Parenting tips for Better BehaviorGood behavior from children doesn't just happen. It takes time and work on your part as a parent. It's not always easy to shape a child's behavior, but it can be done with patience and love. When you take the time to work on the behavior of your child, although they may not appreciate it now, in the future it will help them become productive adults that are happy and successful. Here are a few parenting tips for better behavior that can encourage and help your child to change and improve their personality for the better. With a little positive coaching, anything is possible!

Tip #1 – Learn to Ignore Harmless but Undesirable Behavior

One important tip that can help you to encourage better behavior from your child is to learn to ignore harmless but undesirable behavior. Sometimes it can be hard to find a balance in parenting. It is important that you fight the important battles while allowing some behaviors to simply be ignored. If the behavior is not hurting property, an animal, or humans, then it may be a behavior that you should simply ignore. Instead of getting into arguments over the small things, sometimes not even acknowledging the behavior is a good way to deal with it. Negative reactions in some cases can actually reinforce the bad behavior of the child, so in some cases, the best thing you can do is show them that the particular behavior will be ignored. This will teach them to abandon this behavior, since it won't get them any attention.

Tip #2 – Teach Your Child About Cause and Effect

Teaching your child about cause and effect is one of the best things you can do to help them learn the right way to behave. When children experience the effect of their behavior, they will be more likely to learn the lesson. To become successful as an adult, kids must learn that wise choices are important. Experience can help to teach your child many lessons that you could never teach by talking to them. Although you need to make sure children to not make choices that are dangerous, in many cases, allowing your child to make their own choice will be an important lesson. Allow your child to deal with the consequences of the choice they make, which will provide fast learning for them.

Tip #3 – Praise Your Child

When you want better behavior from your child, praising them is one of the best things you can do to help shape them. Praising them for some good when they don't think you are looking can be even more powerful and effective! In most cases, kids really want to have your approval. Make sure that you are praising the positive behavior though instead of praising the child. For example, if your child does a good job on their room, consider saying "You did a wonderful job on your room," instead of just saying something like "good girl." Of course, you don't want to take praise overboard, but genuine praise can definitely be helpful. Too much praise can give your child the idea that good behavior is an option. It is better to expect good behavior from your child and use praise to reinforce that good behavior from time to time.

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In today's world acts of charity seem to be rare. However, one little 10 year old girl can teach us all a lesson in heroism and charity. It is unusual to see such a spirit of giving in one so young, but in spite of all she has been through, Leigh Maria Dittman focuses her energy on helping others in spite of the tough times that she is going through herself.

Leigh Marie suffers from a very rare disease, known as Osteogenesis Imperfecta. This disease causes the bones in the body to be very weak and brittle, and it also stunts the proper growth as well. Unfortunately, just a small bump or fall can lead to a broken bone with this disease, and this 10 year old has gone through many broken bones as a result of the disease. She has also gone through many surgeries to help straighten the bones in her body as well.

Since she was only three weeks old, Leah Marie has been getting the treatment for this disease from the Shriners. She has spent plenty of time in the Shriners hospital, and when she was only three years old, she had the idea to start up a new fundraising to help out other children and the Shriner hospital that had helped her through her medical problems.

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Moody TeenagerKids of any age can be moody, and often when kids have not learned ways to express appropriately frustration, sulking, pouting, and whining can occur. Sometimes it can be frustrating to deal with a child that is moody and you may be asking yourself what you can do to deal with this problem. The solution to the problem is going to have a lot to do with you as a parent. In fact, if you are responding to this behavior, you may be encouraging it to go on, although that is not your intent. To help you deal with a child that is moody, here are some important principles that you can use to make a difference in your child's attitude.

Make Sure You're Nurturing Your Child

The first thing you need to do when parenting moody kids is to make sure that you are nurturing your child. Sometimes it is easy to forget to take quality time with your child. Parental attention provides stabilization for your child. Make sure that you and your spouse are both giving your child enough one on one time to avoid this problem.

Ensure Your Home is a Place Where Your Child Can Safely Express Themselves

Another important principle to remember is to ensure your home is a place where your child can safely express themselves. Even if your child has different views, they should feel like they are able to express themselves freely to you. Sometimes kids that are moody and pouty often choose this behavior because they feel that they can't say the things that they want to, so they use a passive method to show their displeasure. Making your child feel that communication, even when opinions differ, is safe within your home can make a huge difference.

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Goal in Sight - Young Girl ClimbingGoal Setting for Kids

More than likely you remember back when you were a child. You were probably asked over and over again, "What will you be when you grow up?" We've all gone through that at some point, and more than likely you wanted to be just like your parents at that age. It may be time you start asking your kids this same question. Why? Well, it's important that they begin thinking about the future, what they want to be, and how to accomplish the goals that they may have. Here is a look at why it's important to start teaching your kids to set goals now and a few tips that you can use as you work to teach them to set and reach those goals.

Benefits of Teaching Kids to Set Goals

You may be wondering why it's so important to start teaching goal setting to your kids right now. There are actually many benefits of teaching kids to set goals while they are young. One of the main benefits of teaching your children to set goals is to help them secure a great future. As a parent, you have the job to help children prepare for being adults. This means we need to teach them fundamental skills for success – one of which is goal setting.

Goal setting is going to benefit your child in the short term. As you teach them how to set and reach their own goals, they'll be able to implement those lessons into their life right now. They can use goal setting to do well in school, to accomplish things in sports, or even to learn to play an instrument. Of course, there are benefits in the long term as well. Children that learn to set goals while they are young will grow up knowing how to set and reach their goals, leading them to success.

Kids that learn about goal setting will be better able to manage their personal finances, which will help them eliminate a lot of stress and unhappiness from their life. They'll learn how to set excellent health goals as well so they are fit and healthy. Goal setting will help them learn about motivation, achievement, and organization. All of these critical life skills are rooted in learning how to set goals, which is why this is such an important thing to teach our kids.

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"I'm So Exhausted": 4 Tips to Combat Parental Burnout

Parental FatigueAre you often exhausted as a parent? Do you regularly feel drained, overwhelmed and off-balance when it comes to raising your kids? It’s hard for every parent, but when your children have tough behavioral problems, like ADHD, frequent defiance or other chronic acting-out behaviors, the task of raising them to adulthood can sometimes feel like you’re climbing a mountain without adequate supplies or the right equipment. This week, Erin Schlicher, a mom and parental support line advisor for the Total Transformation Program, gives you some concrete advice on how to juice up your parental batteries and get back on firmer ground.

Whether the calls come in late in the evening, first thing in the morning, or somewhere in between, a common element I hear from parents—and particularly mothers—who are calling the Parental Support Line is that they are feeling utterly worn out. Given that parenting even an average or “easy” child is hard work, parenting a more challenging or acting-out child is enough to run anyone ragged.

The fatigue that can come with mother or fatherhood (or for whom ever is doing the primary amount of parenting) is certainly not glamorous or boast-worthy, but it is a legitimate daily struggle for many of us. It should be said that there is a range of different types of exhaustion. The spectrum includes—but is not limited to—physical exhaustion, feeling burnt out, bored, frustrated, and a feeling of being defeated or fed-up. Of course, it is highly likely that a parent will have some blend of a few or even all of these. Understanding what type of tiredness is plaguing you can in turn lead to picking the approach most likely to help you reconnect with the energy necessary to face the challenges of parenthood. Remember, you must secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others!

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Parenting is a tough job, but it gets enough tougher if you are parenting twins or multiples. It is becoming more common for women to deliver twins these days, with one out of every 60 births being twins. Raising twins or other multiples bring with it special challenges and special joys. Twins have a unique place in birth order, and the often display various characteristics, depending on their place in the family. To help you with this challenge, here is a look at some of the common characteristics of twins and some great parenting tips to help you along the way.

Characteristics of Twins

Sometimes it is a bit difficult to label the characteristics that twins will show. Since there is only a few minutes between the birth of twins or other multiples, often the twin that is born first does not portray traits of a first born child. After all, birth can vary depending on the delivery and babies switch positions throughout pregnancy. Usually the personalities of twins tend to develop based upon their place within a family. For example, if twins are the oldest in the family, usually the will have a few firstborn traits. If they are the youngest, they can show youngest born traits, and if they are in the middle, they often exhibit traits of the middle child. There are some cases where one twin may take on the role of the dominant older child while the other twin is a follower. However, studies show that throughout the lives of twins, traits can switch and dominance may be exchanged. Since the characteristics of twins can change and they are so hard to define, this can make it even more difficult for parents to know how to properly raise their twins to adulthood.

Effective Twins Parenting Tips

There are many differences between raising single children and raising twins. While raising twins and multiples poses a huge challenge, you can raise successful children. Here are a few effective twins parenting tips that can help you through the unique situations that face the parents of twins.

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