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ʻO ke akamai o ka hala ʻole: no ke aha e hiki ai i ka nānā ʻana i nā keiki ke aʻo iā mākou i nā haʻawina ola

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Nui nā haʻawina koʻikoʻi e aʻo mai i kā mākou mau keiki ma ke ʻano he makua. Mai ke aloha ʻole i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā mea hou a me ka hoʻomaha ʻana i ka wā e pono ai, nui nā keiki e aʻo mai iā mākou e pili ana i ke ola piha a hauʻoli. Ma ka nānā ʻana i kā lākou ʻano, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike hou i nā haʻawina ola waiwai a hoʻopili iā lākou i ko mākou ola ponoʻī.

Ma ke ʻano he mau mākua, hoʻāʻo mau mākou e aʻo i kā mākou mau keiki a manaʻolana e aʻo mai lākou mai ke ʻano hoʻohālike a mākou e hoʻonohonoho nei no lākou. Akā, pono mākou e wehe i ko mākou mau maka i ka hiʻohiʻona a lākou e hoʻonohonoho nei no mākou a pehea mākou e aʻo mai ai iā lākou.

ʻAʻole ʻo ka ʻelemakule ke ʻano o ka naʻauao, no laila e noʻonoʻo kākou i nā haʻawina a mākou i ʻike mua ai a poina i ka wā i hala. ʻO ka hoʻolilo ʻana i kekahi mau minuke e nānā i kā mākou mau keiki a me kā lākou hana e hoʻomanaʻo mai iā mākou i kēia mau haʻawina maikaʻi no ka noho ʻana i kahi ola piha a hauʻoli.

Aloha Kūlana ʻole

I kekahi manawa, i ko mākou mau makahiki, lilo mākou i mea hoʻokolokolo, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole mākou i manaʻo e lilo a ʻaʻole ʻike mākou ke hana nei mākou. ʻO ka nānā ʻana i nā keiki liʻiliʻi e aloha i nā mea āpau a puni lākou ʻoiai ko lākou nui, ʻano, a i ʻole ka waihoʻoluʻu he mea hoʻoikaika maoli. ʻAʻole lākou makapō i nā ʻokoʻa o nā kānaka akā ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike iā lākou he mea koʻikoʻi a nānā paha i ko lākou helehelena he haʻahaʻa a ʻoi aku paha. ʻAe nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi i nā kānaka e like me lākou.

ʻAʻole au e poina i ka holoi ʻana o kaʻu kaikamahine ʻōpio i koʻu mau pilikia a me nā hopohopo e pili ana i kahi ʻāʻī nui o ka pepeiao a me ka pepeiao i loaʻa iaʻu. Noʻu, he hoʻomanaʻo ʻeha kēlā ʻulaʻula no kaʻu ʻoki ʻana i ka maʻi maʻi thyroid i loaʻa iaʻu i kona wā he 1 makahiki wale nō. I ko māua kamaʻilio ʻana i kekahi lā, ua haʻi mai kaʻu kaikamahine, ʻo ia he 3 a 4 mau makahiki wale nō ia manawa, ua aloha ʻo ia i ʻelua ʻakaʻaka o kona makuahine. ʻIke ʻo ia i koʻu huikau, wehewehe ʻo ia: "Hoʻokahi ma kou alo, a hoʻokahi ma kou ʻāʻī."

A e like me ia, ua nalowale koʻu mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i kēlā ʻili, ʻaʻole i hoʻi mai. Inā hiki i kaʻu kaikamahine ke ʻike i ka nani o loko, pehea lā e hoʻomau ai ka pilikia iaʻu?

Mai Hoʻopiha i kou Manaʻo

Ma ke ʻano he poʻe mākua, ʻaʻole pinepine mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea e pilikia ai mākou. Inā huhū mākou i kekahi, ʻaʻole mākou e haʻi iā lākou i ke kumu, a ʻae mākou i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e kūkulu i ka wā e hoʻoponopono ai kahi hopena maikaʻi aʻe i nā pilikia i ka wā e hiki mai ana, e kūkākūkā ana iā lākou, a ʻaʻole e ʻae iā lākou e hoʻomāhuahua.

He ʻano kūʻē loa nā keiki - hoʻokuʻu lākou i nā mea āpau. ʻO ka nānā ʻana i kahi keiki e hoʻolei ana i ka huhū he mea hoihoi ia – ke ʻole ʻoe ka makua o kēlā keiki a aia ʻoe ma kahi ākea. ʻIke ʻoe ua hoʻonohonoho ʻia ke kahua no ka huhū e hiki mai ana ke ʻike ʻoe ua pōloli kāu keiki, luhi, a huhū paha. Akā i kēlā manawa, ua lohi pinepine ka pale ʻana.

Ma hope o kekahi mau minuke o ka huhū maʻemaʻe, ka uē ʻana, a me ka uē ʻana, ua pau ka huhū. ʻO ka mea kupaianaha maoli, ʻaʻole mihi ke keiki iā ia, ʻaʻole hoʻopaʻapaʻa iā ia iho no ia mea, a ma hope o ʻelua mau minuke, poina loa iā ia.

ʻAe lākou i nā ʻaoʻao a pau o lākou iho, a he mea nani kēlā. 'O ka ha'awina ma 'ane'i 'a'ole 'o ia ka maika'i o ka ho'ohehe'e 'ana i nā manawa a pau āu e mana'o ai he kanaka makua. Akā, e ʻimi i nā ala e kūkākūkā ai i kou manaʻo ke hoʻopilikia iā ʻoe ma mua o ka manaʻo i kāu mau hoa hana, nā hoa hana, nā keiki, a i ʻole nā ​​hoaaloha e heluhelu i kou manaʻo e pili ana i ke kumu o kou huhū.

E hoao i na mea hou

No kahi keiki ma ke kahua pāʻani o ke kula, he mea weliweli loa nā hale haʻuki nahele. ʻAʻole ia he hāʻule nui mai luna a i lalo i kou wā makua, akā ma ke ʻano he kamaliʻi, he hāʻule nui ia ke hoʻokuʻu ʻoe i ka pā. ʻOiai ka makaʻu o nā keiki, ke hoʻāʻo nei lākou e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hale haʻuki nahele a me nā mea hana ʻē aʻe a pau ma ke kahua pāʻani me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i ko lākou palekana pilikino e hopohopo nei i nā mākua a pau e nānā ana.

Ho'āʻo mau nā keiki i nā mea hou - aʻo lākou i nā kumuhana hou ma ke kula, nīnau i ke keikikāne a kaikamahine paha a lākou e makemake ai i ka lā, a aʻo i ka pāʻani haʻuki hou. Makaʻu ʻole lākou, a mahalo maoli.

ʻAʻole maʻa mau ka poʻe mākua. Noho lākou i nā hana a lākou e inaina nei no ka mea hopohopo lākou i ka hopena o ka haʻalele ʻana a ʻaʻole maopopo lākou e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kahi hana hou. Noho lākou i nā pilina ʻaʻole e hauʻoli iā lākou no ka mea makaʻu lākou i ka noho hoʻokahi. ʻO ka noho ʻana i kahi ola piha i nā ʻike hou a me ka makaʻu ʻole ʻaʻole pono e hana ʻia no nā keiki wale nō. Me kahi hana liʻiliʻi, hiki iā mākou ke lilo i mea wiwo ʻole a hoʻokuke iā mākou iho ma waho o kā mākou wahi hōʻoluʻolu pū kekahi.

Hoomaha i ka wa e pono ai

Holo wikiwiki kahi keiki liʻiliʻi i mua, a he mea luhi ia i nā mākua ke hoʻomau. Mahalo mākou i ko lākou kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe o ka ikehu, ʻoiai mākou e makaʻu nei iā lākou, no ka mea, ʻike mākou ʻaʻole kūpono mākou no lākou.

Akā he mea kaua kūikawā nā kamaliʻi ʻaʻole mākou. Ke luhi lākou, hoʻomaha lākou a ʻaʻole hiamoe no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou e ala a hiki i ko lākou manaʻo.

Me kā mākou mau hana, nā home, nā ʻohana, a me nā kuleana, ʻaʻole hiki i nā mākua ke hiamoe i kā mākou makemake. Akā hiki iā mākou ke hana i kahi hana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻonohonoho mua ʻana i ka nui i loaʻa iā mākou. Ma mua o ka puhi ʻana iā mākou iho i ka caffeine i kēlā me kēia lā i hiki iā mākou ke lawe i nā mea hou aku, pono mākou e aʻo e ʻōlelo ʻole i nā kuleana ʻē aʻe i kekahi manawa a ʻae aku e pono mākou i kahi hoʻomaha a penikala paha i ka hiamoe nui no mākou iho.

E nānā a aʻo

He mau laʻana wale nō kēia o nā mea e aʻo ai mai kā mākou mau keiki. ʻO ka lā e nānā ai i kāu keiki e hōʻike iā ʻoe i nā ala ʻē aʻe i ʻoi aku ka naʻauao ma mua o mākou. E hoʻāʻo e hoʻoluliluli i nā mea ma o ka lawe ʻana i kā lākou ʻōlelo aʻo ʻole i ka puʻuwai a ʻike i ka pōmaikaʻi iā ʻoe.

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He makuahine ʻo Shannon Serpette o ʻelua a he mea kākau moʻolelo lanakila a me ka manuahi e noho ana ma Illinois. Hoʻohana ʻo ia i kona mau lā e kākau ai, e kau ana me kāna mau keiki a me kāna kāne, a me ka ʻimi ʻana i kāna leʻaleʻa punahele, ka ʻike metala, i kēlā me kēia manawa hiki iā ia. Hiki ke loaʻa iā Serpette ma writerslifeforme@gmail.com


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