by Stephanie Partridge
I have been talking to some teens, or actually, I have been listening to some teens. I wanted to know what was on their minds, what was bothering them, what was impeding their relationships with their parents.
I tried asking my own kids, but they were no help. They both said, “Mom, I can’t complain. You listen to us; you respect us, when we tell you something you really hear us. You trust us, you show us you love us, you are our best friend. We have no complaints at all!”
Well, that was a big help.
So, I began talking to friends of my kids. Many of them have said that they wish they could live at my house, wish I could adopt them. I laughed at the time, but I am not laughing now. The raw pain I have witnessed as these teenagers have poured their hearts out to me is no laughing matter. These kids come from all walks of life, all economic stations. Both boys and girls, these kids have complaints that are universal – can potentially tragic.
One of the big issues that they talk about is never being good enough. No matter what they do it is never quite good enough.
One 16 year old girl I know well told me how she will spend half of the day cleaning the house while her mother is at work. She will wash dishes, sweep, mop, clean counters, and scrub everything till it shines (I know, I have seen her work), only to have her mom come home and say, “Where’s dinner?”
All the hard work this girl has done is ignored.READ More on Parenting and Your Teens Self-Esteem