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7 Nā Manaʻo o kēlā me kēia makua i kekahi manawa

7 mau manaʻo i kēlā me kēia makua
E ʻimi i ka rollercoaster naʻau o ka makua, e ʻike ana i ʻehiku mau manaʻo āpau i loaʻa i nā mākua, me ka huikau, ka huhū, ka hauʻoli, ka makaʻu, ka haʻaheo, ke kaumaha, a me ke aloha ʻole.

Inā paha ua ʻike ʻoe e kali ana ʻoe i kāu keiki mua a i ʻole ua hiki i kāu mau keiki i ke kanaka makua, aia ʻoe ma ka rollercoaster i kapa ʻia he makua. E hoʻopaʻa i kou kāʻei palekana no ka mea he holo puʻupuʻu loa ia. Aia nā lā āu e uē ai a me nā lā hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke holoi i ka ʻakaʻaka mai kou mau maka. I loko o nā pō hiamoe ʻole a me nā manaʻo ʻoluʻolu a me ka hilinaʻi ʻole, e ʻike ʻoe i loko o kou puʻuwai ʻaʻole ʻoe e kūʻai i hoʻokahi minute o kēia huakaʻi kupaianaha no kekahi mea.

ʻOiai ʻokoʻa ka ʻike makua o kēlā me kēia kanaka, ʻehiku mau manaʻo e manaʻo ai kēlā me kēia makua ma kekahi wahi o kā lākou huakaʻi.

Kū'ē

Hiki i kēia ke paʻi mai kahi ʻole i ka wā āu i manaʻo ʻole ai. Ke hoʻomanaʻo mau nei au i ka manawa mua i loaʻa ai kaʻu keiki i ka maʻi ʻeha a me ka luaʻi i kona wā pēpē.

ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o ka hana ʻana o kahi kanaka liʻiliʻi i ka nui o ka monster. He pupule ka puhi diaper, e pii ana i ke kua a ilalo i kona mau wawae. Hoʻomanaʻo ka luaʻi projectile i kahi kiʻi mai The Exorcist. Me ka waimaka, nīnau mau wau, "Pehea kēia hana?" a "No hea mai kēia mau mea a pau?"

huhu

ʻAʻole e huikau me ka huhū wale, ʻo kekahi manaʻo ʻē aʻe, ka huhū, ʻo ia kekahi o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole āu e ʻike ai ma ke ʻano he makua. ʻO ka mea ʻoluʻolu loa a me ka puʻuwai lokomaikaʻi e ʻike i ka huhū hoʻopaʻi e kahe ana ma ko lākou mau aʻa i ka wā e hana hewa ai kekahi a hōʻeha paha i kāna keiki.

Malia paha i ka wā e hoʻomāinoino ʻia kāu keiki e kona mau hoa papa a i ʻole nā ​​mākua ʻē aʻe e ʻōlelo ʻino e pili ana i ka mākaukau o kāu keiki i nā hanana haʻuki. I kekahi manawa, e ʻōlelo ana kekahi i mea e hoʻolapalapa ai kou koko. ʻO kāu keiki ka mea makamae loa o ka honua iā ʻoe, no laila ke manaʻo ʻoe e hoʻouka kekahi iā lākou, e puka mai kou mau maiuu. E hanu hohonu a hoʻomaopopo e hele mau ana ka poʻe ʻino ma ka honua.

Noʻu, hiki pinepine ka huhū i nā makahiki ʻōpio o kaʻu mau keiki i ka wā i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā keiki ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hana ʻana me nā kaikamahine ma ka papa ʻeono, ʻehiku, a me ʻewalu - ʻoiai he kanaka makua. E hōʻike i kāu keiki i ke aloha hou aʻe i kēia mau makahiki paʻakikī, a e hōʻike iā ʻoe iho i ke aloha.

olioli

Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o ka huhū, e hauʻoli nō hoʻi ʻoe - a ʻoi aku ka nui o ia ma mua o ka nui o kou huhū. I kekahi manawa e paʻi ia i kēlā mau manawa mālie ke ʻapo ʻoe i kāu pēpē i ka pō a ʻike ʻoe ua maikaʻi nā mea āpau i ke ao holoʻokoʻa inā ʻolua wale nō i loko o kahi home palekana a mehana. I kekahi manawa, e hauʻoli nui ʻoe ke nānā ʻoe i kāu keiki e hana i kahi hoaaloha hou a aʻo paha i kahi mea hou.

ʻO ka nānā ʻana i kāu mau keiki i kēlā mau manawa āu e ʻike ai he hauʻoli nui lākou e hoʻopiha iā ʻoe me ka hauʻoli hiki ʻole.

makau

ʻO kekahi o ia mau manaʻo he makaʻu. Ke makua ʻoe, me he mea lā aia kou puʻuwai ma waho o kou kino, e hele pū ana me kāu keiki. Ma hea kāu keiki, aia kou puʻuwai me lākou. Ke kaumaha lākou, kaumaha ʻoe; ke ʻeha lākou, ʻeha ʻoe.

Noho ʻoe me ka makaʻu mau i ka ʻeha ʻana iā lākou, ma ka naʻau a me ke kino. No kou maʻemaʻe ponoʻī, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke pale mau iā lākou. Hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo maikaʻi iā lākou. ʻO nā papa pale ponoʻī paha, nā kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka pale ʻana i ko lākou olakino pilikino, a i ʻole ke aʻo ʻana iā lākou i nā ala e hoʻoponopono ai i ke kaumaha a i ʻole nā ​​pilikia olakino, e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou manaʻo inā ua hānai ʻoe i nā keiki ikaika a kūpaʻa i ʻike i ka mālama ʻana iā lākou iho. No laila ma kahi o ka hopohopo a me ka hopohopo, e hoʻolālā e aʻo iā lākou i nā mea āpau e pono ai lākou e ʻike.

'O ka ha'aheo

E ʻike ana ʻoe i kēia manaʻo ma nā wahi he nui o ka ulu ʻana o kāu keiki, a he mea maikaʻi loa ia e kaʻana like me ka makua ʻē aʻe o kāu keiki, inā hiki. ʻO lākou wale nō ka mea e ʻike i kou hauʻoli, a ʻo lākou wale nō ka poʻe e maopopo maoli i kou manaʻo.

ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona e like me ka nānā ʻana i kāu keiki e hana mua i ko lākou aʻo ʻana i ka hele wāwae he mea hauʻoli loa ia no ka makua. ʻOiai ʻike pono ʻoe i kēlā me kēia keiki e hoʻokō i kēlā hana mua, e haʻaheo ʻoe i kāu pēpē.

Inā loaʻa i kāu keiki ka A ma kāna kāleka hōʻike, e haʻaheo ʻoe i kou hauʻoli ʻana e haʻi aku i nā mea āpau i ke akamai o kāu keiki. ʻO kahi helu lanakila pāʻani i loaʻa e kāu keiki e hopena iā ʻoe e hana hou i ka manawa no ka mea e hoʻolohe. I ka pōkole, e hoʻoluhi liʻiliʻi ʻoe i nā mea a pau me kou nele i ka mākaukau kamaʻilio. Akā maikaʻi kēlā; inā he makua lākou, e loaʻa iā lākou.

Kaumaha

E haki kou puʻuwai i hoʻokahi miliona mau manawa ma ke ʻano he makua. I kekahi manawa ka i ke kaumaha manaʻo ʻoe e liʻiliʻi, a i kekahi manawa e manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole e pau ka uē ʻana.

Noʻu, ʻo ke kumu o ka nui o ke kaumaha ʻo ia ka ʻike ʻana i kekahi lā ʻaʻole wau e noho pū me kaʻu mau keiki. E hele ana ka'u keiki hiapo i ke kulanui i loko o ekolu mahina pokole, a o ka'u muli loa he elua makahiki ma hope ona. ʻO ka manaʻo o kahi pūnana hakahaka ua hoeha mai ia'u mai ka la i hanau ai lakou. Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei au i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka pāʻina hānau mua o kaʻu keiki e pono e hoʻolohi ka manawa. Ua holo wikiwiki kēlā makahiki mua, a he pohō kēlā me kēia makahiki mai ia manawa. ʻO ka weliweli a me ke kaumaha a pau e piʻi ana i ka pūnana kaʻawale, he mea ʻeha ia, akā pono kēlā me kēia makua e hele i loko o ka hiki ʻana o kā lākou keiki i ke kanaka makua.

Ua hoʻomākaukau maikaʻi ʻoe iā lākou, a ʻo ka manawa kēia e hōʻike iā ʻoe a me ka honua i nā mea a lākou i aʻo ai. Manaʻolana, ua hoʻopaʻa ʻoe i nā pilina ikaika, aʻo maikaʻi iā lākou, a e hoʻomau lākou i ka makemake iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano paʻa i ko lākou ola. ʻOiai inā hana lākou, ʻaʻole e like nā mea i ka wā e neʻe ai kāu keiki i waho - a he manaʻo ʻehaʻeha kēlā.

Ke Aloha Manaʻo ʻole

Ua ʻike paha ʻoe i ke aloha ma mua o ka lā i hiki mai ai kāu keiki i kou ola. ʻO kēia kekahi o nā manaʻo nui loa i helu ʻia. Akā, ke hoʻohiki aku nei au iā ʻoe, ke loaʻa kāu keiki, ʻike koke ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ke aloha i kēia ikaika, i kēia maʻemaʻe ma mua. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae i kēlā me kēia hoʻoholo a kāu keiki a i ʻole kēlā me kēia hana a lākou e hana ai, ʻaʻole loa e pau kou aloha iā ia. E ʻā ana e like me nā ʻumi makahiki mai kēia manawa e like me kēia manawa.

He makua au no aneane 18 makahiki, a i kēlā me kēia lā, manaʻo wau i koʻu laki, a ke hoʻomau nei au i ka mahalo i koʻu aloha nui i kaʻu mau keiki. ʻO ʻoe nō hoʻi, a e aʻo ʻoe i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā manaʻo āpau e hele mai me ka mālama ʻana no ka mea e mahalo ʻoe i ka pono o ka makua o kāu keiki.

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He makuahine ʻo Shannon Serpette o ʻelua a he mea kākau moʻolelo lanakila a me ka manuahi e noho ana ma Illinois. Hoʻohana ʻo ia i kona mau lā e kākau ai, e kau ana me kāna mau keiki a me kāna kāne, a me ka ʻimi ʻana i kāna leʻaleʻa punahele, ka ʻike metala, i kēlā me kēia manawa hiki iā ia. Hiki ke loaʻa iā Serpette ma writerslifeforme@gmail.com


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