by Stacey Schifferdecker
All siblings fight—that’s just a fact of life. And sibling rivalry can have positive consequences when it teaches children how compromise, negotiate, and solve conflicts. But when sibling rivalry crosses the line and become bullying, as it does for 30% or children and adolescents, parents need to intervene.
Sibling Bullying, fighting or just teasing?
“But Mom, I was just teasing!”
This may be the phrase you hear when you intervene in a bullying situation. What is the difference between teasing and bullying?
• In bullying, a stronger, more powerful person purposely hurts or frightens a smaller or weaker person. One child is in control and is consistently hurting another child, who feels helpless to stop the situation.
• When someone bullies, they intend to do harm. Teasing is intended to be playful (but can turn into bullying if it lasts too long, ends up being harmful, or one person is no longer having fun).
• Bullying is persistent while teasing can be an on-again, off-again thing.
The basic rule of thumb is this: Behavior that would be unacceptable between two unrelated children is unacceptable between siblings. READ More on Sibling Bullying Or Sibling Rivalry?