ʻEkolu mau mea paʻa loa i ke ola, ʻekolu mau mea i hiki i kekahi, ma nā wahi āpau ke hilinaʻi: ka make, ka ʻauhau, a me ka loli. Hiki mai ka hoʻololi a hele e like me ka makani, i kekahi manawa maʻalahi, i kekahi manawa me ka makani makani e like me ka makani ʻino ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe. E like me nā mākua a me nā mākua, na mākou ka hana e alakaʻi i nā keiki i loko o ko mākou ola ma o ka piʻi a me ka lalo o kēia huila huikau. ʻO kekahi o ia mau hana ke kōkua iā lākou e hoʻoponopono i nā loli a lākou e kū nei.
Inā he keiki hoʻokahi kāu keiki me nā mākua aloha ʻelua e ulu ana ma kahi kaiāulu idyllic suburban me kahi pa keʻokeʻo a me ka bernadoodle i kapa ʻia ʻo Bella, a i ʻole nā manawa haunaele i hoʻolilo i ke aka i ko lākou mau ola no ka lōʻihi o ko lākou hiki ʻana mai o ka ʻO ka lā mahana, ʻo ka hoʻololi ʻana he mea ia e hoʻopili mau ai lākou. Ma ke ʻano he kahu hānai, ua kōkua au i ka hānai ʻana i ʻeiwa mau keiki i loko o kaʻu ʻoihana lōʻihi he ʻumi makahiki, a ua pono kēlā me kēia o lākou i nā loli nui. Mai ka neʻe ʻana a hiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā kaikunāne hou, i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kahi moena keiki nui, i ka nalo ʻana o kahi kaikaina, i kahi kula hou, a pēlā aku.
ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻololi. E like me ka puke keiki kaulana loa, Hele mākou i ka Bea Hunt ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hele ma luna o ia ... ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hele i lalo ... pono mākou e hele ma ia." ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa e hiki ai iā mākou ke kōkua i kā mākou mau keiki e hoʻoponopono i ka loli, ʻo ia ke alakaʻi iā lākou ma ia mea. Eia kekahi mau hoʻolālā no ke kōkua ʻana i nā keiki e hoʻoponopono i ka loli.
- E kamaʻilio me lākou ma mua o ka hoʻololi ʻana.
- He akamai nā keiki, ʻoi aku ka naʻauao ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana o nā mākua iā lākou. ʻOiai ʻaʻole i manaʻo ʻia kēlā me kēia ʻāpana o ka ʻike no nā pepeiao liʻiliʻi, hiki iā ʻoe ke noho i lalo me kāu keiki a wehewehe i ka mea e hiki mai ana ma mua o ka hana ʻana. Inā hoʻomaka kāu keiki i kahi kula hou, e hoʻokaʻawale i iwakālua mau minuke o kāu lā e nānā pū ai. E kiʻi aku i ke alakaʻi e ʻike inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kipa ma hope o nā hola, leka uila i kā lākou kumu hou e ʻike inā hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu keiki ke komo e hui me lākou. Inā ho'āʻo ʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa potty i kahi keiki ʻekolu makahiki paʻakikī, e kamaʻilio me kāu keiki e pili ana i kāna hana hou a me kāna mea e aʻo ai. Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e haʻalele i ka pacifier i hoʻokahi manawa, ʻaʻole i kēia manawa, ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻihoʻi, wehewehe i loko o kekahi mau pule e pau ana.
- Aloha
- ʻAʻole leʻaleʻa ka loli. Ua hoʻolālā ʻia mākou ma ke ʻano he kanaka e ʻae ʻole i ka loli maikaʻi ma muli o nā pōʻino hiki ke hōʻike ʻia. ʻAʻole ʻae ka poʻe Neanderthal i loko o nā ana i nā hua hou i hoʻihoʻi ʻia e ka poʻe hōʻiliʻili no ka mea he mea ʻawaʻawa kekahi o lākou. ʻOiai i loko o kahi ʻano ʻē aʻe miliona mau makahiki mai ko mākou mau kaikunāne poʻo mānoanoa, ʻaʻole ʻike wale ʻia ka metathesiophobia e kā mākou mau keiki. ʻEhia o mākou i hoʻololi i nā hana? Hiki paha iā mākou ke hauʻoli no nā mea e hiki mai ana, akā hopohopo wau no ka noho ʻana i kahi kūlana hou. E like me mākou a pau, pane nā keiki i ke aloha. Inā mākou e ʻike nei i ka loli, e like me ka neʻe ʻana i ke kūlanakauhale hou, hele lōʻihi ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou manaʻo a hōʻike iā lākou ʻaʻole kumu ʻole ko lākou mau manaʻo a he mea maʻamau loa.
- E hoʻonaʻauao iā lākou
- Aia nā puke no nā mea a pau i kēia mau lā. Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kumuhana he puke no ia, mai ke kōkua ʻana i nā keiki e haʻalele i kā lākou pacifier a hiki i ka hana ʻana i ka hānau ʻana o ko lākou kaikaina. No nā poʻe mākua he nui, ʻaʻohe mea hōʻoluʻolu ma mua o ka ʻōlelo i kākau ʻia, a he ʻoiaʻiʻo nō kēia no nā keiki. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā mea e hana nei a puni ʻoe inā hoʻokomo ʻia nā kumuhana ma o ka palapala. E kōkua kēia i kāu keiki e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka noho mehameha, e hoʻomaopopo i nā mea ʻē aʻe e hiki mai ana kēia mau hoʻololi e like me lākou iho, a ʻo ia ka mea hiki ke lilo i mea hoʻoponopono maikaʻi i ke kūkākūkā e kōkua i kāu mau keiki e nīnau i nā nīnau i loaʻa iā lākou akā ʻaʻole hiki. e hoopuka i na olelo. ʻO kahi hulina google maʻalahi e hāʻawi i nā hopena he nui no kēlā me kēia kumuhana āu a me kāu mau keiki e hana nei.
- E ʻimi i ka leʻaleʻa
- E ʻae ka hapa nui o ka poʻe ma ke ʻano maoli, ʻaʻole e hoʻoulu ka loli i ka manaʻo o ka hauʻoli a i ʻole ka hauʻoli, akā he ʻeha o ka ʻōpū. E like me ka nui o nā mea me ka mālama makua a me ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki, he mea nui ka ʻimi ʻana i ka leʻaleʻa i loko o ka honua a i ʻole ka hoʻomāinoino. E hoʻonoho i kahi lā ma ka kalena me ka hoʻololi e hiki mai ana a kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēlā me kēia lā. Inā e neʻe ana ʻoe i kahi hale hou, e lawe i nā keiki ma ke kaiāulu e hoʻāʻo e ʻimi i kekahi mau hoalauna e pāʻani ai a hoʻoikaika i nā hoaaloha. Inā ua loaʻa kekahi mea pōʻino a ua make kekahi, e hoʻokaʻawale i ke kaumaha i manaʻo ʻia e kēlā me kēia mea e hana pū ai. E kākau i kāleka i ka mea aloha i hala a kaha kiʻi paha. Inā ʻelemakule kāu keiki a ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia i hoihoi i ka hana noʻeau a me ka hana lima, e nānā i nā kiʻi a me nā wikiō kahiko. E hoʻolilo i ka manawa e haʻi i nā hoʻomanaʻo e hiki ai i kāu keiki ke ʻike i kēia kanaka inā ʻaʻole lākou ma laila. Inā hiki mai kahi kahu hānai hou i loko o ko lākou ola no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki i ka makuahine a i ʻole ka makuakāne ke puni e like me ka makemake o nā mea a pau, e hoʻolālā i nā hana no kēlā kahu a me kāu mau keiki. Nui nā ala e hoʻemi ai i kēia mau hoʻololi i ka hana a me kahi mea maʻalahi i nā mea a pau e ʻike.
- Hoʻoponopono ka manawa
- E ho'āʻo e hoʻomanaʻo i ke ʻano o kou wā kamaliʻi e ʻike nei i kahi mea nui. ʻAʻole i maʻalahi, a i kekahi manawa, ʻo ka hana wale nō ka hana. ʻO ka manawa pinepine e maʻalahi nā mea inā manaʻo ʻoe e manaʻo nui kāu keiki e pili ana i kēia hoʻololi. Mālama kēia i kāu mau manaʻo haʻahaʻa a inā ʻaʻole hele nā mea e like me ke ala āu e makemake ai, a e kiʻi iā lākou e like me, ua mākaukau ʻoe e hana me ia.
Inā he ʻoiaʻiʻo kāu keiki e hakakā nei me nā mea hou a pau i loko o ko lākou ola, e hoʻomau i nā laina o ka kamaʻilio ʻana a wehe. ʻO ka manawa maikaʻi loa e kamaʻilio ai i kāu mau keiki, ʻo ia ka wā e ala ai lākou a i ka wā e moe ai lākou, me kekahi mau mea hōʻailona he ʻokoʻa ke ola o nā ʻōpio, a ʻokoʻa nā maʻamau. ʻAʻole au ʻike i ke ʻano o kou ʻohana, akā i loko oʻu, ʻaʻole i hoʻomoe ʻia nā ʻōpio e ko lākou mau mākua. No kēia mau ʻano, ʻo ke kelepona a me ka pale ʻai manuahi ke kī no ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu mau keiki. Hiki i ka hapa nui o nā ʻohana ke kaʻana like i hoʻokahi pāʻina, ʻo ia hoʻi, he mea nui kēlā me kēia manawa e kamaʻilio ai, a kamaʻilio i kāu mau keiki i nā pilikia a lākou e hoʻoponopono ai i nā loli i ko lākou ola.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo Socrates e like me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "ʻO ka mea huna o ka hoʻololi ʻana ke kau ʻana i kou ikaika āpau ʻaʻole i ka hakakā ʻana i ka mea kahiko akā kūkulu i ka mea hou." ʻO ka loli kahi ʻāpana ikaika o ke ola e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai. ʻO kekahi o nā mea maikaʻi loa e hiki ai iā mākou ke hāʻawi i kā mākou mau keiki, ʻo ia ka hiki ke hana maikaʻi me ia ma ke ala palekana a olakino. Loaʻa kēia mai ka hana ʻana i nā mea like ʻole.
E hoʻomaka e hoʻomākaukau pono iā lākou ma mua o ka hoʻololi ʻana, a mai manaʻo wale ua lawa ka wehewehe ʻana i hoʻokahi manawa. Loaʻa i ke aloha. He mea paʻakikī ka hoʻololi ʻana no ka poʻe mākua i ʻike i nā mea a pau e hana nei a loaʻa iā lākou ka mana o ke kūlana. He mea maʻalahi ke manaʻo he ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī no nā keiki i waiho pinepine ʻia i ka pōʻeleʻele a manaʻo wale e neʻe a hoʻopaʻa i ko lākou mau manaʻo. E hoʻomaopopo i kāu mau keiki he paʻakikī kēia mau hoʻololi iā ʻoe e like me lākou. E kōkua iā lākou e hoʻomaopopo i nā mea a pau a lākou e manaʻo ai, a i ʻole ka noʻonoʻo ʻana he kūpono a maikaʻi. Heluhelu, heluhelu, heluhelu. ʻO nā puke ke kī nui o ka holomua o ke ola, a ʻo ka hiki i kāu keiki ke ʻae i ka loli kekahi o ia mau mea. Nui nā puke kamaliʻi like ʻole, ma nā makahiki āpau e hiki ke kōkua i kēia hana. ʻO kekahi mau poʻo inoa like ʻole i loaʻa iaʻu mai kahi ʻimi google he kanakolu kekona: Loaʻa iā mākou kahi pēpē, akā he ʻānela kā mākou, na Pat Schwiebert a me Taylor Bills, He Loko Okoa, na Bao Phi a me Thi Bui, Ua nalowale ʻo Pāpā i kāna hana, na Jennifer Moore-Mallinos a me Noho o Petero na Ezra Jack Keats. E kaomi wale i nā poʻo inoa mua e loaʻa iā lākou ma Amazon. E noʻonoʻo i ka nui o kāu e loaʻa ai ma kahi kumuhana kikoʻī a me kahi hulina hohonu. E huli i nā ala e leʻaleʻa ai ke kūlana. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea leʻaleʻa a pau e hiki mai ana me kahi mea hou. E kiʻi i kāu mau keiki i kahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻomaka e kali i mua i nā mea e hiki mai ana ma mua o ka hiki ʻana. A ʻo ka hope, e hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o kāu keiki a me kona mau manaʻo. Aia nā lā maikaʻi a me nā lā maikaʻi ʻole, nā lā e manaʻo nui ai lākou a hopohopo paha i nā mea a me nā lā kahi e lawe ai lākou i nā mea āpau.
ʻO ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka hoʻololi ʻana ʻaʻole ia he holomua laina o nā mea, akā he roller coaster kahi āu e holo ai ma kahi kaʻa āu i koho ʻole ai akā pono ʻoe e holo.
He kahu hānai ʻo Abby Miller no kahi kokoke i ʻumi makahiki, a he kumu kula mua no ʻelua makahiki ma mua o kāna neʻe ʻana i kāna ʻoihana. Ma ke ʻano he nanny, ua hana ʻo ia me nā keiki me ka dyslexia a me ka dysgraphia, me ADHD, me ka autism a me nā ʻano neurodiversity ʻē aʻe. Ke ʻimi nei ʻo Abby i kāna kēkelē laepua ma ka psychology a ua hōʻoia ʻia e ka International Nanny Association. Noho ʻo ia ma Boston me kāna hoa a me kā lāua ʻīlio hoʻopakele.
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