Are you a card-carrying member of the Good Parent club? In order to qualify, according to modern society, we must expose our kids to activities that enhance his "portfolio". But, what happens when extracurricular activities pile up on and start to smother the child?
This phase is called burnout.
Yes, wonderful good parent, burnout can and is happening to our children globally. Things that were once adult business, like stress, anxiety and fatigue are now kid business. Elementary children are falling asleep at their desks. Overscheduled kids can't focus and get fidgety, irritable and lethargic.
Adult sponsored activities were designed to offer life-affirming opportunities. For example, football, karate and swimming are great forms of exercise. If your child is not doing well in school, the opportunity to acquire non-academic skills can enhance his self-esteem. Group activities help the shy child learn social skills.
Overscheduled kids frequently feel guilty because they believe they aren't doing enough. These are the same kids who are pressured to make top grades, make 1st chair in band, make black belt in karate and so on. Unrealistic expectations lead to stress, anxiety and depression.
Outside activities can gobble up so much time; in consequence there is NO time for family, play, downtime, sleep or friends.
This phase is called getting out of balance.
Getting Back in Balance