Nā ala e hōʻike ai i kāu ʻōpio i kou aloha iā lākou

na Stephanie Partridge

ʻAʻohe mea i ʻōlelo he maʻalahi ka makua. I kekahi manawa paʻahana mākou a hāʻule kā mākou mau keiki i ke ala. I kekahi manawa, huhū nui mākou a makemake mākou e ʻumi iā lākou! ʻO kaʻu manaʻo, i kekahi manawa poina wale mākou e hōʻike i kā mākou mau keiki i ka nui o kā lākou manaʻo iā mākou.

Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hōʻike nui i kāu ʻōpio, a i ʻole ʻoe e ʻike i kahi mamao, hiki i kēia mau hana ke kōkua i ka hoʻokokoke ʻana i kāu ʻōpio iā ʻoe. E hoʻomanaʻo naʻe, inā ʻaʻole maʻa kāu ʻōpio i kēia ʻano lapaʻau, hopohopo paha lākou i ka wā mua. Mai hāʻawi pio.

I kēia manawa, eia kekahi mau manaʻo o nā mea hiki iā mākou ke hana. E hoʻohiki i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu ʻōpio:

1. He kāleka i manaʻo ʻole ʻia

Hana wau i kēia no kaʻu mau keiki ke manaʻo ʻole lākou. E waiho wau i kahi kāleka ma ko lākou uluna a i ʻole ma kā lākou kamepiula a i ʻole ma ka pahu hau. ʻAʻole pono ia he nani, he mea maʻalahi wale nō "Aloha au iā ʻoe," "Haʻaheo wau iā ʻoe" a i ʻole "YOU ROCK!" Maikaʻi nō hoʻi nā memo. Ua ʻike au ua mālama kaʻu mau keiki i nā kāleka a me nā leka aʻu i hāʻawi aku ai iā lākou i nā makahiki.

2. He Puliki

ʻO nā pūliki ka mea nui loa. Ua ʻōlelo ka poʻe psychologists he 30 mau kekona ke hoʻōla ʻana. Hoʻokiʻekiʻe ia i ke ʻano a hoʻoikaika i ka pilina ma waena o nā kānaka. E kiʻi mai a hāʻawi i kāu ʻōpio i kahi pūliki. ʻAʻole pono ke kumu a i ʻole kahi hanana kūikawā, e hana wale ia e hōʻike iā lākou aia ʻoe ma laila no lākou a aloha ʻoe iā lākou.

3. Haleluia

Nui nā manawa poina iā mākou e hoʻomaikaʻi i kā mākou mau keiki - akā wikiwiki mākou e hoʻohewa iā lākou. Hoʻomaikaʻi au i kaʻu kaikamahine a me kaʻu keikikāne no ka hana ʻana i kā lākou mau hana me kaʻu ʻole e noi aku iā lākou. Mahalo wau iā lākou no nā mea a lākou e hana nei (ʻoiai inā pono wau e hele iā lākou e hoʻokō). He poʻe hoʻi nā keiki a mahalo i nā mea a lākou e hana ai akau he mea nui loa. Inā he hewa kā lākou e lohe ai, e emi ana ko lākou makemake e hana i kekahi mea.

4. Manawa Pakahi

E hoʻokaʻawale i kahi manawa i kēlā me kēia lā e hui pū me kēlā me kēia keiki paʻaaka. E hele wāwae, e hele i ka ʻaina ahiahi, e hele i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni, a e nānā pū i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni ma ka home. ʻO kaʻu keiki ka makani maʻamau i loko o koʻu lumi a i ʻole au e noho i loko o kona lumi a kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i kāna mele, nā moeʻuhane i loaʻa iā ia i ka pō ma mua, kāna mau hoaaloha, ʻo nā mea āpau e makemake ai iā ia. ʻAʻole wau e hoʻohana i kēia manawa e "haʻi" iā ia, hoʻolohe wale wau a kamaʻilio mākou ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha. Hele pū māua me kaʻu kaikamahine i ka ʻīlio, hele pū i ka hale kūʻai a pāʻani pū i nā pāʻani papa. I kekahi manawa nānā mākou i nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni a i kekahi manawa hoʻopau mākou i ka lekiō, kamepiula a me ke kīwī a kamaʻilio wale. 'Ōleloʻo ia i kona mau hoaaloha a pau,ʻo wau kona hoaaloha maikaʻi loa.

5. Kākoʻo

He mea nui e ʻike kāu ʻōpio e kākoʻo ana ʻoe iā lākou i kāna hana. ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo mau (a makemake paha) i nā mea a pau a lākou e hana ai a hauʻoli paha (ʻo wau, ʻoiaʻiʻo, pehea e hiki ai kekahi e haʻi i ka mea a ka poʻe leo leo e ʻōlelo nei ma ke mele metalcore - me ka loaʻa ʻole o ke kope o nā mele?) He mea hoʻokani pila kaʻu keiki a hele wau i kāna mau hōʻikeʻike i kekahi manawa e hōʻike ana i nā mele i mamao loa mai ka mea aʻu i manaʻo ai he mele ʻaʻole ia he ʻakaʻaka (i kēia manawa ua ʻike wau pehea my manaʻo nā mākua). Akā, hele wau, hoʻolohe wau a i ko mākou noho ʻana i ka hale, nīnau wau iā ia e pili ana i nā mele āna e kākau nei a haku paha.

6. Hoʻokomo i kāu mau hana

Ke kuke ʻoe, e noi i kāu ʻōpio e kōkua. Ke mahiʻai ʻoe, hana ma ke kaʻa, maʻemaʻe, nā mea āpau, e noi i kāu ʻōpio e hana pū me ʻoe a kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe i kāu hana ʻana. Inā ʻoe e hana ana ma ke kaʻa, e ʻae iā lākou e kōkua, ʻoiai inā e paʻa wale ana i nā mea hana a hāʻawi ʻana iā ʻoe i nā mea āu e pono ai. I ko mākou ʻohana, ʻo ka kuke ʻana i ka ʻaina ahiahi he hana ʻohana. Hoʻopili mākou a pau i loko o kā mākou lumi kuke liʻiliʻi a kamaʻilio i koʻu kuke ʻana (i kekahi manawa e kuke kaʻu kaikamahine a i kekahi manawa komo mākou i ka hana). Ua haʻi mai kaʻu mau keiki iaʻu ʻo kēia kekahi o kā lākou manawa punahele.

7. Hoopololei me ka hoohewahewa ole

Ma ke ʻano he makua, nau kāu hana e hoʻoponopono i kāu keiki ke hana lākou i kahi mea pono ʻole. Eia naʻe, e hoʻāʻo e pale i ka hoʻohewa ʻino. Mai haʻi aku iā lākou he naʻaupō lākou, waiwai ʻole a i ʻole kekahi mea o ia ʻano. ʻO kaʻu ala punahele ʻo ka "sandwich effect." Hoʻomaka wau ma ka haʻi ʻana iā lākou i kahi mea maikaʻi, a laila hāʻawi iā lākou i ka hoʻoponopono, a hoʻopau me kahi mea maikaʻi ʻē aʻe. He mea kupanaha keia. No ka laʻana, i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole mālama kaʻu kaikamahine i ka pahu pahu o kāna pōpoki e like me kaʻu e makemake ai. ʻO ke kamaʻilio hope loa a mākou i hele ai penei:

Pono: ʻIke ʻoe, mahalo nui au i kāu hana ʻana i kāu mau hana me kaʻu ʻole e nīnau iā ʻoe. He kōkua nui kēlā iaʻu. Mahalo iā ʻoe.

Hoʻoponopono: Akā naʻe, ʻike wau ʻaʻole ʻoe e mālama i ka pahu leka o kāu pōpoki maʻemaʻe e like me ka mea e pono ai. Hiki i kēia ke hoʻoulu i kāu pōpoki i nā pilikia olakino koʻikoʻi. E hoʻomaka ana e honi ka hale. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana maikaʻi i ka mālama ʻana i ka maʻemaʻe?

Pono: Mahalo, ʻike wau hiki iaʻu ke hilinaʻi iā ʻoe. Nui kāu hana e kōkua mai iaʻu ma ʻaneʻi, ʻo wau

ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu kaʻu e hana ai me ka ʻole. Aloha au iā ʻoe, e ke kaikamahine.

Kāhea mau wau iā ia he "kaikamahine" he ʻano inoa inoa ia. ʻO ka manaʻo ma ʻaneʻi ua hana ia. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o kāna hana ma ka mālama ʻana i ka pahu litter i kēia manawa.

8. Kou noonoo

E hōʻike i kāu ʻōpio e hoʻolohe ana ʻoe iā lākou, hoʻolohe maoli. ʻO kēia kahi mea i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka poʻe ʻōpio he makemake lākou e hana nā mākua no lākou. E hoʻolohe me ka hoʻohewa ʻole, me ka "haʻi ʻole" a mai keakea. Hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i nā nīnau no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei, akā e kamaʻilio mau me kāu ʻōpio. E ho'āʻo. He mea maikaʻi loa ia.

9. Kou Manawa

ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ʻoe iho ka mea paʻakikī loa e hana. Hāʻawi i kāu poʻe ʻōpio i kou manawa e hōʻike iā lākou i kou aloha iā lākou. ʻO ia ke ʻano o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka manawa no lākou i kāu papa hana paʻa. Ke lawe ʻoe i ka manawa e noho pū me kāu keiki, ke hōʻike nei ʻoe iā lākou e aloha ʻoe iā lākou a mālama ʻoe. Hoʻokahi mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo. Ke hāʻawi ʻoe i kāu keiki i kou manawa, e hana me ka ʻoliʻoli. Mai hoʻohilahila iā lākou ma ka haʻi ʻana iā lākou i nā mea a pau āu e hana ai a i ʻole nā ​​​​mea āu e manaʻo ai e hana ai i kēlā manawa. E noho pū me lākou.

10. Kau Olelo

He ʻano maʻalahi paha kēia, akā poina ka nui o nā mākua. E haʻi wale aku i kāu keiki aloha ʻoe iā lākou. ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻana "Aloha au iā ʻoe" ʻo ia ka mea nui, ʻoi loa ke hana ʻoe me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻōlelo i kekahi manawa, ʻo ia paha ka manawa āu i ʻōlelo ai.

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Stephanie Partridge: He makuahine wau, ʻaʻole wale i kaʻu mau ʻōpio maikaʻi ʻekolu, akā i ke kaiāulu holoʻokoʻa! I kēlā me kēia hopena pule, hiki iā mākou he 9 a ʻoi aku paha nā keiki (ʻaʻole me kaʻu ʻekolu) e noho ma ko mākou hale - a kapa lākou a pau iaʻu ʻo Māmā. LOL
Ua hoʻopōmaikaʻi ʻia hoʻi au me kahi kāne maikaʻi i mare iā mākou a pau a neʻe i ka hana makua me ka maʻalahi i ka weliweli. Noho mākou ma Baton Rouge, Louisiana me kā mākou mau lua pipi ʻekolu, ʻo Chihuahua (ka mea hoʻomalu i ka hale) a me ʻelua pōpoki. Ke ʻimi nei au i ke kēkelē psychology i hiki iaʻu ke aʻo i ka poʻe ʻōpio a hoʻokomo i nā ʻīlio therapy i kaʻu hana.

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