Family Parenting

Teaching Trust and Responsibility To Your Kids

I just finished reading an article by my friend Dr. Neill Neill that really grabbed my attention. His article is Help Your Kids Grow, and Then Let Them Go. What really hit home for meis the importance of letting your children make their own mistakes and don’t fall into the trap of trying to protect them and gain control as they get older. They will natually rebel. Ideally as our children grow we should grow with them our relationships needs to become more supportive and encouraging. This can be very hard and I want to help and protect my kids.

As a   with two great young children I have the natural tendancy to want to protect them. I see my son who is four years old growing up before my eyes. When I try to help him, many times he retorts, "I can do it myself". Wow I just say to myself. I really need to learn to back off a bit and be more encouraging. It is important as he grows I become more of a coach and more intune with his emotional growth. As I reflect on the article and my own , it is apparent the need to build a trusting relationship with my kids early on, and to teach children responsibility and accountability for their actions. If someone is overprotective and hinders their child’s growth, it is going to become very difficult later in life for that child to succeed. If a parent does not recognize that their parenting approach needs to change as their child changes there may be a lot of resentment and hostility in the child’s teenage years when they natually become more independant. I never thought I would be so overprotective, I just don’t want my kids to make the same mistakes as I did.

The best thing a parent can do is install good values in their children early in life, and the best way to teach them is through living by example. Children tend to emulate and immitate the actions of their parents, I can already see this in my young son. The best advice I can give myself in this night of reflection is not only to talk the talk but walk the walk and set an example that my sons will carry through with them into their adult life. That is the best any parent can hope for.


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