.
ʻO ka hopohopo kaʻawale ke loaʻa ka hopohopo o ke keiki mai ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana mai ka mea mālama, ʻo ia ka makuahine. He pae koʻikoʻi loa kēia no ka makua a me ke keiki no ka mea ua hewa ka makua, a makaʻu ke keiki a loaʻa i ka hopohopo a pono paha. lapaʻau hopohopo mai kahi ʻoihana.
Mai ka piha ʻana o ke keiki i ka ʻewalu mahina a hiki i ka ʻumikumamāhā mahina, hopohopo a makaʻu paha ke ʻike i nā kānaka hou a i ʻole ma nā wahi hou. ʻIke lākou i ko lākou mau mākua he kamaʻāina a palekana. Ke kaʻawale lākou mai ko lākou mau mākua, manaʻo lākou i ka hoʻoweliweli a palekana. He wā maʻamau kēia o ka ulu ʻana a hoʻopau maʻamau i ka piha ʻana o ke keiki i ʻelua makahiki.
Pehea e hoʻopau ai nā keiki i ka hopohopo kaʻawale?
I mea e pale aku ai ke keiki i ka hopohopo kaawale, pono lākou e:
- Manaʻo palekana i ko lākou home kaiapuni
- E hilinaʻi i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma mua o ko lākou mau mākua
- E hilinaʻi e hoʻi mai ko lākou mau mākua
ʻOiai i ka wā i hala maikaʻi ai ke keiki i kēia pae, hiki ke hoʻi hou ka hopohopo i ka wā pilikia. ʻO kekahi hele nā keiki i kēia hopohopo i nā wahi ʻike ʻole a i ʻole nā kūlana, ʻoi aku hoʻi inā ʻaʻole nā mākua. Aia ke keiki ma ke keʻena o ke kauka a pilikia a maʻi paha, huli lākou i ka hōʻoluʻolu o ko lākou mau mākua, akā inā ʻaʻole hiki i nā mākua ke noho pū me lākou, pilikia ke keiki. No kēia kumu, he mea nui e noho pū me kāu keiki i ka wā e hiki ai ke hele i ke kauka.
He aha kekahi mau hōʻailona?
ʻO kekahi mau hōʻailona e ʻike paha kāu keiki:
- Pilikia ke kaawale mai na makua
- Nānā
- Hōʻole i ka hele ʻana i ke kula a i ʻole nā wahi ʻē aʻe no ka makaʻu i ka hoʻi ʻole o ka makua
- ʻO ka hōʻole ʻole e hiamoe me ka ʻole o ka mea mālama mua
- Hoʻopiʻi kino kino
- Makaʻu i ka lilo ʻana o ka mea mālama mua a i ʻole ka pōʻino e hiki mai ana i ka mea mālama
ʻAʻohe lāʻau lapaʻau no ka hopohopo kaʻawale no ka mea he mea maʻamau kēia, akā hiki i nā mākua ke kōkua i kā lākou keiki e hoʻololi i ko lākou haʻalele ʻana ma ka waiho ʻana i ke keiki me kahi kahu hilinaʻi. E kōkua kēia i ke keiki e aʻo i ka pilina me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe ma waho o ka mea mālama.
Aia kekahi mau lapaʻau?
ʻAʻohe lāʻau lapaʻau no ka hopohopo kaʻawale no ka mea he pae hoʻomohala maʻamau kēia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua i kāu keiki e hoʻololi i nā kūlana hou ma ka waiho ʻana iā ia me kahi kanaka hilinaʻi. Inā makemake ʻia kahi kaʻina hana olakino, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka noho ʻana o ka mea mālama mua me ke keiki no ka mea hiki i ke alo o ka mea mālama ke kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i ka nui o ka hopohopo i loaʻa i ke keiki. Inā ʻaʻole hiki i ka makua ke noho a puni, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e hōʻike i ke keiki i ke kūlana pololei ma mua o ke kūlana maoli. E hele i ke keʻena o ke kauka i hoʻokahi lā a i ʻole ma mua o ke koho ʻana. Inā ʻaʻole kēia he koho, hiki i ke keiki ke uē, hōʻole i ka hele ʻana, a noi aku a uē.
Pehea ka lōʻihi o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka hopohopo?
ʻO nā keiki liʻiliʻi i loaʻa nā hōʻailona e hoʻomaikaʻi maʻamau ma kahi o ʻelua mau makahiki. Inā loaʻa kekahi mau hōʻailona ma hope, he mea maʻamau ia. Inā ulu maikaʻi ka hopohopo kaʻawale i ka wā ʻōpio, he hōʻailona paha kēia o kahi maʻi hopohopo. Inā nui ka hopohopo o kāu keiki ma hope o ʻelua mau makahiki, pono ʻoe e kelepona i kāu kauka e ʻike i nā koho āu e kōkua ai i kāu keiki.
Kawaihae
He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai ma mua o 12 mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻelua me hoʻokahi ma ke ala, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua a me nā hauʻoli a me nā loli i ka wā hāpai. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻakaʻaka a uē a hauʻoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he mau makuahine mākou!
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